8 hábitos de soltera que arruinan tus posibilidades de encontrar el amor

Girls, let’s be honest here for a moment. We are todas las mujeres fuertes y podemos hacer lo que nos propongamos. Ya sabéis, PODER FEMENINO! 

Aun así, todos anhelamos ese tipo de amor incondicional y para siempre.

We all need someone who’ll appreciate us and treat us the way we deserve. We’re looking for someone who’ll love us in a way no one else has. Todos buscamos nuestra alma gemela.

Sin embargo, esa búsqueda puede llevar algún tiempo y, mientras tanto, desarrollamos algunos hábitos que pueden arruinar nuestras posibilidades de encontrar al Sr. Perfectosin ni siquiera darse cuenta.

I’ve listed some of those habits we need to change before it’s too late. Don’t let them stop you from finding love.

Hablas de tu ex todo el tiempo

You’ll never be able to find true love if you are stuck in the past. You have to think about your future and leave past relationships and boyfriends where they belong.

Lo peor que puedes hacer cuando por fin conoces a alguien nuevo es compararlo con tu ex. You won’t benefit at all by doing so, only make him feel bad.

Avoid talking about your past experiences. Your past relationship has finished and you already know that wasn’t true love. Stay focused on your future and finding your soulmate.

Esperas un amor de película

Olvídate de el tipo de amor you’ve seen in romantic movies. That doesn’t exist. Real love and relationships are something completely different.

If you’re expecting that kind of love, I’ll have to disappoint you and say that you won’t experience it. Real life is much more complicated and so is love.

Quieres que te persigan

Vida de soltero has made you realize how much you’re worth. You know how much you deserve and don’t want to settle for anything less. 

This time, don’t invest too much. Give to the other person as much as you are getting from them. It’s not about playing games, but about reciprocity. You are worthy of the chase, so start acting like that.

Tienes una opinión excesivamente elevada de ti mismo

It’s time to have an honest one-on-one conversation with yourself. No one is ever good enough for you. You think that you always deserve more than someone has to offer you.

You show everyone how hard they’ll have to work if they want to win you over. You have a high opinion about yourself and that’s why you don’t want to give chances to guys who you think don’t deserve it.

Knowing your value and self-worth is good for your self-esteem, but creating an inflated opinion about yourself is creating false self-esteem. Every guy will think that you’re being conceited.

I know you aren’t. You’re just using it as your defense mechanism because you don’t want to get your heart broken.

But you don’t need to do that because knowing your true self-worth is enough to protect you from being hurt. 

Esperas demasiado de un hombre

Aumentar tu autoconciencia te hace aumentar también tus expectativas. Esperas demasiado de todos los hombres que quieren estar contigo.

You don’t want them to make you their number one priority, but their only priority. Les pones muchas normas y límites, y esperas que lo respeten todo.

It’s good to know how much you deserve, it’s good to have some HEALTHY boundaries, still, you have to keep it real. After all, we all get what we actually deserve. 

Piensas demasiado en el futuro

You’ve become afraid of starting a new relationship because you immediately think about whether it has a future or not. You think that you’re only wasting your precious time if you don’t see any future in it.

Tienes que ir más despacio. No one knows what will happen in the days ahead and unfortunately, we can’t affect it no matter how much we think about it.

You’ve forgotten about the importance of self-care

It’s important to pay attention to your looks, but trust me, it’s more important to pay attention to your spiritual beauty. You have to nurture your soul too, because your inner beauty is as important as the outer one. 

Focus on yourself and always work on becoming more beautiful inside and out. You’ll see how it’ll affect your love life as well. 

That happiness, beauty, and love you’ll feel inside will radiate on the outside too. Eso te ayudará a atraer mejores cosas y mejores hombres a tu vida.  

You’ve already given up on love

If you’ve been single for some time now, you may have given up onm finding the one. If you’ve tried hard to find love, it’s probably made you think that you should quit because love isn’t for you.

Maybe you’ve already made peace with it.

El caso es que: No importa lo difícil que se ponga, nunca dejes de buscar el amor verdadero..

We all have our other halves, we all have our soulmates. Maybe they’re really slow to appear, but one day they’ll find their way to you.

Hasta entonces, intenta deshacerte de estos malos hábitos porque pueden impedirte conocer a la persona de tus sueños.