Solo perché siete innamorati, non significa che sia quello giusto

Fin da quando eri una bambina, sognavi di trovare il vero amore.

Nevertheless, you didn’t want an ordinary kind of love.

Volevate un amore totalizzante, senza tempo, che durasse tutta la vita.

Un tipo di amore che ha il potere di sconfiggere ogni ostacolo e affrontare ogni sfida.

Il tipo di amore che si vede nei film e si legge nelle favole.

You wanted your Prince Charming – someone who will rock your world and never fail to remind you Come si sentono le farfalle.

And you weren’t ready to settle for less.

Volevate fuochi d'artificio e passione, non una vita noiosa con qualcuno che sopportate a malapena ma che sulla carta vi va bene.

Avete rifiutato che la vostra mente vi guidasse in queste questioni di cuore e non avete mai dubitato delle vostre vie.

Ora, dopo tutto questo tempo, finalmente sentite tutto ciò che stavate sognando.

You’ve finally found a man who rocks your world and has awakened every possible emotion inside of you.

At last you’ve met a man who makes you tremble every time you see him – one who moves the floor beneath you every time he looks at you and you’re convinced you’ll love for the rest of your life.

There’s no doubt – you’re head over heels for this guy.

He makes you feel more alive than ever and you don’t want this sensation to ever stop.

However, you’re not a little girl anymore and real life is nothing like a fairytale.

Sì, non voler accettare niente di meno del vero amore e cercare il romanticismo è fantastico, ma la dura verità è che, a volte, è così, l'amore non è sufficiente, as much as we’d like it to be.

Just because you’re in love with a man, it doesn’t make him the right one for you.

It doesn’t necessarily make him your soulmate or forever person.

That isn’t to say that the two of you will automatically have a happy life together just because you share strong chemistry and intense emotions, nor does it mean that he’s someone you could grow old next to or that you would get along with.

Mi dispiace rompere la vostra bolla di sapone, ma ci sono cose più importanti da cercare quando si pianifica un futuro con qualcuno.

Ci sono molte altre qualità che il vostro uomo giusto dovrebbe avere oltre all'essere amabile.

Quello che deve fare è togliersi gli occhiali da sole colorati di rosa e iniziare a vedere quest'uomo per quello che è veramente.

È il vostro migliore amico oltre che il vostro amante? È affidabile e degno di fiducia?

Realisticamente, è un uomo che ti merita e che può darti tutto ciò di cui hai bisogno?

Il tipo di uomo che vorreste che vostra figlia o vostra sorella sposasse?

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not telling you to look for perfection because something like that doesn’t exist and, let’s face it, you also have your share of flaws.

That said, your feelings can’t be the only criteria when it comes to choosing your forever person.

No, you shouldn’t settle for a loveless relationship either just because you think someone is a good catch or he’d suit you well.

To be honest, a man can be the greatest guy in the world, but if you don’t love him, you’ll never be happy beside him.

However, if a man doesn’t respect you as a woman and as his partner, doesn’t appreciate your sacrifices, doesn’t make you feel safe, doesn’t treat you as his equal and, most importantly, if you two aren’t compatible and can’t seem to reach a compromise regarding important life issues, all of your emotions mean nothing because they won’t be able to defeat your differences. 

In pratica, love is crucial – nobody can argue with that – but it can’t make up for everything else. 

Therefore, if you love a man but don’t have all of the above, I hate to disappoint you, but it’s time to rinunciare a lui.

I know it’s not easy to go against your heart, but trust me, it’s better to do it in time before it becomes too late.

Even though it doesn’t seem that way at this moment, I assure you that you will manage to overcome these emotions you’re having right now.

Not only that, sometime in the future, you’ll be grateful to yourself for making the right choice, if you come to the conclusion that this is not the guy for you.

And once you find a man with whom you experience both love and compatibility, you’ll be proud of the fact that you were strong enough to defeat yourself, despite it being one of the hardest things you ever had to do.