8 razones que provocan el fin de una relación duradera

"¿Por qué tantas relaciones duraderas acaban en ruptura?" "¿Es por el tiempo, porque duraron tanto?" "¿Cómo se puede desamar a alguien a quien se ama?".

These questions puzzled me as I saw so many long-term relationships ending and so few of them succeeding. I couldn’t help but investigate why. I had long and thorough conversations. These are the reasons I got:

El amor se convirtió en costumbre.

You just get used to that person and can’t imagine not having them around. Love just faded away like it did to some of the old married couples.

De repente te das cuenta de que te quedas porque ya has dedicado demasiado tiempo y esfuerzo a esa persona.

Has compartido mucho. Te asustan los cambios, así que te quedas. Pero llega un momento en que tienes que decidir si quieres pasar el resto de tu vida con alguien a quien estás acostumbrado.

Love vs. ‘In love’

Cuando dos personas se aman pero olvidan cómo estar enamorados. You know they are good—they are worth it, part of you doesn’t want it to end, but it’s just not working.

You love them as you love your family but nothing more. The passion is gone and you don’t want to continue without it.

Empezar demasiado joven.

You don’t know who you are when you are alone because you spent most of your adult life with that person and you are starting to miss you. You feel lost and trapped.

Cambiando.

You outgrow one another in every sense of the word. You simply become incompatible because you are not the same person you were when you started the relationship. You want different things now and it just doesn’t seem like you are on the same page anymore.

Falta de compromiso.

Over the course of the years, people change and they fight a lot because of it. When the relationship feels more like the war zone and you are never at ease, it’s time to leave.

Presión familiar.

The person you are with becomes an integral part of your family—they attend family reunions, weddings, they go out on a casual coffee get together.

That’s generally a good thing. But if the only reason you are staying in a relationship is not to disappoint your family members, you are not doing anyone a favor. That’s not the right reason to be in a relationship.

Hacer trampas.

Simplemente se enamoraron de otra persona y fueron lo suficientemente egoístas como para analizarlo antes de poner fin a una relación en la que ya estaban. O querían seguir en una relación y tener a alguien al lado.

So disrespectful. But it’s better to end a long-term relationship than to get married, have kids, and than realize what is happening.

Máscaras abajo.

La gente se cansa de fingir, así que en algún momento sale lo peor de ellos. Hay todo tipo de casos, desde abusos físicos a mentales de cualquier tipo.

Deberías estar agradecido de que revelaran su verdadera cara, por mucho que les costara, y dar gracias a Dios por haberte librado de ellos.