6 cosas que te pasan cuando por fin conoces a un buen chico

You’ve probably been through hell and back. You’re done—no more dating. It’s not worth your tears.  You’ve had some long monologues within your four lonesome walls—struggles which went deep into the night— and you’ve made the decision you’re never going to let anyone hurt you—ever again! 

You’ve made the decision that you are better than that. You’ve made the decision that you are stronger than that.

Dijiste que no to all the insulting words screamed at you…

Dijiste que no to all the punches you’ve received…

Dijiste que no to being the last one on the list…anybody’s list…

Dijiste que no para faltar al respeto.

But although you’ve buried that part of your life forever—although you’ve ‘buried’ him for good—you can’t stop your past from haunting you. It’s nearly impossible to recover from such a mistake that is him—although he’s gone forever.  

Even now, you wake at night covered in cold sweat because you’ve dreamed about him. You relived the horror that was your life once. Right after you become aware of your reality, after you fully wake up, you realize that he’s gone and that you’re safe.  

But, it’s the same thing in the morning. His harsh and cold words are coming back to you with a piercing noise drilling inside your head. You’re getting the chills—you’re getting sick.  

Not a day passes by without you imagining seeing his face from the distance. It’s a horrible feeling. You start to panic. You start shaking. You’re desperately seeking a way out of running into him.

Then you look again—it’s not him. The guy you’ve mistaken him for doesn’t even look like him.

You are seeing him everywhere because you are still afraid he’s going to find you and hurt you once again.

But you should know that every story has a twist—for you, it’s a happy twist. For you, it’s someone who will take you and nurture you into health. For you, it’s someone who will amarte incondicionalmente.

For you, it’s someone who will teach you how to love and how to start trusting again.

He will…

1. Mostrarte apoyo y desafiarte

Te animará a decir lo que piensas libremente. Se asegurará de que sepas que todo lo que hagas o quieras hacer es importante. Sabe que su apoyo es lo que más necesitas.

You were put down, called names, screamed at so many times that you’ve lost your self-confidence and self-worth. He knows how to bring those things back.

He is aware than he needs to challenge you on all levels—he needs you to realize that you can be even better than you already are. He needs you to understand that you are competent to do anything.

Accept what he’s got to offer because he is the one who will make everything better—él es en quien puedes confiar.

2. Respetarte

He will respect your opinions and he will never tell you to shut up. He is going to respect you every single day and every minute of every day. He will never tell you he’s going to meet you and then bail on you. He will respect you. Period.

You’ve never experienced this kind of treatment before. Don’t be confused and afraid. It’s not that you are privileged to be treated like this—you are only getting what you should have gotten a long time ago. Give in to this amazing feeling and embrace it—you deserve it.

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3.  Always keep his word.

This is the kind of a guy who you can trust. If he says he’s going to do something, he is. Forget about all that mistreatment and false, empty words you’ve been hearing for so long.

Olvídate de ser siempre la última de su lista. Este chico nunca te dejará de repente para salir con sus amigos en cuanto le llamen.

Este chico es de fiar y ten por seguro que te quiere y que nunca te decepcionará ni te hará daño.

4. Enseñarte a quererte de nuevo

Due to all the horrific things you’ve been through, it’s no wonder that you forgot how to love and respect yourself.

Tienes que saberlo si quieres permitirte amar a alguien, primero tienes que quererte a ti mismo. Tienes que recuperar la fe en ti mismo.

Este chico te ayudará a convertirte en la mujer que sabes que necesitas ser.

5. Mostrarte el lado real del amor

Although your abuser swore on his life that he loves you, you know that’s not true. How can you love someone and make them feel like a worthless nothing at the same time?

Eso no es amor. Eso es necesidad. Tu agresor te necesitaba para descargar en ti sus inseguridades y su insatisfacción.

This guy will show you the real side of love. He will introduce you to some new and strange feelings you’ve never experienced before. Actually, they are not strange at all. They are completely normal, just not to you.

Maybe you won’t be able to understand those feelings right away but don’t worry because this new good guy knows that, and he’s going to be patient.

6. Voy a enseñarte a confiar de nuevo

In time, you’ll learn to trust him. He is going to be very patient with you. You have to remember that his task is not an easy one—having all that love to give to someone who is not ready to receive it, yet. But he’ll wait.

Bit by bit, he will be closer to his goal. Soon enough, you’ll start to open up to him and show him your vulnerable side—you’ll start trusting him because you know now that he won’t ever hurt you.

Don’t lose hope!

One day a good guy will come and he will tear down that wall you’ve built around you.

He’ll show you what real love is—he’ll love you the way you deserve.

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