9 señales inequívocas de que te está utilizando para superar su ruptura

Terminar una relación es duro, independientemente de quién lo haya decidido. Superar una ruptura es aún más duro.

In the period after a breakup, we all feel so strange. There are a lot of mixed feelings and that’s why we can’t think clearly and deal with our emotions in a healthy way.

Por desgracia, algunas personas eligen de la peor manera posible para hacer frente a una ruptura.

Se lanzan a una nueva relación demasiado pronto, con la esperanza de que les ayude a olvidar a su ex. Esto es especialmente cierto en el caso de los hombres.

They have their men’s pride and that’s why they won’t allow anyone to see them suffering. They want to show their exes that they aren’t hurt and that they can move on.

What they don’t understand is that they lie to themselves that way, too.

If your man does any of these things, then it means that he isn’t being honest with you about his feelings because he’s actually only dating you to get over his ex.

1. Te dijo que tuvo una ruptura dura

He’ll only tell you the story of his breakup once because he doesn’t want to speak about it much. His ex probably really hurt him and he doesn’t want you to think that he is still suffering because of it.

The breakup is kind of his weak spot because he just can’t make peace with the fact that he was betrayed or left behind.

2. Avanzó demasiado rápido

Even though he had such a rough breakup, he started dating you only a few days later. It’s not possible for him to have moved on so fast.

Debe pensar en todo lo que ha pasado y enfrentarse a sus sentimientos encontrados para poder seguir adelante como es debido. Y la única forma de hacerlo es estando solo.

Pasar página demasiado pronto sólo le amargará o le dejará con problemas de confianza. That’s why you’ll never be able to have a healthy relationship with him.

3. Está demasiado entusiasmado con vuestra relación

He wants to spend all of his free time with you. Unfortunately, this isn’t because he enjoys spending time with you. It’s because he is afraid of being alone in case his true feelings come to the surface.

Te manda mensajes constantemente. Planea algo nuevo para ti cada día. Te sorprende en tu lugar de trabajo. Básicamente, intenta estar contigo todo el tiempo para convencerse de que ha pasado página.

4. No para de hablar de su ex

Cada vez que estáis en un restaurante al que fue con su ex, o veis una película que ellos vieron, o hacéis cualquier cosa que ellos hicieran antes, él lo menciona.

5. Te compara constantemente con su ex

No matter what you do or wear, it always reminds him of his ex-girlfriend. That’s because he still hasn’t left her in the past.

Empiezas a sentirte estresado e inseguro. Puede que incluso empieza a compararte con ella.

You think that no matter what you do, you’ll never be as pretty as she is or as good as she was. Well, think twice then. If she was so good, they wouldn’t have broken up, would they?.

6. Se comporta de forma extraña cuando ella está cerca

Whenever you meet his ex somewhere, he starts acting so weird you don’t recognize him. It’s because he still has some unresolved issues with her.

He’s so confused around her that he actually doesn’t know how to behave.

He doesn’t pay attention to you or your feelings because the only thing that’s important to him is showing her that he isn’t suffering because of the breakup, and that he has already moved on.

7. Él planea aventuras para ustedes dos todo el tiempo

It’s like we already said. He doesn’t want to think about the breakup or his ex, so he tries to forget about it by doing some exciting and new things with you.

Every day is a new adventure with him because it’s the only way he is able to relax and pretend that everything is fine.

8. Bebe para adormecer sus sentimientos

Bebe incluso cuando nadie más bebe. Empiezas a sentirte un poco incómodo por ello. Puede que incluso tengas miedo de que se esté volviendo adicto.

You don’t have to be afraid or worried about your own well being. He won’t do you anything. He isn’t an addict.

Sólo bebe mucho para adormecer sus sentimientos. Le ayuda a relajarse contigo y a olvidar que aún siente algo por su ex.

9. Te está usando como novia trofeo

Le gusta presumir de ti, como si fueras algún tipo de trofeo – especially in front of his ex or some of their mutual friends.

He wants to show them that he has won in the ‘after the breakup’ game, particularly if his ex is still single.

Despierta chica!

You are worth so much more than being his trophy girlfriend. You don’t deserve to be with someone who is using you, you deserve someone who wants to be with you only because he loves you.