12 señales de una mujer controladora
¿Tu mujer intenta controlarte? ¿Eres o te has convertido en una mujer controladora?
Cada mujer es diferente. Algunas tenemos personalidad de ser demasiado emocionales, testarudas, imprudentes, confusas, amables, etcétera. Pero también hay mujeres que muestran un comportamiento controlador.
Controlar el comportamiento significa tener constantemente la necesidad de tenerlo todo bajo control; asegurarse de que todo sale como se imagina.
Las personas que ejercen el control tienen sus propios métodos para hacer que los demás obedezcan y hagan lo que ellos quieren.
It’s really difficult to get along with them, and that is why conflicts become inevitable.
But, there’s one thing we should all be aware off:El comportamiento controlador es un trastorno. No es un comportamiento adquirido. Se denomina Trastorno Obsesivo Compulsivo de la Personalidad (TOCP), y el tratamiento suele consistir en una terapia de conversación.
Por lo tanto, si crees que tu mujer ha empezado a controlarte, no la culpes.
No lo hace porque quiera hacerte sentir miserable.
She is doing it because she’s going through the stages of a personality disorder, and here are 12 signs confirming it.
12 señales de una mujer controladora
Te aísla de tus amigos y familia
Puede que se queje del tiempo que pasa con alguien de su familia o con sus amigos (sobre todo si son mujeres).
Lo hace porque inconscientemente está intentando borrar todo tu apoyo para que te debilites.
When you’re not that much surrounded by others, you become distant with them, and that way, it is easier to control your behavior.
Por ejemplo, cuando te diga que debes comportarte de una determinada manera o cambiar algunas cosas, no tendrás a nadie con quien hablarlo para ver sus opiniones respecto a lo que te ha dicho.
Te critica constantemente
No importa lo que hagas, ella siempre encuentra algo que hiciste mal.
No matter how much you try, you will always miss something that she will use against you. But, don’t get me wrong. Criticizing is good but to a certain degree.
En este contexto, criticar se considera una poderosa arma de manipulación.
Hace que la otra persona se sienta infravalorada e inaceptada. Así que, si tu mujer te critica constantemente por las cosas más insignificantes, debes saber que no es sano.
Conduce a una enorme brecha entre dos personas, y es un destructor seguro de una buena relación.
Te amenaza
She threatens that she will leave you if you don’t change some things regarding your behavior.
Also, she might threaten that she will harm herself if you leave her. It’s a double-edged sword, and it is hard to think clearly in a situation like this.
Threatening is another powerful weapon when it comes to controlling other people’s behavior.
It works on the principle: “If you don’t do this, I will make you feel bad for not doing it.” This also includes emotional manipulation like tears, playing the victim, etc.
She makes you feel like you’re not good enough
She is constantly pointing out your flaws, making you feel like you’re not good enough, and you’ll never be no matter what you do. No matter how hard you try to make things better, there will be another reason why you’ll never be able to improve yourself.
No apoya tus sueños y deseos porque eso significaría que tienes otros intereses, excepto ella.
Lo hace porque quiere toda tu atención y moldearte según sus preferencias.
And that is only doable if you’re constantly reminded that you need to work on yourself in order to be accepted.
She doesn’t reciprocate
You can’t remember the last time she did something for you. It is always about her desires and wishes, and it is always about you doing something for her.
Lo espera todo de ti, pero no está dispuesta a darte el mismo trato.
Reciprocity is the key to a happy relationship, and if your woman is depriving you of your right to receive what you’ve given, know that you’re in a controlling, unhealthy environment in which she forces you to think that you don’t deserve the same treatment you’re giving others.
Te hace sentir culpable de todo
When something bad happens, you’re guilty. She accuses you of being guilty for every major and minor occurrence without any valid proof.
Una mujer controladora hace esto para mantener el poder sobre ti porque si te sientes culpable, siempre estarás en un estado de alerta que te empujará a mejorar.
La culpa se utiliza como una herramienta que te obligará a hacer cualquier cosa para librarte de ese sentimiento.
The feeling of guilt entraps you, and it forces you to become a completely different person, doing things you normally wouldn’t only to wash away your sins.
Te hace sentir en deuda con ella
Al darte algunas cosas o hacer algo por ti, una mujer controladora a veces crea la sensación de que esperas algo.
Puede que te compre algo que siempre has querido o que te alimente con su cariño y afecto sólo para usarlo después en tu contra.
She might make you feel in debt to her for everything she’s done for you because her ulterior motives were related to controlling or this just becomes her weapon when she starts craving your attention.
Exige conocer hasta el más mínimo detalle de todo
Siempre exige que le digas adónde vas y cuánto tiempo vas a estar allí.
También exige hasta el más mínimo detalle sobre el lugar al que fuiste o la gente con la que te acompañaste.
Sometimes, she even spies on you by checking your social networks when you leave your phone in the vicinity or demands that you show her what you’ve been posting. And if you refuse to do so, she will start doubting even more.
She does this because she feels insecure and doesn’t trust anyone around you.
Por eso le urge saberlo todo y tenerlo todo bajo control.
Te priva de tu libertad porque ella misma se siente atrapada.
Es demasiado celosa
It doesn’t matter if you’ve exchanged a few messages with your female colleague at work or with your female friend.
Al instante se convierte en demasiado celoso for no apparent reason, and she demands that you convince her you are not hiding anything, and you’ve got nothing with these women.
Her jealousy makes her go crazy. You also might have witnessed the act of her jealousy in public where she was pushing you to admit to her you did something that you didn’t.
Cada interacción que tienes con la especie femenina es una amenaza potencial a sus ojos, e inmediatamente empieza a reaccionar ante ella.
She doesn’t respect your opinions and the need for alone time
Whatever you say to her, you are simply not right. She doesn’t respect your opinions on certain matters because she believes only in herself and needs to have everything under control.
You try to convince her that sometimes she’s just not right about something, but all of your efforts always end up in vain.
Also, you are never “allowed” to have alone time because she sees it as you being unwilling to spend time with her (even if you’ve spent a lot of time with her beforehand).
She doesn’t respect your necesidad de tiempo a solas, and when you tell her that you need to be alone, she starts suspecting that something’s wrong.
Se burla de ti sólo para reírse de ti
A veces se burla de ti about your appearance or about something you’ve done.
But, she doesn’t do it in a playful way. Her teasing is directed to making you mad and guilty of doing something.
The aim of this is to trigger your brain to think that you’re not good enough and to start looking for solutions.
She’s making you doubt yourself
Sueñas con una carrera de cantante o algo que no sea tan corriente, y ella nunca se esfuerza por apoyarte.
She’s making you doubt your skills again, reminding you that you’re not qualified for a certain position or activity.
Al hacerlo, controla tus deseos y anhelos, con lo que también controla tu futuro.
