Cómo mantener una conversación con un chico: 15 métodos infalibles

You’ve finally started a thing with the guy you’ve been into for a while and you booked yourself a primera cita!

You’ve been mensajes de texto de un lado a otro y a través de redes sociales, you’ve been having a gran conversación.

It all seems potentially promising, but you’re going to be meeting him for the primera vez cara a cara and you’re dreading the potential torpeza.

Desearías poder seguir teniendo un conversación interesante – a witty mensaje de texto is one thing, but what if he’s not a natural conversador?

¿Y si el conversación goes south and you realize you’re not exactly in possession of grandes dotes de conversación ¿Tampoco?

A través de conversación de texto, he seems like a worthy candidate, but what if in reality he doesn’t have a sentido del humor? You couldn’t live with that.

¿Y si tiene cero temas de interés para discutir y te dan ganas de escamarte a los 10 minutos? 

You’d rather let the wormhole eat you up than share an silencio incómodo una vez más. 

No poder tener una buena conversación es un rompe tratos. If he can’t give you that, you’re going to have a mal rato aceptando una segunda cita.

So now, you’re trying to figure out if there’s a way to keep the conversación en curso y evita en la medida de lo posible esos temidos silencios. Mensajes de texto es genial y todo, pero ¿puede mantener el ritmo cara a cara?

God knows you can’t handle another shitty date, so you’d rather avoid dating altogether than suffer through another horrible blind date.

Those days are behind you and it’s time to find a good guy worthy of your precious time.

Good thing you’re here, then! Once you’re done reading this, the only problem you’ll be having is how to make yourself stop Hablaremos cuando nos veamos. 

(And that’s a good problem to have.)

¿Cómo mantener una conversación con un chico?

It’s only natural to be a little anxious when meeting a guy you like, especially for the primera vez. Desea que el química textual to translate to real life and there’s nothing wrong with that.

But it’s also important to realize that cara a cara conversation is much more challenging, so you shouldn’t put so much pressure on yourself.

This is a person who likes you just as much as you like him and he’s probably dreading the very same things!

Y ambos queréis causar la mejor primera impresión posible, lo que supone una enorme presión para los dos.

So my first piece of advice would be to relax and stop taking this too seriously or you’ll drive yourself mad.

This is not that complicated. If you click, you click, and if you don’t, there are no temas de conversación que podría salvar un tipo de química cero.

But while you figure out if you’re vibing or not, there are plenty of excelentes maneras para intentarlo de verdad.

And today, I’m going to be your own personal guide in helping you get your propia vida en el amor y haz que ese chico suspire por ti en un santiamén.

Hay algunas preguntas abiertas con las que puedes empezar y que ayudarán a que la conversación fluya con naturalidad.

Siempre puedes ligar innocently as you’re talking and distract him with your gorgeous looks.

Contacto visual es crucial para mantener la conversación en curso (junto con lenguaje corporal, but we’ll get into that later), as well as having a nuevo tema to fall on if the first one doesn’t do the trick.

La ausencia de presiones y una mente abierta son una combinación poderosa.

Don’t expect to become mejores amigos turned lovers within hours. Chemistry takes time. If you’re both vibing textually, let it happen organically when you’re cara a cara.

Here’s how you can ease the atmosphere once you meet up, and keep the conversación en curso de forma totalmente natural y eficaz con preguntas correctas. Tome un respiración profunda y relájate. Allá vamos.

1. Don’t force it if there’s no conversational chemistry

Primera regla para mantener un conversación en curso with a guy is to NOT force it if you’re not clicking and the vibe is off.

Remember. you’re not going to click with everybody you meet and that’s the most normal thing to expect.

Just like you’re not friends with every single person that has ever entered your life, you’re not going to find what you’re looking for in every guy you meet.

If the conversation keeps falling flat, you’re not feeling his vibe AT ALL, and the torpeza could eat you alive, there’s honestly no resurrecting it from the dead.

Finish up the date, be polite, and excuse yourself as fast as you can. If you’re not feeling it, it’s not supposed to be. 

Una simple conversación no debería costar TANTO esfuerzo.

Claro, siempre hay un poco de silencio incómodo as you’re breaking the ice, but eventually it’s supposed to get going and become easier as you go along.

If there’s absolutely nothing to go on, save yourself the trouble and call it a night.

2. Estar realmente interesado en conocerle

Don’t go into this wanting to make it all about you. You have to understand that this guy has dreams, ambitions, and hobbies you’re not necessarily going to be into, but that shouldn’t stop you from getting to know him.

You have to be interested in all aspects of him if you want to make it work and vice versa! So what if he’s insanely obsessed with videojuegos, you have your hobbies too that I’m SURE wouldn’t be his cup of tea.

Deja que ganarte con sus palabras y anímale a que te cuente lo que le hace querer levantarse cada mañana. Conócelo. Averigua qué le mueve y cuáles son sus cosa favorita ¡en el mundo es!

That’s the basis of any gran conversación. Deja que la otra persona comparta abiertamente y prepárate para participar en la conversación si esperas que te corresponda.

Deja que te hable de su equipo favorito (basketball or football, it doesn’t really matter) and talk about your películas favoritas! And before you know it, you’ll be in a deep conversation completely smitten with each other.

3. Escuchar para comprender, NO para responder

Esto es clave en cualquier buena conversación. La gente está tan ocupada esperando su turno para hablar que sólo escucha para responder, en lugar de escuchar para obtener información real sobre la persona.

Don’t be that girl. Don’t just sit around, waiting for your turn to talk.

Listen to him when he’s talking about something and always use the phrase ”tdame más” to make him feel like he’s not talking to a wall.

People need to feel like they’re being paid attention to.

Imagine how you’d feel if you were opening your soul to a person and all he does is nod his head and as soon as you’re finished he starts blurting out something about himself.

I’m sure that would make you feel so low and unappreciated. So make sure to never do that to a guy.

Listen, engage, and participate. That way, it’ll go both ways.

4. Pregúntale por sus cosas favoritas

You know how you just can’t shut your mouth when someone asks you about that one thing you’re deeply passionate about?

It just excites you too much and there’s so much you want to share!

Lo mismo ocurre con su primera cita con este chico. Deja que la conversación te lleve a un lugar en el que él se sienta totalmente cómodo compartiendo sus pasiones contigo y deja que te lo cuente todo.

Firstly, it’s going to make him so happy to talk about something he genuinely loves. And secondly, it’s going to be so enjoyable listening to a guy you like talk about something with such joy and zest.

It’s definitely going to make you enamorarse de él mucho más fácil. 

Y al hacerlo, la conversación simplemente fluirá como un río.

You can exchange your dreams and share your experiences while encouraging the other person to feel relaxed sharing this with you, knowing you’re realmente tan interesado.

5. Don’t let the occasional silence discourage you

Sí, hay se ser momentos ocasionales de silencio incómodo, It happens. It’s your primera cita and you’re literally just getting to know each other. Don’t expect miracles on your first try.

You’re not robots and at some point, the conversation is going to come to its natural end and you’ll be scratching your head for a few seconds in panic.

¿Pero adivina qué más? Que doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with the guy or that you should give up. It means that you’re human and you’re only starting up something together.

There will be bumps in the road and little hiccups now and again, but if the vibe is right and the guy is nice to be around, you’re not going to throw in the towel.

As the days go by and you’re getting more emotionally attached, it’s going to feel SO much easier filling in those pesky silent moments.

You just have to grow into it, like every couple does. It’s normal and if you’re really feeling this guy, keep working on it and don’t give up just when it’s started.

6. Repite lo último que ha dicho

Here’s a cool tip on how to keep a conversación en curso with a guy. If you’re struggling to find a new tema interesante para hablar, ¡sólo repite lo último que dijo!

If he’s talking about some crazy adventures he was on or a dangerous hobby he loves so much, repeat the last sentence as if in disbelief.

He’s going to respond with a little smile on his face and expand on the topic. It’s such a silly thing but it works. It makes the guy feel like the man and it gives you a chance to come up with something interesting to say next.

This will him give him a push that he needs and make him feel like you’re not bored with his stories.

7. Pregúntele por sus antecedentes familiares

Get to know him by asking about his childhood memories. But don’t pry too much. See if he’s willing to open up about it and if so, ask him about what he remembers from when he was young and what his upbringing was like.

¿Tiene hermanos? ¿Están unidos y qué les gusta hacer cuando se reúnen? ¿Viven lejos y es difícil separarse de ellos?

This will make him feel nostalgic and eager to share because who doesn’t get emotional and happy to share family stories about the people closest to him in the world?

Esto mantendrá el conversación en curso so smoothly that you’ll forget you’re on a primera cita and feel like you’ve known him for a while.

And when it starts feeling so homey and comfy being around him, you just know you’re with a buen chico.

8. ¿Qué hace y le satisface?

What does he do for a living? Is it something he dreamed of since he was a kid or was it a job he needed in order to pay the bills while he’s searching for something more in his lane?

Siempre que la conversación empiece a fluctuar, puedes preguntarle por el trabajo. Casi toda persona adulta tiene un trabajo y probablemente un millón de historias que podría contarte sobre todas sus experiencias relacionadas con el trabajo.

Ask him about his favorite project he’s worked on and the one he hated the most. Does he have funny work anecdotes? Perhaps a funny colleague he does a perfect imitation of?

Maybe he’s the fun guy at the office who keeps the atmosphere light and joyful so you can ask him about his secrets.

Bottom line – there are a million and one work-related things you can discuss. After all, your job takes up half of your day! Surely, there are plenty of things to talk about there.

9. Comparte tus propias historias 

It’s a good start getting the guy to talk about him and his dreams in life. But don’t neglect yourself! He also wants to know everything about you so be prepared to open up as well.

Mantenga una conversación cálida y agradable compartiendo anécdotas e historias ligeras y divertidas de su vida.

Tell him about your family, friends, and workplace. Share your awkward moments that will make you both laugh and let him know you don’t take life too seriously.

Be light and fun and don’t be afraid to make fun of yourself. That’s what guys look for in a girl.

Alguien con a sentido del humor que pueden reírse de sí mismos sin tomarse nada a pecho.

Life’s an adventure and there’s no point being serious all the time.

A gran conversación nace de anécdotas divertidas e incómodas que liberan toda presión y hacen que la otra persona se sienta lo suficientemente cómoda como para compartir las suyas.

10. Invítale con tu lenguaje corporal

Lenguaje corporal es tan importante como las palabras que salen de tu boca. Si pareces desinteresada y cerrada, el chico se sentirá rechazado.

But there’s a simple solution there, too. For starters, don’t cross your arms as you’re talking as it feels like you’re being defensive and judgmental.

Rather keep your arms on your legs or in an open position where anything he says feels like it’s being received openly. 

Secondly, don’t be looking around the room as he’s sharing a story.

Mantente recto contacto visual (but don’t forget to blink, girl!) and make him see you’re there. Smile every now and then (nothing forced) and keep a relaxed posture.

This is not a job interview, you’re on a date with a guy you really like, so act like it.

It’s supposed to be chill and relaxed, so don’t give him the 20 questions treatment and let him talk as you’re carefully listening and looking him in the eye.

11. Dejar un aire de misterio

Don’t be too available too soon. Let the man quieren conocerte más y más cada vez que te ve.

It’s good to share, but always leave a little something to the imagination. That way, he’ll keep coming back for more.

He needs to see that you’re an intriguing enigma that keeps on giving, but if he wants to know more, he’d better make an effort to get you to share.

It’s supposed to be a little playful situation where you both win. You keep him hooked with your flirtatious stories and habilidades de conversaciónpero siempre deja espacio para más.

That’s an manera excelente para que se haga una idea de ti y de tu personalidad extravagante y coqueta que le atraerá.

12. Evitar los temas delicados desde el principio

Si quieres saber cómo mantener un conversación en curso con un chico, déjame decirte lo primero que NO debes hacer.

Don’t get into sensitive subjects way too soon (ex-novios, money, politics… you name it) and you’ll be well on your way.

People don’t want to hear all about your sad breakup story on your primera cita.

And this guy certainly didn’t invite you to dinner (or his place) to discuss politics and get into a heated discussion in case your views clash.

So scratch all that and keep it light, warm, and fun. That’s what the first few dates should be all about!

Getting to know each other and testing out the air. Seeing if there’s a click and if so, deepening your chemistry and having a good time together while your relationship progresses.

Estos temas (los ya mencionados) are for later on when you’ve established what you are and already have that type of relationship where you can discutir temas controvertidos sin que afecte a vuestra relación.

13. Don’t complain

Lo peor que puedes hacer es hacerle creer que puedes quejarte de cualquier cosa.

¿Es esa la primera impresión que quieres dejar? En lugar de buscar algo de lo que quejarte, busca cosas en las que puedas estar de acuerdo y encuentra puntos en común.

Deja las cosas pesadas para más tarde. Esta es tu única oportunidad de causar la mejor impresión, así que aprovéchala bien.

I’m talking from my own experience. Guys are truly put off by negativity and bitchiness. Leave him discover that side of you once you’re knee-deep in your relationship.

Be mindful of your habit of judging stuff you don’t really get. Be open-minded as opposed to judgy and critical.

The guy will not want to go on a second date if you’re nagging about all kinds of stuff.

It’s unappealing and you’re better than that. It’s all about light topics, positive vibes, and fun banter!

14. Hágale preguntas divertidas que le hagan reflexionar

Pretend you live in a world where anything you wanted could become reality! Now ask him about the things he’d choose if he had a say in every single thing that happens from then on.

Por ejemplo, si pudiera elegir cualquier lugar de la Tierra al que teletransportarse ahora mismo, ¿adónde iría y por qué?

Si pudiera hacer de cualquier celebridad su mejor amigo¿Quién sería? ¿Cambiaría algo de sí mismo si pudiera?

What’s the one food he’d have every single day delivered to his door if he could?

Ya entiendes. Vive en un mundo de fantasía y averigua todo lo que le gusta y lo que no, sus preferencias y las cosas que le desaniman.

En cierto modo, esto te dirá todo lo que necesitas saber sobre él. ¡Inténtalo!

15. Hacer un cumplido

Everyone likes to hear a nice thing about themself, that’s just a fact, and guys aren’t immune to this. Just because they act as if they don’t care to be complimented, it doesn’t make it true.

Teniendo eso en cuenta, encuentra algo genuino por lo que hacerle un cumplido, y hazlo de una manera no forzada y orgánica.

If when you’re talking, you notice how his dimples get so visible when he gives you an honest smile, tell him that!

He’s going to blush a bit, but he’ll be pleased to hear a compliment, especially about something he can’t even control!

Y esto podría ser un gran tema de conversación if you need one. Even if you’re mensajes de textosiempre se puede compartir un cumplido genuino y hacer que el tipo me siento tan bien sobre sí mismo.

Los cumplidos nunca pasan de moda y siempre ayudan a mantener la conversación en curso. So keep that in mind next time you need a trick up your sleeve. It’s simple, kind, and very effective in disarming a person.

Reflexiones finales

Encontrar un buen chico con el que formar una relación estable, madura y divertida ya es bastante trabajo por sí solo.

Pero encontrar una manera de mantener la conversación en curso durante esas primeras citas es un juego de pelota completamente diferente.

A veces, los nervios te dominan y te quedas paralizado.

Other times, you’re so eager to say so much that you end up talking all over yourself and making zero sense.

And it’s all perfectly normal – expected even. So many women around the globe go through the exact same thing every single day.

And I’m here to wash away your worries and make you see that you’ve got this!

I’ve collected some of the most effective things you can take into consideration if you truly want to know how to keep a conversación en curso con un chico.

There are so many options out there, that I truly believe the only problem you’ll have is having too much fun exploring all these tips!

Dating should be light and fun, so always keep it that way. It’s not a job and nobody is grading you.

You’re there to find a guy who’ll compliment your quirky side and balance you out with his mild demeanor.

Try out these 15 awesome ideas and see for yourself that dating isn’t as bad as you have it pictured in your head!

It’ll be a fun ride, but not without its bumps in the road. So remember, just because it isn’t smooth sailing, it doesn’t mean it isn’t right.

Las mejores cosas de la vida requieren esfuerzo, tiempo y paciencia.