7 razones por las que se comprometió con otra chica después de salir contigo

Estoy seguro de que conoces la famosa frase: "No te pasa nada, soy yo".

De hecho, esto me pasó a mí y también a algunas de mis amigas, que estuvieron saliendo con un chico durante unas semanas y todo parecía perfecto.

Estaban seguros al cien por cien de que establecerían una saludable, relación comprometida (como yo).

And then, all of a sudden, the guy told them that he didn’t want anything serious. To be more specific, the guy told them that he was NOT INTERESTED in anything serious.

Lord knows when someone tells me this, I instantly withdraw and respect their opinion because I’m definitely not desperate and neither are my friends. But what happened next is what actually caught my attention.

Poco después de decir que no estaban interesados en nada serio, todos y cada uno de ellos estaban en una relación seria y comprometida. ¡Qué ironía!

Al principio, mi único deseo era borrar a toda la especie masculina del planeta, pero luego llegué a una solución más racional.

Since there’s no point in holding grudges forever, my friends and I decided to look at things from a different perspective.

We tried to understand and explain this phenomenon of the guy ‘who wants something casual’ but then commits to the next girl and if you’re going through the same, here are 7 possible reasons why he committed to another girl after going casual with you!

He does want commitment, he just doesn’t want it with you

I know it sounds harsh but sometimes it’s the truth. Many guys out there really do want commitment but with the right one. Now, what does this mean?

This definitely doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you should have changed for him only to make him commit to you. No.

It means you just weren’t meant to be together and there’s no point in blaming him for committing to the next girl.

En realidad, deberías darle las gracias por no comprometerse contigo porque te acaba de ahorrar mucha ansiedad y te ha evitado un desengaño aún más doloroso.

No tiene ni idea de lo que quiere

And there’s this other category of guys who have no idea what they really want. To me, personally, this is the worst one.

Cuando un chico no tiene ni idea de lo que quiere, con quién lo quiere, cuándo o cómo, las posibilidades de que la cague son realmente altas.

Y por no mencionar que ser indecisa es un gran rechazo para cualquier mujer. Así que, si te dijo una cosa un día y otra al siguiente, ya sabes que no tenía ni idea de lo que realmente quería (y puedes alabar al Señor por haberlo dejado).

E incluso si decidiera comprometerse contigo, pronto probablemente cambiaría de opinión y repetiría los mismos escenarios una y otra vez. Quiero decir, ¿quién necesita esto en su vida? Exactamente nadie.

Ya estaba viendo a alguien más

Here’s an interesting one. There are some guys who, due to being indecisive or just due to being the ultimate assholes, choose to date two girls simultaneously (of course, without telling them this). You can probably guess the rest of the scenario.

Salió con las dos y de repente se dio cuenta de que le gustaba más la otra chica, así que decidió comprometerse con ella y abandonarte.

Ah, el mundo en que vivimos. También puedes interpretar esto como su falta de voluntad para herir tus sentimientos o su falta de voluntad para ser atrapado en el acto. Tú eliges.

Era el momento equivocado

Y a veces las cosas van muy bien, pero no es el momento adecuado. Tal vez algo sucedió en su vida que cambió su perspectiva sobre las relaciones en el momento en que estaba contigo. Y cuando conoció a la otra chica, el momento era el adecuado.

Again, I would link this one with the first one that says you just weren’t meant to be. After all, when two people are bound to be together, there is just no wrong time.

Y si está mal, seguramente volverían a encontrarse cuando sea el momento adecuado. Visto así, parece bastante razonable.

He’s facing external pressure

Believe it or not, sometimes guys are facing external pressure from their friends or family. Sometimes the people close to them don’t really like the girl they are dating, so they feel pressured to quit things.

If you’ve noticed that any of this was going on, then this could be the reason why he committed to another girl after going casual with you.

Again, if this is the reason why he did that, it only shows his weakness and fickleness. It means he doesn’t trust himself and he dances to other people’s tunes.

Now, I’m not saying that he should never listen to his friends and family no matter what. Indeed he should but he should also listen to himself as well and that is the main characteristic of real men.

Sus asociaciones con el compromiso cambiaron después de perderte

When you mention the word ‘commitment’ to any guy, he will see it as something imprisoning. Boys and young men are encouraged to have fun, explore the world and only after to settle down to commit.

And if the guy you were dating didn’t go through any of this, he will feel imprisoned with you and he will tell you that he is not interested in or ready for anything serious.

And after he’s had his fun and explored the world, his associations with commitment will change. So, when he meets the next suitable girl, he will choose to commit to her because he feels he’s finally ready for it.

He really didn’t want commitment but the right one came along

And the last but not the least. There are some guys who really didn’t want commitment, not with you or with any others but somehow the right one came along after you.

If this is the case, you can’t really blame him because he was consistent in his decision that he didn’t want commitment but then he was kind of forced to change his mind because he finally met the right one.

And I can assure you that the same will happen to you sooner than you think and you will be happy that things didn’t work out with the guy who refused to commit.

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