10 señales de que tu novio planea seguir siendo un mocoso inmaduro

Ser emocionalmente inmaduro no tiene por qué durar siempre. Quizá sólo sea una fase que dure poco tiempo.

Maybe he’s survived some kind of a trauma, and he doesn’t know how to deal with it.

Whatever is at stake, you don’t have to judge him right away. First, you have to find a way to help him. Try to be there for him because he really won’t ask you to.

Try to let him know that you are there, but don’t be too pushy because you’ll only push him away.

Este es el primer escenario, pero el segundo es que él es así y no piensa cambiar. Le gusta que se haga todo por él. Le gusta ese tipo de atención, así que realmente no tiene necesidad de cambiar las cosas.

If you don’t want to spend the rest of your life living with a spoiled brat that wants everything done his way, pay attention to these signs that he is not planning on changing.

Él realmente sabe cómo ser malo a veces

His jokes sometimes really hurt. This only shows that he doesn’t care, and he is not planning on changing.

He doesn’t care about your feelings, and he feels it’s funny to make jokes which are simply not appropriate. Either he is doing it on purpose or he has no idea he’s haciéndote daño.

If you take it either way, it’s bad.

Se guarda sus sentimientos

Se supone que las relaciones consisten en compartir sentimientos y no tener miedo a ser vulnerable delante de la persona a la que amas.

You have nothing to hide from that person, and you’re supposed to be completely open with them. But, he doesn’t seem to act that way.

He keeps things to himself, and he deals with his problems all by himself. Don’t get me wrong, that is great for a single guy, but a man in a relationship has to understand that he is not alone anymore.

There is no longer “I”—it’s “us” now.

He doesn’t keep his promises

He’ll promise you so many things. And maybe even in that moment, he really means it, but as the moment goes by, he forgets it. You’re no longer important to him. Well, at least not as important as he himself.

That is real emotional immaturity. He says a lot of things to keep you calm and satisfied, but he doesn’t do anything about it. He is too selfish for that. He only cares about himself.

No es bueno con el dinero

He doesn’t know how to manage money. He doesn’t know how to save it. It’s not so much that he doesn’t know as he doesn’t really want to learn how to. He never had to take care of the finances.

He spends as much money as he has. It’s pure irresponsibility. Today, he is being irresponsible regarding money. The next day, it’ll be something even more serious.

You just can’t trust such a man.

Se aburre muy pronto

Nothing can hold his attention for that long because once again, he doesn’t care about anything but himself. He needs constant entertainment in order to stay in contact with you.

Don’t you just hate when you talk to someone and they keep scrolling through their phones? That is a classic sign of emotional immaturity.

You won’t be able to have serious conversations with him because that is extremely boring for him. He’ll just try to find a way to loosen things up by cracking a joke.

Now, isn’t it frustrating if you have a problem, and you want him to listen to you and give you advice, and he does completely the opposite? He wants to get off the topic instead of staying on it.

He doesn’t care about your feelings

If you’re sad and a bit under the weather, of course he’ll see it. But he won’t care. He has his own plans, and he doesn’t want to change or cancel them because you’re feeling down.

He’s just self-centered, and he doesn’t want to be bothered with the feelings you’re experiencing as long as he is fine.

Pero cuando tiene un problema, el mundo entero tiene que pararse porque necesita ayuda.

He’s never the one to blame

Mature people don’t pretend to forget something they’ve done or said. Mature people know when and how to say they’re sorry. But immature brats, mama’s boys will never admit they’ve done something wrong.

They will never apologize because they think they are always right, and that is just impossible. Even if you are as smart as hell, you can’t be right all the time.

Se niega a asumir la responsabilidad de sus actos y eso significa que tú tienes que ser la culpable. ¿De verdad quieres cubrirle el culo y aguantar su mierda el resto de tu vida?

He’e emotionally dependent

Esto significa que pide mucho y no da nada a cambio. Él es capaz de drenar emocionalmente y dar absolutamente nada a cambio.

He’s sucking your energy dry, leaving you empty, and becoming cheerful and full of life himself. That makes you feel like an hollow shell all the time. And when you recharge, he does the same thing again.

He’s too close to his mom

It really doesn’t look like a healthy relationship. It’s a one thing to love your mother and talk to her, visit her, but it’s completely another thing when you are an adult who is incapable of living without your mother meddling in your life.

He has no problem with borrowing money from his mother and never paying her back because he knows he doesn’t have to, or canceling on you to go and spend time with her. Theses mean that he is still so dependent on his mother.

And at his age, that is just not healthy. It means he’s emotionally immature and probably will never grow up.

Le asusta el compromiso

He’ll start panicking instantly if you just mention children or commitment. Why? Because he knows that if he commits, he is in it for real. There is no more time or space to be selfish and self-centered.

Y eso es algo a lo que no está dispuesto a renunciar. Todavía no. Esto es definitivamente una enorme bandera roja de que él no está planeando cambiar, y que definitivamente deberías dejarlo y seguir adelante con tu vida.