Só porque estás apaixonada, não quer dizer que ele seja a pessoa certa

Desde pequena que sonhava em encontrar o verdadeiro amor.

Nevertheless, you didn’t want an ordinary kind of love.

Queriam um amor que consumisse tudo, um amor intemporal que durasse uma vida inteira.

Um tipo de amor que tem o poder de derrotar todos os obstáculos e enfrentar todos os desafios.

O tipo de amor que se vê nos filmes e se lê nos contos de fadas.

You wanted your Prince Charming – someone who will rock your world and never fail to remind you como é que as borboletas se sentem.

And you weren’t ready to settle for less.

Querias fogo de artifício e paixão, não uma vida aborrecida com alguém que mal suportas mas que é bom para ti no papel.

Recusaste-te a deixar que a tua mente te conduzisse nestes assuntos do coração e nunca duvidaste dos teus caminhos.

Agora, depois de todo este tempo, sente finalmente tudo aquilo com que sonhava.

You’ve finally found a man who rocks your world and has awakened every possible emotion inside of you.

At last you’ve met a man who makes you tremble every time you see him – one who moves the floor beneath you every time he looks at you and you’re convinced you’ll love for the rest of your life.

There’s no doubt – you’re head over heels for this guy.

He makes you feel more alive than ever and you don’t want this sensation to ever stop.

However, you’re not a little girl anymore and real life is nothing like a fairytale.

Sim, não querer aceitar nada menos do que o amor verdadeiro e procurar o romance é fantástico, mas a dura verdade é que, por vezes, o amor simplesmente não é suficiente, as much as we’d like it to be.

Just because you’re in love with a man, it doesn’t make him the right one for you.

It doesn’t necessarily make him your soulmate or forever person.

That isn’t to say that the two of you will automatically have a happy life together just because you share strong chemistry and intense emotions, nor does it mean that he’s someone you could grow old next to or that you would get along with.

Detesto ter de vos estragar a cabeça, mas há coisas mais importantes a ter em conta quando se planeia um futuro com alguém.

Há muitas outras qualidades que o seu homem certo deve ter para além de ser adorável.

O que precisa de fazer é tirar os seus óculos de sol cor-de-rosa e começar a ver este homem como ele realmente é.

É o seu melhor amigo para além do seu amante? É fiável e digno de confiança?

Realisticamente, será ele um homem que a merece e que lhe pode dar tudo o que precisa?

O tipo de homem com quem gostaria que a sua filha ou irmã casasse?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to look for perfection because something like that doesn’t exist and, let’s face it, you also have your share of flaws.

That said, your feelings can’t be the only criteria when it comes to choosing your forever person.

No, you shouldn’t settle for a loveless relationship either just because you think someone is a good catch or he’d suit you well.

To be honest, a man can be the greatest guy in the world, but if you don’t love him, you’ll never be happy beside him.

However, if a man doesn’t respect you as a woman and as his partner, doesn’t appreciate your sacrifices, doesn’t make you feel safe, doesn’t treat you as his equal and, most importantly, if you two aren’t compatible and can’t seem to reach a compromise regarding important life issues, all of your emotions mean nothing because they won’t be able to defeat your differences. 

Basicamente, love is crucial – nobody can argue with that – but it can’t make up for everything else. 

Therefore, if you love a man but don’t have all of the above, I hate to disappoint you, but it’s time to desistir dele.

I know it’s not easy to go against your heart, but trust me, it’s better to do it in time before it becomes too late.

Even though it doesn’t seem that way at this moment, I assure you that you will manage to overcome these emotions you’re having right now.

Not only that, sometime in the future, you’ll be grateful to yourself for making the right choice, if you come to the conclusion that this is not the guy for you.

And once you find a man with whom you experience both love and compatibility, you’ll be proud of the fact that you were strong enough to defeat yourself, despite it being one of the hardest things you ever had to do.