10 sinais de que estás a ser demasiado disponível e isso está a afastá-lo

Have you ever heard the saying that we’re never too busy for the people we love? While that’s true, the problem is that we actually take those words too seriously.

It’s true that you have to be there for your partner whenever he needs you.

However, that doesn’t mean that you should neglect your personal interests or some other important people in your life and become too available for your man.

Tem de estabelecer e respeitar alguns limites pessoais. Tens de lhe mostrar que tens uma vida para além da tua relação.

Acredite, às vezes é preciso fazer-se de difícil, porque não tem piada nenhuma estar sempre demasiado disponível para o seu homem.

Sometimes love can make you blind and it may be hard to realize you’re being too available for your significant other, but here are some sure-fire signs that you should watch out for.

1. Organiza o seu tempo de acordo com o horário dele

Tem o seu trabalho, talvez alguns passatempos, a sua família e amigos. Tem tantas coisas para fazer todos os dias mas, mesmo assim, organiza o seu tempo como o seu namorado quer ou de acordo com o horário dele.

Mesmo nos dias mais ocupados, tem sempre tempo para falar ou estar com ele. Para ti, nada é tão importante como ele. Nem mesmo a tua família ou os teus amigos.

2. Telefona-lhe sempre primeiro

You are deeply in love with him and no matter how much time you’ve spent together, you start missing him the moment he leaves.

You miss him whenever he isn’t around. That’s why you always call him first. You always initiate contact because you just want to hear his voice or see how his day was.

Pousa o telefone e esperar que ele dê telefonar-lhe por uma vez. Tem de ver se ele também sente a sua falta e se lhe telefonaria só para saber como foi o seu dia.

Deixa-o perseguir-te, para variar.  

3. Responde imediatamente às suas mensagens

Each time you get a text from him, you reply to it instantly as if you’ve been waiting for it all day. You even apologize to him every time you don’t reply immediately.

You’re so happy when he texts you that no matter what you are doing or how busy you are, you’ll always make time to chat with him.

4. As tuas amizades estão a sofrer

It’s not a problem for you to bail on your friends every time he reschedules. You want to show him that you always have time for him even though it may cost you your friendships. 

If you think that he’ll appreciate it, you’re wrong. All he’ll see is how easy it is for you to bail and let the people you love down.

5. Aceita os seus convites de última hora

Convidar alguém à última da hora é rude e desrespeitoso. Sei que gosta de passar tempo com ele, mas devia obrigá-lo a respeitar os seus limites.

Don’t be afraid to reject him. Make him realize that you are no one’s option. Also, tell him that you have your own life and that you can’t reschedule your daily obligations to suit him. 

6. Esquece-se dos seus limites pessoais

Os limites saudáveis são bons para todas as relações. Se quer que a sua relação seja duradoura, tem de estabelecer alguns limites e o seu parceiro deve respeitá-las.

If your partner crosses the line, you don’t get mad because you don’t want to initiate a fight in your relationship.

7. Conta-lhe todos os seus segredos

Even though you don’t know him very well, you reveal all your secrets to him. You think that he shares the same feelings for you and that he’ll keep your secrets safe.

Whenever something new happens, he is the first person you tell. Be careful, you may reveal some things he won’t like.

8. Estão de acordo em tudo

You are different and it’s only natural that you have different perspectives and opinions about some things. However, you forget this and start agreeing with him about everything.

The word NO isn’t in your vocabulary anymore. You agree with everything your partner says because you are so in love with him that you are afraid to say NO to him.

You don’t want to express your opinions because you’re afraid that it might cause a conflict and that he’ll leave you.  

9. Tornar-se dependente dele

You want to be with him all the time because you are sad when you don’t see him even for a day. You can’t plan anything anymore without including him in your plans. 

Até começa a pedir-lhe conselhos sobre o seu trabalho, ou talvez comece a pedir-lhe permissão para fazer coisas. Deve saber que este tipo de comportamento numa relação está apenas a um passo de uma relação tóxica. 

10. You don’t want to date anyone else even though you aren’t official yet

Even though you haven’t still defined your relationship, you don’t want to date other people. You are ready to wait for him to decide whether he is ready for a relationship or not, even if it takes a while.

If you’re doing some of these things, then I have to tell you only one thing: ter uma vida fora da vossa relação.

Afinal de contas, mostra-se às pessoas how they’ll treat you. If you make yourself too available for them at the beginning of your relationship, they’ll always expect the same behavior from you.