10 Cosas Que Haces Que Emasculan A Tu Hombre

Todos los chicos quieren sentirse como un superhéroe. Aunque crezcan y dejen de idolatrar a los personajes de dibujos animados, siguen queriendo sentirse poderosos y valientes como ellos.

In that sense, they’re pretty simple creatures. Quieren sentir que las mujeres realmente confían en ellos y les necesitan para resolver sus problemas.

Siempre me enseñaron a ser una mujer independiente y fuerte, y quería hacerlo todo sola. Simplemente creía que era la mejor y que nadie podía manejar las cosas como yo. Actuando así Nunca me di cuenta de que hacía que mi hombre se sintiera pequeño e insignificante. 

After a long and honest conversation with him, he finally explained everything women do that emasculates men. Here’s what he had to say.

1. “We want respect, don’t treat us like kids!”

If men value something, it must be respect. Listen, I know men are not perfect, but neither are we. Everyone makes mistakes and unless it’s something major we should find a way to communicate it with respect.

Avoid nagging him in a rude way or talking down to him like he’s stupid. I believe all women have motherly instincts and that’s why we sometimes have the urge to treat even grown-up men like kids.

However, stop yourself for a moment and just think before you say something that might belittle him. You wouldn’t want him to treat you that way, right?

2. “Have a little trust in our capabilities!”

I had a problem with this one for a long time. I just couldn’t trust anyone to do anything as good as me. Whatever he did, I felt the need to intertwine and do it myself. You can only imagine how much it annoyed him.

Always trust your man knows what he’s doing. They rarely take something upon themselves if they’re not sure how to do it. So, let him use his skills, and then you can help him if he says he needs you.

You wouldn’t want people to doubt your capabilities, but always encourage you and believe in you. So remember that next time you try to correct him or stop him from doing something by himself.

3. “Your way of doing things is not the only right way!”

Speaking of trust in your man’s capabilities, maybe you have your specific way of folding clothes or filling up the dishwasher, but that doesn’t mean his way of doing it is bad!

Sé que la mayoría preferiríais quitarle el delantal y echarle de la cocina cuando veáis cómo prepara esa comida, pero oye, maybe he’ll do it better than you would. I always thought my man didn’t know how to cook so I would correct him and tell him to do it my way.

Cuando por fin le dejé hacer lo que quería, me sorprendieron sus habilidades. Diablos, ¡incluso aprendí un par de cosas de él!

4. ”Bossing us around just turns us off.”

You might be the boss at your company, but leave your work and leadership skills outside of your relationship. I know we sometimes fight over who’s the main player in our relationship but calm down and just let him lead you for once.

You’d be surprised how much easier life is when you relax and deja que tu hombre tome la iniciativa. Me encantaba ser el jefe hasta que me di cuenta de que probablemente él lo necesitaba más que yo. 

Now, I wouldn’t change the princess treatment I have for anything! Once you try it out, you’ll never go back to bossing him around.

5. “You know guys have feelings too, right?”

This might be a shocker but yeah, men are humans too! Maybe they don’t cry watching Titanic contigo, pero créeme, también son seres emocionales. 

It’s already hard enough that society pressures them to “man up” so he doesn’t need you to be hard on him as well. Elija cuidadosamente sus palabras and speak with care just like you’d want him to do.

También, don’t judge him for showing his emotions. If he feels he can be vulnerable around you, he’ll trust you even more and that builds a strong foundation for a healthy relationship.

6. “Comparing to others is the quickest way to bring us down.”

Bragging about your colleague’s income or praising your friend’s husband for how he acts might seem harmless to you. However, it does more damage than you realize. Especially when you do it often.

Although men are competitive by nature, they don’t like being constantly compared to others. It just makes them think they’re not good enough.

Es decir, ponte en su lugar. ¿Cómo te sentirías si él mencionara constantemente cómo otras mujeres cocinan o visten, y hacen su trabajo? Supongo que no muy bien. En lugar de eso, intenta centrarte en sus lados buenos y hazle cumplidos de vez en cuando. 

7. “If we don’t ask for help or advice, just leave it be.”

A veces necesitan enfrentarse a los retos por sí solos. Puede que no lo hagan siempre a la perfección, pero aun así, el mero intento significa mucho para ellos.

Las mujeres solemos pensar que lo sabemos todo y que tenemos todas las respuestas, pero, por favor, siéntate y relájate. ¡Que se encargue él! Men are not afraid to ask for help if they really need it, so don’t worry. He’ll definitely call you if he gets stuck!

Tenga un poco de confianza en sus habilidades y intenta animarle en lugar de ofrecerle tu ayuda when it’s not needed.

8. “No need to call someone else if we can do it.”

You have a leaky faucet and your first thought is to call a plumber. Hold on for a second. Take your phone and call your partner, he’s the only handyman you need!

A veces menoscabamos sus capacidades, pero they’re capable of more than we actually think. Me di cuenta de que sienten una sensación especial de logro cuando consiguen reparar o hacer algo por sí mismos.

You’ll save your money and he’ll feel masculine and happy he helped you. Isn’t that better for everyone?

9. “Don’t make us jealous by flirting with other men!”

This one just pisses them off! I mean, it’s pretty clear why it would make them feel bad. Flirting with others is not fine in any case and can’t be justified.

Concéntrese en su hombre y elógielo delante de los demás. Así aumentará su confianza y se sentirá apreciado. 

Los hombres quieren ser deseados, quieren saber que tus ojos sólo están reservados para ellas. If you give your attention to others, they’ll just be insecure and think you’re not satisfied with what you already have.

10. “Chill out with controlling everything we do!”

You’re not his mom so don’t act like it. Everyone appreciates their freedom and lo que todos necesitamos son límites sanos independientemente de nuestra relación con alguien.

A lo mejor quiere pasarse todo el fin de semana viendo deporte o haciendo ese viaje con sus amigos. ¡Déjale que lo haga! Tú también puedes aprovechar para hacer lo que quieras y dedicarte algo de tiempo a ti mismo.