5 maneras de ser la novia más perfecta que jamás haya tenido

We all want to be something special to our boyfriends. We want them never to lay their eyes on someone else. We want them never to compare us to the girls they have dated before. We want to do that extra special something because we love them and to make sure they won’t leave and hurt us.

There are so many misunderstandings about what it takes to be the perfect girlfriend and it’s not about cooking his favorite food, wearing sexy clothes, putting on perfect makeup or knowing trucos especiales en la cama (aunque éste puede ser útil).

The secret to a perfect relationship, the one that all others will envy you on, is being able to love yourself. Everything starts with you. If you aren’t satisfied with yourself, you’ll always come across problems for which you’re going to blame the other party.

La mayoría de nosotros nos negamos a vernos a nosotros mismos como un problema y nos negamos a intentar buscar la solución, así que cargamos la responsabilidad en nuestra pareja y esperamos que sea él quien resuelva el problema en el paraíso.

But, things don’t go that way. You can’t expect him to know all the answers. Sometimes, you have to take a look deep inside yourself and try to see what it is that you are doing wrong.

Try to be the best version of yourself because you can’t change the person you are with. You can only hope he will rise to the challenge and try to be his best as you are.

Aquí tienes algunos consejos útiles para ser la novia más perfecta posible:

1. Hay que ser comprensivo

You have to respect his feelings and opinions and never judge him. Try to understand him for doing something you don’t like. Maybe he really has a good reason.

If you show that you are not understanding, he won’t trust you and he will never confide in you. You have to show that you tried to walk in his shoes and when he messes up and he will, you have to give him a chance to explain himself and try to look at the problem from his point of view.

Y además, esto le dará ventaja cuando un día cometa un error. Que le muestres comprensión hará que él también te dé una segunda oportunidad.

2. Tienes que decir lo que quieres en voz alta

Tienes que ser directo en tu relación. La mayoría de las mujeres esperan que sus hombres sepan lo que quieren y lo que piensan. Nunca dicen directamente lo que quieren porque piensan que un hombre debe leer sus mentes.

Now, put yourself in that position. Imagine he wants something from you, he gets frustrated because he’s getting nothing and you have no idea that he wanted something in the first place.

Aunque no es probable que esto ocurra porque las mujeres tienen ese sexto sentido que les dice que algo va mal, intenta ponerte en esa situación para ver cómo se siente él.

También puede sentirse muy frustrado porque, a pesar de sus esfuerzos, tendrá la sensación de que nada de lo que hace es suficientemente bueno para ti.

If you are mad at him, don’t be passive and wait for him to figure it out. Say it right away and try to solve the problem. Waiting for him to ask what is wrong will only build up tension and anger in both of you and you don’t want that.

3. Tienes que decirle cómo te sientes

Women are more sensitive than men and that’s perfectly fine. One moment we can be over the moon and the next we sink down because of something he said to us.

He probably doesn’t have a clue that he made you feel like crap, so spill it out to him. If he was insensitive, tell him that he hurt your feelings and share with him how you feel.

He’ll probably be glad you told him, so he doesn’t make the same mistake again. Hiding your feelings because you don’t want to make an inconvenience will ruin your relationship.

4. Tienes que mostrarle aprecio

A los hombres les encanta sentirse apreciados. Les damos amor y amabilidad y nosotras les correspondemos. Pero eso no es exactamente lo que quieren.

It’s nice and it’s thoughtful and it’s the way every woman wants to be loved, but men are different. They want a feeling of acknowledgment for the things they have done for you or in general.

Quieren sentirse apreciados por el papel que desempeñan y quieren saber que sabemos que saben hacerlo.

Si te lleva a algún sitio, dale las gracias y apreciarlo for taking you and making an effort to do that. It’s not as easy for them as it is easy for us to do these things. This may seem silly to you, but it means a lot to them.

5. Tienes que darle espacio

Una prueba más de que los hombres y las mujeres son completamente diferentes a la hora de afrontar situaciones estresantes. Las mujeres suelen odiar estar solas y quieren estar rodeadas de las personas que quieren.

Quieren hablar con sus amigos sobre lo que les causa estrés y, normalmente, eso ayuda. Los hombres, en cambio, odian estar rodeados de gente.

Suelen retirarse a su cueva de hombres donde se ocupan de sus cosas a solas. Las mujeres a veces se equivocan con este movimiento y piensan que sus hombres las están aislando, lo cual no es cierto en absoluto.

Si ves que se retira, déjale en paz. Dale espacio para que afronte sus problemas de la mejor manera posible. Cuando esté preparado, acudirá a ti y hablará contigo.

There is no point in pushing him to talk to you if he doesn’t want to. The only thing you’ll manage to do by forcing him is becoming another source of stress in his life, thus making things only worse.