¿Cómo emplea su tiempo?

How we spend our time says a lot about who we are… or, so it’s been said. So, we should choose to spend it wisely. Sólo tenemos tiempo para hacer todo lo que queremos.

Often, we teeter between having way too much on our plates and having nothing to do. In the moments we are crazy busy, there seems to be no end in sight. Our to-do list seems to be impossibly long. We’re sure we’ll never be able to accomplish it all. We hustle to work our way through it only to find this causes us to crash and burn.

When we finally cross out that last must-do, we are exhausted and don’t feel up to doing much of anything. All we want to do is rest and we sit there dreading the next round of chaos. Or, perhaps, we’ve forgotten altogether how to relax, so we’re stuck in a state of high alert, anxiously waiting for the next time the ball drops.

Con demasiada frecuencia, la vida nos enseña a apresurarnos. Y, nos mantenemos durante tanto tiempo que olvidamos cómo tomarnos nuestro tiempo. Olvidamos que si nos tomamos nuestro tiempo para llevar a cabo los proyectos y nos fijamos unas expectativas razonables, podemos hacer lo que tenemos que hacer sin provocar desequilibrios físicos, mentales y emocionales que persistan mucho después de terminar la tarea.

Así que, sí, cómo empleamos nuestro tiempo es un buen indicio de quiénes somos. Nos permite anunciar en qué punto nos encontramos en nuestro viaje de autodescubrimiento. ¿Nos hemos tomado el tiempo necesario para comprender que debemos anteponer nuestra salud y bienestar? We must set boundaries when we’re flooded with requests from others.

Por difícil que parezca, debemos aprender a decir que no.

This is so much harder to do than it seems. It’s a simple word, but in practice, we tend to try to eliminate it altogether from our vocabulary. This is because we’ve grown to expect instant gratification. We want unity, not isolation. We want to feel accepted and we’ve been told “no” never makes friends.

Saying no to others may mean we get some backlash, so at first, it doesn’t feel good. Only when we’ve had some alone time to reconnect with ourselves and truly understand our limitations does the choice seem reasonable.

We may be social creatures by nature and constantly want to people-please and for others to like us. The reality is, however, we all have a breaking point. If we choose not to listen and push past this, we’ll wear ourselves down to nothing and won’t be fun to be around anyway.

Si decimos que sí aunque nuestro cuerpo nos grite que no, a la larga alejaremos a los demás. Los demás tienen más perspectiva de lo que solemos pensar. We can’t hide imbalance forever. When we become exhausted, everything starts to fall apart.

Entonces, ¿cómo debemos emplear nuestro tiempo?

Try, first, to make time in your busy schedule to connect with your own thoughts and understand how you feel. Allow your mind and body to tell you where you’re at honestly and without judgment. Listen when it speaks.

If you feel energized and ready to take on a new challenge, great. But if you can’t stand the thought of stretching yourself any thinner, stop.

Hear this clearly. Truly hear it and listen to what your inner thoughts are telling you. It shouldn’t matter what others are asking of you, this voice should always come first. It knows best because it knows you best. Your intuition and inner voice is a very real part of you that should never be ignored.

También merece la pena pensar en el tiempo que nos lleva cultivar nuestra vida, en lo esencial que es para nosotros adquirir nuevas habilidades, por ejemplo para escribir libros o un blog. Al principio del desarrollo, es posible que necesites ayuda para escribir, en estas reparaciones puedes hacer nuevos conocidos, que es una parte vital de toda persona.

This voice will tell you how to spend your time. That’s the bottom line. Others may continue to push you or attempt to steer you in another direction, but they aren’t you.

Retraining ourselves to release constant chaos isn’t easy. The world doesn’t promote it. It’s counter-intuitive to how most think and how society operates. And, this is precisely why there are very few people who seem to be healed from societal constraints and demands. There are few who seem at peace. Are you?