Si no puede decir estas 10 cosas en el primer mes, no vale la pena

Acabas de empezar a salir con alguien y probablemente te preocupa que pueda ser otro error (lo cual es totalmente comprensible).

I’m sure you’re sick and tired of looking for all of those clues and signos de un hombre de verdad or signs guaranteeing you that he’s a guy who won’t screw you up this time.

And if you’re wondering if there’s a secret formula that will reveal his true nature, I daresay that there actually is!

If you want to know his true intentions, pay attention to what he’s saying to you instead of only observing what he is doing!

So, if he can’t say these 10 things within the first month of dating, know that it’s time to move on because he’s simply not worth it.

“I really like you/enjoy spending time with you.”

If you’ve been on several dates so far and everything has been going smoothly, and you can feel mutual attraction and chemistry, it is normal to expect him to acknowledge that he likes you or that he likes spending time with you.

And if he can’t say it or refuses to say it (thinking that you already know that), then he’s definitely not worth it.

Un chico que realmente se preocupa por cómo te sientes y si te gusta siempre se asegurará de decirte lo mucho que le gustas primero.

“I want this/that from relationships.”

If he doesn’t specify what he is looking for in a relationship but keeps dating you and perhaps keeps sending you some mixed signals, it means he’s utterly indecisive and probably emotionally damaged.

Also, he might refuse to tell you how he wants things to be because he already knows that he’s in it just to manipulate you and satisfacer su egoísta.

Always demand that they tell you about their expectations so that you know whether you’re on the same page or not.

“I want to make things official.”

Un chico que sólo está interesado en un romance superficial y nada serio siempre se negará a oficializar las cosas contigo.

No matter how much it seems that you’re definitely meant to be, if he is ignoring making your relationship official, it means that he’s not ready for one.

No querrá hacerlo porque obviamente le interesa tener a alguien al lado o está totalmente indeciso respecto a vosotros dos.

Whatever the true reason is, if he’s not ready to be official with you, he’s definitely not worth it.

“I want us to…”

If he never makes future plans with you (and I don’t mean two years in advance), you should stop for a moment and think about it.

Proposing things like, “I want us to go to a concert/see something,” significa que quiere asegurarse de que te verá en el futuro.

It means he likes to spend time with you and he’s ready to do anything to initiate more of it.

Saying, “I want us to…” is the ultimate sentence of a real healthy man who knows what he wants and is not afraid of fighting for it.

“I would like to meet your friends.”

If you’ve already met his friends but he still doesn’t show a willingness to meet yours, then there’s something wrong with him.

Perhaps he’s not interested in meeting your friends because he’s afraid of their possible judgment of him and his actions.

All in all, if he doesn’t want to meet your close friends, it means he’s not really interested in being a part of your life either.

And you certainly don’t want to perder el tiempo en alguien así.

“I want to show you my place.”

There are two reasons why a guy would like to show you his place. Reason one: he’s only interested in getting into your pants.

Segunda razón: realmente quiere enseñarte su casa.

Para distinguir entre ambos, basta con que prestes atención a sus acciones si visitas su casa y lo sabrás con certeza.

If you decipher that he’s not the kind of guy who is only interested in taking you to bed, then you can be sure that he genuinely wants to show you his place and he wants to share his life with you.

“I want to see you again.”

If you’ve been on a few dates (and you had a great time together) and every time you part, he simply never says that famous sentence, “Quiero volver a verte,” then you can be sure that there is something fishy about him.

If he never acknowledges his enjoyment and never bothers to initiate your next hangout, then he’s not worthy of you making an effort either.

“I’m totally over my ex.”

Si sabes que tuvo una relación antes de que empezaras a salir con él y se niega a hablar de ello, lo más probable es que aún sienta algo por ella.

En ese caso, huir de él sería una buena alternativa.

Pero si de alguna manera inicia que he’s totally over his ex (without saying it directly) then there’s no need to worry about it.

“I want to take you out for (a romantic) dinner instead of drinks.”

The importance of making an effort when it comes to dating and relationships simply can’t be emphasized enough.

So, if your guy is constantly taking you out to bars for drinks instead of a peaceful, romantic dinner (from time to time), it means he’s not making enough effort for you or to get to know you better, which means he’s not worthy of you.

“Tell me about your life goals.”

Contrary to the previous point, if he’s begging you to tell him about your objetivos en la vida, this means he’s totally interested in getting to know you better and he wants to be familiar with all of your future plans so that he can coordinate them with his.

So, if you never hear the sentence, “Tell me more about yourself or your life goals,” within the first month of dating, then you should seriously think about getting out of it before it’s too late.