9 Sinais infalíveis de que ele está usando você para superar o término do namoro

Terminar uma relação é difícil, independentemente da decisão de quem a tomou. Ultrapassar uma rutura é ainda mais difícil.

In the period after a breakup, we all feel so strange. There are a lot of mixed feelings and that’s why we can’t think clearly and deal with our emotions in a healthy way.

Infelizmente, algumas pessoas escolhem da pior maneira possível para lidar com uma separação.

Lançam-se numa nova relação demasiado cedo, na esperança de que isso os ajude a esquecer a ex. Isto é especialmente verdade no caso dos homens.

They have their men’s pride and that’s why they won’t allow anyone to see them suffering. They want to show their exes that they aren’t hurt and that they can move on.

What they don’t understand is that they lie to themselves that way, too.

If your man does any of these things, then it means that he isn’t being honest with you about his feelings because he’s actually only dating you to get over his ex.

1. Ele disse-lhe que teve uma separação difícil

He’ll only tell you the story of his breakup once because he doesn’t want to speak about it much. His ex probably really hurt him and he doesn’t want you to think that he is still suffering because of it.

The breakup is kind of his weak spot because he just can’t make peace with the fact that he was betrayed or left behind.

2. Ele avançou demasiado depressa

Even though he had such a rough breakup, he started dating you only a few days later. It’s not possible for him to have moved on so fast.

Ele deve pensar em tudo o que aconteceu e lidar com os seus sentimentos contraditórios para poder seguir em frente corretamente. E a única forma de o fazer é estar sozinho.

Seguir em frente demasiado cedo só o vai tornar amargo ou deixá-lo com alguns problemas de confiança. That’s why you’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship with him.

3. Ele está a mostrar-se demasiado entusiasmado com a vossa relação

He wants to spend all of his free time with you. Unfortunately, this isn’t because he enjoys spending time with you. It’s because he is afraid of being alone in case his true feelings come to the surface.

Está sempre a enviar-te mensagens. Planeia algo novo para si todos os dias. Surpreende-a no seu local de trabalho. Basicamente, tenta estar sempre consigo só para se convencer de que já seguiu em frente.

4. Está sempre a falar da ex.

Sempre que vão a um restaurante onde ele foi com a ex, ou vêem um filme que eles viram, ou fazem qualquer coisa que eles fizeram antes, ele menciona isso.

5. Ele compara-a constantemente com a ex

No matter what you do or wear, it always reminds him of his ex-girlfriend. That’s because he still hasn’t left her in the past.

Começa a sentir-se stressado e inseguro. Pode até começar a comparar-se com ela.

You think that no matter what you do, you’ll never be as pretty as she is or as good as she was. Well, think twice then. If she was so good, they wouldn’t have broken up, would they?.

6. Ele comporta-se de forma estranha quando ela está por perto

Whenever you meet his ex somewhere, he starts acting so weird you don’t recognize him. It’s because he still has some unresolved issues with her.

He’s so confused around her that he actually doesn’t know how to behave.

He doesn’t pay attention to you or your feelings because the only thing that’s important to him is showing her that he isn’t suffering because of the breakup, and that he has already moved on.

7. Ele planeia aventuras para vocês os dois a toda a hora

It’s like we already said. He doesn’t want to think about the breakup or his ex, so he tries to forget about it by doing some exciting and new things with you.

Every day is a new adventure with him because it’s the only way he is able to relax and pretend that everything is fine.

8. Ele bebe para adormecer os seus sentimentos

Ele bebe mesmo quando mais ninguém está a beber. Começa a sentir-se um pouco desconfortável por causa disso. Talvez até tenha medo que ele esteja a ficar viciado.

You don’t have to be afraid or worried about your own well being. He won’t do you anything. He isn’t an addict.

Ele só bebe muito para adormecer os seus sentimentos. Isso ajuda-o a descontrair-se ao pé de si e a esquecer que ainda sente algo pela ex.

9. Ele está a usar-te como namorada troféu

Ele gosta de te exibir, como se fosses algum tipo de troféu – especially in front of his ex or some of their mutual friends.

He wants to show them that he has won in the ‘after the breakup’ game, particularly if his ex is still single.

Acorda rapariga!

You are worth so much more than being his trophy girlfriend. You don’t deserve to be with someone who is using you, you deserve someone who wants to be with you only because he loves you.