No se puede salvar a un hombre que no quiere ser salvado

What we want for others doesn’t work unless they want it for themselves. – Bryant McGill

Por desgracia, hay tanta gente rota en este mundo y tanta gente que necesita ser salvada o al menos guiada. Hay tanta gente que quiere sanar pero no tiene ni idea de cómo hacerlo.

I think that we’re all a little bit broken. We’ve all been through hell at some point de nuestras vidas y caímos tan hondo que nos desesperamos y nos permitimos pensar que no había salida.

La conclusión es que todos pasamos por un infierno y sobrevivimos.

Tal vez debido al pesado camino que nos vimos obligados a recorrer en nuestras vidas, sentimos que tenemos que facilitar el camino a quienes amamos.

Pero la verdad es que todos necesitamos caminar por nuestras propias verdades y destinos para que podamos crecer y estar preparados para las cosas más grandes de nuestras vidas.

A veces, cuando la vida somete a las personas a demasiadas pruebas, deciden no luchar contra ellas y se dejan llevar por la corriente.

But if you allow the things you go through in life determine what your life is going to look like, then what are you living? It’s your task to take care of yourself and make sure you’re happy.

Por desgracia, no mucha gente está dispuesta a hacerlo.

What’s even worse than letting life carry you like the breeze carries the fallen leaf is this idea that people plant in their minds about how they can save everyone.

Okay, yes, there are some people worth saving, there are people who need just a little bit of guidance, but not everyone can be saved and that’s the ugly truth.

Those who don’t want to be saved can’t be convinced into saving themselves.

They say that you can only love broken people and hope they’ll respond to that treatment. But sometimes even love can’t make a man heal if he doesn’t want to change.

Si se niega a ver que le pasa algo, ¿quién eres tú para convencerle de lo contrario?

We’re all aware of ourselves and if he thinks that there is nothing wrong with him, if he thinks he’s okay, you’ll just lose yourself in trying to convince him that he’s wrong.

Si le gusta donde está, ¿quién eres tú para intentar cambiarlo? Perhaps he doesn’t know better, but perhaps he doesn’t want better.

It can be the case he’s settling for less, but it can also be that he’s perfectly happy with the place where his mind is at.

If he doesn’t want to be saved, who are you to save him? There are people who are okay with their toxicity; there are people who’d rather look away than face the truth.

Hay personas que quieren seguir huyendo de lo que les hace daño antes que enfrentarse a su dolor y así hacer que desaparezca.

And there isn’t a person whose loving or caring in this world who could change that.

I know you’re scared but you need to superar el miedo a perder a alguien who isn’t good for you.

And you need to stop giving all of you to someone who’s toxic.

Because if there is something wrong with him and he’s refusing to acknowledge it, there is a high probability you’ll get sucked into the vortex of his toxicity, too.

Por mucho que quieras a esa persona, debes anteponerte a ti mismo. Siempre debes cuidar de ti primero. Porque puede que no haya nadie que te salve cuando lo necesites.

And you need to stop believing that story about how life has been too harsh on someone. It has been too harsh on all of us, but that’s not an excuse to just go with the flow and be an asshole towards others.

Todas las personas que conoces están librando alguna batalla interior. Y aunque sería más fácil rendirse, vinimos a este mundo como luchadores.

Así que abandonar la negatividad and the futile battle of trying to save a man who doesn’t want to be saved.

If your love doesn’t make him want to change, if having you next to him doesn’t changes things, if your efforts are in vain and he’s oblivious to his state, it’s not your task to save him.

You should never lose yourself in trying to save others. You should love them and if love isn’t enough, then there isn’t much more you can do.

Ernest Hemingway dijo: Lo más doloroso es perderse en el proceso de amar demasiado a alguien y olvidar que uno es especial.

Don’t allow anyone, regardless of how much you love them, break you or change who you are.

Don’t let other people’s pain make your spark shine a little less. Don’t lose yourself in the process of trying to save a man who doesn’t want to be saved. Save yourself.

You cannot make someone understand a message they aren’t ready to receive. – May this be the lesson you’ll remember for the rest of your life.