Como ser uma boa namorada: Eleve a fasquia com estes 20 truques simples!

A healthy relationship is a perfect combination of love, perseverance, open-mindedness, and compromise! Yeah, it seems pretty simple on paper, but in reality, it’s a whole different thing.

Todos nós queremos ser a melhor namorada/namorado do planeta, mas quando a vida se mete no caminho, pode ser complicado.

It’s almost always the little things that do you in.

The things you never see coming because they don’t seem significant at the time, but in hindsight, you realize just how crucial every single thing is in keeping a relationship alive.

So here, I’ll discuss some of those little things that will steer you clear of a break-up and make you a truly great girlfriend.

It’s not about money, luxury, and splurging. Love is so much simpler than that!

A good girlfriend knows what her guy needs without him having to say it out loud. A good girlfriend is attentive to her guy’s needs (and vice versa of course!) and she puts their love life first.

Uma boa relação depende de dois indivíduos maduros que compreendem que o verdadeiro amor significa continuar a fazer as suas próprias coisas, mas com um melhor amigo incorporado ao seu lado!

O amor verdadeiro melhora a sua auto-confiança e permite-lhe ser a sua própria pessoa, sentindo-se bem na sua própria pele.

It’s doing nice things for each other that prove you care but it doesn’t depend on constantly having to get each other stuff.

It’s those little tokens of appreciation that made you fall in love with him in the first place!

Being in a romantic relationship means willingly putting your own life in the hands of another person and knowing he’s got your back!

Even when you’re in a bad mood, your person always comes first.

A relationship works only if both partners abide by the same rules while having their partner’s best interest in mind.

If your man is someone you’d describe as a really good boyfriend, then he deserves the same from you, right?

I’m sure you’re already an amazing girlfriend in your own right but why not kick it up a notch and raise the bar so high that no one in his life could ever compare?

I know it sounds unrealistic, but once you put your mind to it, trust me, it’ll be a piece of cake and it’ll help you forge a bond so strong, even the harshest of days won’t be able to touch you.

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Como ser uma boa namorada?

It’s truly not that complex. Being the best girlfriend to your significant other is something you can do with ease if you’ve got the right values and you hold each other to certain standards.

A primeira coisa que precisa de perceber é que ser egocêntrico e não estar disposto a comprometer-se é um grande desinteresse.

You have to be able to meet your partner in the middle and work out your differences, otherwise what’s the point in even trying?

It’s no longer just you. You’ve got your man’s heart to think about now as well. If this is still a new relationship, then you’re in the right place.

Here, you’ll get a step-by-step on how to forge a strong bond and be a good girlfriend while leaving your man happy and loved.

You’ll see that the little things leave the biggest impact and that sometimes, getting him his favorite food or letting him watch basketball and simply wind down is the most effective way to make him see you truly get him.

We all just want to be seen and heard. Anticipate your man’s needs and connect with him on a level where he’ll feel beyond comfortable around you.

Let him be his own person – because that’s what a healthy relationship is about.

Duas pessoas que navegam pela vida lado a lado, cada uma delas com a sua própria vida, mas interligadas e apreciando o que a outra traz para a mesa.

Ser uma unidade forte com as vossas individualidades intactas.

To help you understand everything that goes into this, here’s a list of truly simple tips and tricks on como ser uma boa namorada e ajudar a vossa relação a resistir ao teste do tempo e a florescer.

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Don’t take him for granted

As boas namoradas sabem quando têm um bom rapaz e sabem que nunca devem tomar nada do que ele faz como garantido. Aprecie o seu homem.

Don’t think that you’re entitled to anything and be grateful when he does nice things for you.

Se ele a trata com gentileza e respeito, faça o mesmo por ele.

In today’s world, it’s rare to meet a selfless, compassionate, and genuine person who truly cares about you as a person.

If you’ve been so lucky as to meet someone of this caliber, appreciate the heck out of him. Guys like this don’t come by very often.

Ter confiança no que se tem

A good girlfriend doesn’t doubt her relationship one bit. She’s confident in what she’s built with her man and there’s no room for doubting him or the trust they’ve built.

The best girlfriends are those who radiate self-confidence, don’t talk about their love life more than necessary, and enjoy the love and adoration in their own sacred privacy.

When you know you’re with the right person, you simply don’t have a reason to question anything.

Be there even when it’s hard

Sometimes, life will be a real bitch. You’ll be on the outs, he’ll mess up, and you won’t want to listen to his side of the story.

But that’s exactly when you need to turn the other cheek and give him a chance to say what he has to say.

There are two sides to every story. If he’s a good boyfriend in all other areas, don’t give up on him at the first sight of trouble.

Não desista. Ouve. Sê uma boa namorada, compreendendo que as pessoas fazem asneiras! Tu também o farás! O que faz um bom parceiro é a capacidade de perdoar.

If you think that a healthy relationship doesn’t have its share of ups and downs then you’re in for a shocker.

There’ll be plenty of messing up and forgiving – on both parts. Have an open heart and be there even when it’s hard.

Ter a sua própria vida

Por mais espantoso e confortável que seja fazer parte de uma unidade amorosa, também pode matar uma relação sem mais nem menos.

Sim, os casais devem passar muito tempo juntos, mas também devem ser eles próprios!

Don’t forget that you had a rich life and a complete personality way before he came around.Don’t just morph into one person because you love each other.

Stay true to who you are. Don’t forget about your family, friends, and hobbies.

Knowing that you’ve got him to come home to makes it that much sweeter spending a little healthy time apart.

Faça com que ele sinta a sua falta e vice-versa. Cuide das suas próprias necessidades para que possa fazer parte de um casal e prosperar!

Faça-o sentir-se um verdadeiro homem

Listen, I’m an eternal feminist and gender equality is a no-brainer for me. With that said, it’s totally fine to let your man be the man sometimes.

They need to feel like they have control over the little things and it’s really not a big deal to help them in that department.

Deixe-o abrir aquele frasco de pickles. Deixe-o carregar a sua mala/maleta depois de uma viagem. Deixe-o fazer aquelas coisas cavalheirescas que o farão sentir-se mais homem.

He only wants to make you feel safe and taken care of. What’s wrong with that? Even the strongest women could use an even stronger hand sometimes… Just saying.

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Ser aventureiro na cama!

O que duas pessoas fazem na privacidade do seu quarto é TOTALMENTE da sua conta.

BUT… if I can offer you a little piece of advice (that has worked wonders for me!) it’s to allow yourself a little freedom in the bedroom!

I’m not saying to turn into a pornstar (all love though) if you don’t feel comfortable. Just explore your options and ask him what he likes.

You never know what you might discover in the process. What if there’s a wild beast hidden inside you just bursting to come out? He’s your man, not a stranger, so you’re safe with him.

See what he’s open to trying and give it a shot. No pressure. Just try and see where it takes you. I guarantee you he’ll be thrilled!

Don’t flirt with other dudes

How to be a good girlfriend? Simple. Don’t turn into a tease the moment there are hot guys around.

That’s an immediate turn-off and, if you ask me, shows a complete lack of respect for your boyfriend.

If you want to flirt, do it with your guy! You never know what other guys might start thinking, especially if they don’t know you’re taken.

Flirting can get you into a lot of really awkward and unnecessary situations because not every guy you flirt with knows that you’re just being a tease.

Algumas podem tentar aproximar-se de si. Evite isso, tendo olhos apenas para o seu homem.

Surpreenda-o quando ele menos espera

Se quer manter a chama viva e mantê-lo alerta, certifique-se de que nunca deixa a sua relação cair na rotina.

Do something nice and totally spontaneous when he truly doesn’t see it coming.

Plan a little romantic getaway at the first chance you’re both free.

Get an abundance of his favorite food, invite his buddies over before a big game, and let him have a guy’s night in, and even join them if you see he’d like that.

Do something really nice that’ll make him go ”God, I love this woman!” It doesn’t take a lot to make him feel happy.

As pequenas coisas são as maiores bênçãos.

Dar-lhe espaço quando ele precisa

This is important. We all have our crappy days when we just want to be left alone. And that’s well within his (and everyone else’s) right. Don’t ask questions.

Don’t nag. Don’t take it personally. It’s not you. When he’s ready, he’ll talk.

So when you see him wanting to be alone to get his shit together, leave him be. I’m sure he’d do the same for you. It might seem personal at that moment but it truly isn’t.

When he’s ready to talk, you’ll hear all about it and see that giving him his space was priceless.

We all deserve the chance to deal with our own crap in our own way. Let him come to you when he’s ready.

Ser o seu melhor amigo

Sempre pensei que era um cliché ouvir dizer que o nosso namorado é o nosso melhor amigo. Mas tendo descoberto isso mesmo, posso agora admitir que estava enganada.

If you want to be a good girlfriend, then ask yourself if you’ve been a good friend to him lately!

Yes, intimacy is important, but so is making sure that he’s happy and that you talk about his hobbies and interests as well.

Don’t neglect his life and the importance of sharing.

Be a rock if he needs you. Listen to him vent if there’s something on his mind. Just be there for him in every way possible.

It’s not a joke when they say that couples who are also best friends last the longest.

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Manter a sua vida privada privada

This one’s my personal favorite. I’m not the kind of girl who likes to share everything with everyone.

Even my closest friends don’t know every detail of my relationship because some things are simply private and sacred.

Porque é que as pessoas precisariam de saber os meandros da minha relação pessoal, que eu prezo muito?

I know there are girls who like to share everything with their girlfriends, but think about it… Do they really need to know how long he lasts in bed?

É realmente da conta deles conhecer os defeitos dele que só tu conheces?

To me, it’s completely disrespectful to share such private things. Leave some things just for the two of you. Not everyone needs to know everything.

Apreciar o que ele faz por si

He doesn’t have to buy you jewelry and expensive gifts on a regular basis to show you he cares. Money doesn’t equal love. Kindness, effort, and selflessness do.

Being there even when it’s inconvenient is what true love entails. A good girlfriend appreciates all those little efforts because she knows they’re a reflection of his big heart.

He needs to know that he’s valued. He needs to see that you hear him and see him. A good relationship includes two people who value each other’s efforts and never let the little things go unnoticed.

If he keeps doing stuff to accommodate your needs and never asks for anything in return, appreciate it. It doesn’t get better than that.

Ser leal e fiel

Não é preciso dizer (ou pelo menos deveria), mas a lealdade não tem preço. Ser fiel é da maior importância.

But these days, it seems to be an almost unattainable quality! Be a great girlfriend and show your man that he’s got nothing to worry about.

You wouldn’t think of straying and the thought of hurting him is unbearable.Even if you do get looks from other guys, stay immune to them. He needs to know that he can trust you.

And when he knows that he can, you know that you’ve hit the relationship jackpot! Trust is the basis for everything.

Without it, you’ve got nothing, but once you build it with someone, the sky is your limit.

Conhecer (e adorar) os seus amigos

His friends are some of the most important people in his life. We all have those few people in our life who aren’t blood, but who feel like family.

Make an effort to get to know those people in his life. Try to spend a little time with them. Chances are, you’ll end up really liking them as well.

And when your boyfriend sees you making a valiant effort to love his friends, he’ll appreciate it more than you can imagine. Those things mean a lot.

Sei como estou grata por o meu homem ter conhecido as minhas raparigas preferidas e ter acabado por gostar delas quase tanto como eu. Isso torna a nossa vida muito mais doce.

Ser o vento nas suas costas

Apoiem-no nos seus esforços. Encorajem-no a continuar a ultrapassar os limites. Seja o vento que o protege! Mesmo que os sonhos dele pareçam inatingíveis.

Even if he’s bit off more than he can chew. Let him do his thing and if need be, let him learn from his mistakes.

All he needs to know is that you’ve got his back. That’s what good girlfriends do! Don’t put him down and discourage him from living the life that he aspires to live.

Be supportive of his ambition and help him on his way up. But never dwindle his fire. All he needs is your support. And that’s the least you can give him.

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Perguntar sobre a sua família

His family is his world. And since you’re part of his family now too, make sure to acknowledge the other members too.

Pergunte como estão todos e ouça o que têm para dizer.

If there’s something going on, don’t pry but always offer your help in any small way that you can.
A família é tudo, nunca se esqueçam disso.

Be appreciative, kind, and attentive. If you’re eager to remain a huge part of his world, don’t forget that it already includes a lot of other people who have been there since day one.

Simply blend in and try to spend time with them. It’ll make his life that much easier seeing all of his favorite people come together.

Dizer sempre a verdade

Honesty is the best policy. Always. No matter how hard it may be or how badly it might affect you. Always choose the truth. If there’s something bothering you, tell him.

Don’t sulk in silence and expect him to read your mind. That’s child’s play. Be an adult and understand that without being honest you’ll never achieve anything.

A forma mais rápida de ultrapassar qualquer obstáculo é ser direto em relação a tudo. Sem mentiras, sem imprecisões e sem desvios.

Enfrente tudo de frente e dê a si próprio a oportunidade de lutar contra os maiores obstáculos.

As mentiras têm uma forma de nos morder o rabo, enquanto a verdade acaba sempre por compensar.

Nunca ir para a cama zangado

I cannot stress this enough. Never end the day resentful and hurt. Never allow yourself to fall asleep next to him without having talked about stuff that’ll keep you up all night.

Tome a decisão de nunca ir para a cama sem resolver o que precisa de ser resolvido. Ou, pelo menos, iniciar uma conversa sobre o assunto.

It’s crucial that you abide by this rule. Going to bed mad at each other only worsens the problem, makes you more resentful, and plays with your head. It sucks!

Conversem, partilhem, aguentem. Acredita em mim, isso faz toda a diferença.

Deixar o passado onde ele pertence

Whatever happened, happened. If you’ve worked through it and moved on, then the past should always remain in the past.

There will always be new stuff to worry about, so why bother yourself with old stuff you’ve already worked out?

I know it’s hard and that some things simply trigger you, but being mentally strong is important to last a long time in a good relationship.

Live in the present. Focus on what’s happening now. Take it one day at a time and always look ahead.

O futuro é seu e os acontecimentos passados não têm qualquer influência sobre o que acontece hoje.

Dizer-lhe que o amas sempre que puderes

Se ama o seu homem, diga-lhe, mostre-lhe, faça-o sentir! O amor não é algo que se deva esconder.

If you’ve found a guy who rocks your boat (in all the best ways), who respects you, cherishes you, and goes out of his way to please you, tell him that you love him.

So simple, yet so effective! People love hearing how loved they are. It’s what keeps them sane. It’s what makes them feel happy, valued, and motivated even on the most challenging days.

Love truly does make the world go round. I love you. Say it out loud. Doesn’t it sound just so damn good?

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