Si hace estas 11 cosas, ya no eres su prioridad

Durante la "fase cachorro", es fácil ser #1 para un hombre. Pero, ¿qué pasa cuando esa fase de cachorro desaparece?

What happens when the amusement ends and when we’re left with our true selves?

It’s more than logical that you’ll be a priority at the very beginning of a relationship when everything is still fresh and while the two of you are still unknown to each other.

Sin embargo, al cabo de un tiempo, cuando os acostumbráis el uno al otro, los hombres pueden empezar a darte por sentada y descuidarte fácilmente.

Maybe you’re one of the lucky ones who didn’t experience this, but if you feel like your man has changed, we bring you 11 signs to see if he doesn’t treat you like a priority anymore.

Tarda horas en responder

In the beginning, you probably texted a lot and you didn’t have to wait longer than a few minutes for his reply.

Pero con el tiempo, los mensajes de texto se hicieron más raros, más cortos e incluso el amor que os expresabais a través de ellos desapareció.

Now, it takes him a few hours to reply and it doesn’t even make sense to continue the conversation after so much time.

Whatever excuse he might offer, never forget that you can’t be so much busy to be unable to find less than 30 seconds to reply.

It’s not about the time; it’s about priority, you know.

Véase también: 11 Signs You’re Someone’s Priority

He Doesn’t Pick Up The Phone When You Call

Al principio llamaba sólo para oír tu voz. Hablabais durante horas antes de dormiros, pero ahora todo eso ha desaparecido.

Now, he hardly picks up the phone when you call and he doesn’t even call anymore.

Además, ya no tiene la costumbre de llamarte cuando ve una llamada perdida.

It’s much easier for him to come up with excuses such as “My phone was on silent”, “I forgot to call you back”, “I was too busy to pick up the phone when you called”.

His excuses are all lies, but what they’re telling you is true—you are no longer his priority.

He Doesn’t Want To Spend Quality Time

Cuando empezasteis, lo único que quería era pasar tiempo a solas contigo.

He used every window of opportunity to steal some minutes of your time and he loved planning ‘getaways’ just for the two of you.

Now, he doesn’t even bother to accept the call out—he rather stay in.

It’s just that he doesn’t see the point of going out with you and spending time just with you when there are other people you could hang around with.

Make no mistake: regardless of how long you’ve been together, in order to have a healthy relationship, spending quality time just with you is a must.

In case he’s constantly avoiding this, be smart to figure out what this means.

He Doesn’t Care About Your Feelings Anymore

Tal vez verte feliz era lo que más le gustaba e hizo todo lo que pudo para poner una sonrisa en tu cara.

He did even the impossible in the beginning and now it seems like he doesn’t care about your feelings anymore.

When you try openly to tell him how his actions make you feel or that you’re bugged by something he did, he says something just to brush you off or make you stop talking about it.

A menudo cambia de tema y empieza a hablar de otra cosa porque tus sentimientos ya no son su prioridad.

Prefiere Pasar Tiempo Con Otros A Pasar Tiempo Contigo

When you first started, you had your own rituals and days in the week when you knew you’d be spending time together.

Ahora, parece imposible atraparlo sin otras personas a su alrededor.

Every time you’re supposed to spend time together, there is always someone showing up ‘all of a sudden’ to spend time with you, too.

Cuando le propones hacer algo contigo, como ir de compras, al cine o al parque, elige pasar ese tiempo con otra persona.

If he’s choosing to spend time with others instead of spending it with you—you two have a problem.

He Doesn’t Listen When You Talk

Once, maybe a long time ago, you were often flooded by the questions, “How was work?”, “How was your day?”, “How are you feeling?” etc., but now he doesn’t even listen when you talk.

Pasáis la mayor parte del tiempo juntos en silencio o navegando por las redes sociales.

Cuando intentas iniciar algún tema, parece poco interesado en participar en él.

Cuando intentas contarle cómo te ha ido el día o contarle algo gracioso que te ha pasado, parece aburrido o tu charla termina sin que él muestre ningún interés por ella.

Sometimes, he even nods to something you tell him or ask him and later on, he doesn’t do it, telling you he forgot when in reality, he wasn’t paying any attention to it.

If he doesn’t listen when you talk, that’s the ultimate sign he doesn’t see you as his priority anymore.

Siempre pone excusas

Before, he was doing everything in his power to get you to like him. Now, it looks like he’s doing everything so you’d fall out of love.

Instead of giving you what you deserve, treating you with respect and being there for you, he just keeps making excuses as to why something can’t be done.

It’s easier to make an excuse than it is to make an actual effort. And when all you get are excuses, it’s a red flag that something is going downhill in your relationship.

Se va en medio de una discusión

Leaving an argument is okay only if you want to give yourself some time to chill so you’d be able to asses the problem cold-headedly.

But if he’s constantly running away from you in the middle of an argument, that won’t solve the problem, but it will create even bigger ones.

In case he has this habit of leaving in the middle of an argument, it means he doesn’t really care anymore if the problems get solved or not.

He doesn’t care if you two are on good terms or not.

Leaving you in the middle of an argument and leaving things unsolved would never be done by the person to whom you’re a priority.

He’s Cutting You Off When It Comes To Hanging Out With His Friends And Family

You used to hang around a lot with them, but now he doesn’t take you to any family dinners, he doesn’t invite you out with his friends and he plans things with them but doesn’t include you.

This means he’s slowly brushing you off from the people he cares the most and from the people that are his priority.

In case you’re not invited to these gatherings, it means you’re no longer a priority.

Te abandona cuando más lo necesitas

Érase una vez el hombre que corría a salvarte pasara lo que pasara.

Independientemente de la situación complicada en la que te encontraras, sabías que podías contar con él. Pero ahora, las cosas son diferentes.

If he leaves you alone at the times when you need someone to be there for you, if he doesn’t show up when he promises and if he doesn’t care about your needs anymore, unfortunately, things are not great.

Doesn’t Treat You With Love

Sabes que te quieren o, al menos, sabías que te querían. Pero ahora las cosas han cambiado. Ya no te sientes así.

You don’t see yourself in his eyes anymore. And each thing he does seems to be done so he’d push you away.

In the beginning, he did everything to win you over, but now you don’t see a trace of that man anymore.

He doesn’t text you often, he doesn’t call to hear your voice, he doesn’t want to know how your day was, he brushes you off often and you can’t remember the last time he made you feel special.

Perhaps now things seem a bit hopeless, but it doesn’t have to be this way. You have two choices. You can either do something about it or you can walk away.

Puedes intentar reconstruir vuestra relación y encontrar la manera de que vuelvan todos esos momentos felices y buenos o puedes optar por alejarte de alguien que te quitó de su lista de prioridades.

Elijas lo que elijas, recuerda que la decisión es sólo tuya.

Asegúrese de tomar el camino que hace usted feliz.