4 cosas que debes dejar de hacer y 4 cosas que debes empezar a hacer si estás buscando el amor

STOP

1. …choosing the guy you know is unavailable

Este es un patrón de autosabotaje que siguen muchas mujeres.

No matter the reason for him being unavailable, don’t choose him. If you can see he’s emotionally distanced, stop pursuing a relationship with him.

If he’s one of the boys who are open about never wanting to get married or have a committed relationship – don’t let yourself fall for him.

If you’ve noticed that you constantly lose interest in guys who were unavailable and then become available – work on this issue.

2. …looking for romance and look for partnership instead

There is a certain type of guy or a certain type of situation that will probably attract you if you’re looking for romance.

If your thoughts and ideas of love consist of incredibly romantic, passionate scenarios – you might be on the wrong track.

If you’re searching for loveEl amor debe dejar de equipararse al romance y empezar a verse como una relación de pareja. Esto cambiará tu percepción y afectará a la forma en que eliges a tus posibles parejas.

Once you know you’re looking for a person who will become your partner and be there for you for better or for worse, you’ll think twice when you’re choosing the one to be with.

3. …focusing on your phone so much

Seriously, adjust your focus elsewhere. While there’s a chance you’ll find love online, the old fashioned ways work better.

Also, if you’re constantly following different people’s lives, it might seem to you that their love lives are amazing.

It may seem to you like they’re continuously celebrating their love and enjoying every single moment of their romance and this can give you false expectations.

So, stop following other people’s lives and trying to recreate other people’s love stories. Instead, get up, go out, and try to create your own, unique story.

4. …thinking the perfect relationship won’t require work

Talking about false expectations, movies and books might have given you the idea that true love requires no work. Well, that’s false.

Aunque el amor verdadero es sencillo y puedes sentir la conexión con tu alma gemela, las relaciones siempre requieren trabajo.

You spend so much time with someone and share so much it’s impossible for it to always go perfectly.

Also, people change with time and the relationship changes with them. Both partners need to be equally ready to compromise and get used to each other and each other’s needs.

Sí, esto significa que debes dejar de esperar que todo funcione a la perfección todo el tiempo, y dejar de desperdiciar buenas relaciones sólo porque surja un pequeño problema. 

INICIO

1. …enjoying time on your own

Tienes que aprender a amar estar solo antes de encontrar a la persona con la que compartir tu vida. Disfruta de tu tiempo a solas. 

If you don’t enjoy your own company, you can’t really expect anyone else to, either.

There are many benefits to being single and you should take advantage of all of them, because once you find your soulmate you’ll be taken forever.

2. …building up your confidence

Tener confianza en uno mismo es importante para tu bienestar y también atrae a otras personas. Piensa en tus mejores rasgos y recuérdatelos.

Si hay cosas que mejorar, hazlas. Haz todo lo que te haga sentir increíble contigo mismo.

You have to become aware of your own worth so others don’t make you think you’re worth less than you actually are.

3. …understanding your own needs

Before you enter a relationship and while you’re still searching for love you should use that time to think about your actual wants and needs. 

What is it you’re looking for in a partner? What are some things he simply needs to be/do? What are some things he should never do?

¿Qué tipo de persona puede satisfacer sus necesidades? 

Profundiza en tu mente, piensa en tus relaciones pasadas y en dónde fueron mal y decide de qué manera necesitas ser amado y qué tipo de persona puede darte el tipo de amor que mereces.

4. …going to places people with the same interests as you go to

Los polos opuestos se atraen, pero tener intereses comunes también fortalece una relación. También facilita el inicio de una relación, porque te da algo de lo que hablar y con lo que conectar.

If you have any particular interests (and everyone does), go to places where you’ll find people with those same interests. If you like books – visit libraries, if you like tennis – go play on a public court, you see where I’m going with this?

Acudir a lugares donde puedas encontrar personas que se parezcan a ti de un modo u otro te dará la oportunidad de entablar una relación con alguien que podrá comprenderte.