Sé sincera contigo misma: ¿Realmente le quieres por lo que es?
If I asked you why are you with him, you would probably answer because you love him, right? But the much better question would be – why do you love him, and what made you fall in love with him?
Would you be able to answer that? Would you struggle with the answer or offer me some of those boring, classic explanations…
Because he’s a good man, because he’s good to me, blah, blah, blah?
Puede gustarnos e incluso enamorarnos de alguien sin motivo, pero siempre hay ciertas cosas que nos hacen seguir enamorados de esa persona.
Love has the power to blind us completely. We’re unable to see that person for who they truly are. We idealize them and make a perfect picture of them in our heads.
Unfortunately, we fall in love with that picture of them we’ve made, not with who they really are.
¿Estás intentando llenar un vacío que tienes en tu vida?
A veces, todos sentimos que hay un gran vacío en nuestra vida. Sentimos que nos falta alguien o algo y, por desgracia, eso nos lleva a tomar decisiones precipitadas para llenar ese vacío.
One of these decisions is allowing someone to enter your life and becoming infatuated with them. You’re happy because you have someone to spend your time with.
You’re happy because there’s finally another person on the other side of the bed.
Even though you may think you love him, you don’t. You just fell in love with the idea of having someone to finally fill the void in your life and to give you something that was missing for so long.
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¿Lo aceptas por lo que realmente es?
If you’ve been dating him for a while, then you’ve had time to acknowledge his flaws. Do you still accept him with all of his flaws and imperfections?
Have you ever tried to change those not so perfect parts of him? If you have, I’m sorry, but I have to be honest and tell you there is no true love there.
Cuando amas a alguien de verdad, le aceptas por todo lo que es. Aceptas y valoras todo lo que aportan a la relación.
Amor verdadero se trata de aceptar a alguien por completo, no de intentar cambiarlo.
¿Tienes celos de otras parejas felices?
If you’re a little bit envious of other happy couples around you, then that’s a sign that something is missing in your own relationship.
You can’t be jealous of other couples if you’re satisfied with your relationship. Well, you can, but that would only mean you’re a deeply insecure and unhappy person.
¿Hay demasiado drama en tu relación?
El amor a veces es complicado. Las relaciones pueden ser un reto. Estoy totalmente de acuerdo con todo eso.
No existe una relación completamente libre de dramas, pero siempre hay un equilibrio en todo cuando el amor es real y honesto.
Si hay demasiado drama en tu relación, significa que no hay suficiente amor. Tu relación debe darte energía, no agotarte emocionalmente cada día.
¿Se siente atrapado?
¿Tienes miedo de soledad? Don’t be shy to admit it because we all are. God created us as social creatures, and we all crave for someone we’ll be able to walk through life with.
However, don’t allow that fear to control your feelings. Don’t try to convince yourself you love someone just because you’re afraid to leave them, because you’re scared of being alone.
Sooner or later, if you don’t honestly love them, the relationship will fail. If you allow yourself to be stuck with him, you might miss the right one. You might miss true love.
Reduzca sus expectativas
I’m serious. Forget all those things you want from your relationship and your boyfriend too.
Baje todos sus expectativasincluso las sanas y realistas. A continuación, esperar y ver qué pasa.
It’ll allow you to have a more realistic perspective on your relationship. You’ll know exactly where you stand in your relationship.
You’ll be able to see yourself with that man in the distant future. You’ll finally realize whether you’re in love with him or just the idea you had of him in your mind all this time.
Sólo trata de escuchar a tu instinto
If you can’t get rid of the feeling that something is off, it’s probably because something is indeed wrong in your relationship.
Tu voz interior sólo intenta advertirte y deberías dejar de intentar silenciarla. Si todo va bien, deberías estar disfrutando de tu burbuja amorosa sin ninguna de estas señales de advertencia y voces a tu alrededor.
Unfortunately, so often, people do mistake infatuation for love. Don’t let your fears stop you from being honest with yourself.
Admítete la verdad porque tú y sobre todo tu corazón puro y bondadoso os lo merecéis.
