10 perguntas que estamos secretamente mortas por fazer aos homens

Viver nos tempos modernos significa ter múltiplas opções de comunicação, mas também significa a morte de aquele tipo de amor vintage e relações.

Apesar de nós, mulheres (tal como os homens), termos a liberdade de fazer o que quisermos, ainda há algumas perguntas que nunca fazemos aos homens, porque temos medo de parecer demasiado sérias ou de ter medo das possíveis respostas.

Whatever it be, it is never a good idea to hush your inner voice whispering to you to ask certain questions; they might be of crucial importance for your relationship! So, here’s a list of questions to remind yourself to ask him because you definitely should!

1. “What are we?”

When you just start dating a guy, it is normal to start questioning in which direction the whole thing is heading. But, most of the times, women are afraid to ask this because they don’t want to appear too pushy and scare the guy away by doing it.

If you’re not sure about what you two really are, you should definitely ask him because there’s no point to living in a delusion when one question can resolve all the doubts you might have.

2. “How many people have you slept with?”

Muitas mulheres acham esta pergunta muito incómoda e, de facto, é incómoda, mas é necessária. Ao perguntar-lhe com quantas pessoas é que ele já dormiu, ficará a conhecer o seu nível de experiência com as mulheres e também o tipo de pessoa que ele é. Também pode perguntar-lhe com quantas pessoas já fez amor para ver a reação e os pensamentos dele sobre esta questão.

3. “What do you think about our relationship being public on social media?”

You don’t want to add thousands of pictures of him and you on your social media only to realize that he doesn’t want the relationship to be public. So, asking him what he thinks about the relationship being public on social media is of utmost importance if you want to see if he’s into romance medíocre e casual ou algo mais sério.

If he says that he’s okay with it, it means he wants other people to know that you’re his and that he’s yours. But, if he’s not really okay with it, then it means he either needs more time or he’s actually interested in having an open relationship.

4. “Where do you see us as a couple in the future?”

Talking about the future on a first date is a big no-no, but you should definitely mention it later on to see his opinion regarding you as a couple. If he says that he doesn’t have any thoughts on this one, then it means he can’t yet see his future with you at the moment. But, if he’s already planned everything, then you can be sure that it’s the real deal.

5. “Have you ever had any substance abuse problems?”

É realmente difícil decifrar se uma pessoa já teve algum tipo de problema de abuso de substâncias e também é muito estranho perguntar-lhe. Mas, para o seu bem-estar e o da sua relação, deve perguntar-lhe sobre isso. As pessoas com um historial de problemas de toxicodependência têm maiores probabilidades de voltar a ter esses problemas e é por isso que é importante conhecer todos os pormenores.

6. “Have you ever committed a crime or been arrested?”

If you’re going to be with someone in a relationship, it means you’ll spend lots of time with them. That is why it is important to be informed whether they have ever committed a crime or been arrested. The last thing you want is to inadvertently become his accomplice or be seen in a negative light because of his deeds. Also, this might negatively influence the quality of your relationship.

7. “Are you in debt?”

Being in debt after finishing college is one thing, but being in debt to the extent that you can’t see a way out of it is quite another. If your guy is in huge debt, it means he has a serious financial problem, which can affect your relationship negatively in future.

8. “What are your secret fantasies (in the bedroom)?”

Being intimate with someone includes reciprocity and you won’t be able to reciprocate in full until you’ve learned what your partner prefers in bed, their fantasias secretase afins. É por isso que é importante ter uma conversa com ele sobre o assunto. Desta forma, aumentará as suas hipóteses de fazer amor de forma fantástica e aprenderá muito sobre ele durante o processo.

9. “Do you have a lot of female friends?”

Perguntar-lhe sobre as amigas dele não é um sinal de ciúmes, mas saltar para cada mensagem com um nome feminino é definitivamente. Por isso, é sempre sensato perguntar-lhe sobre as suas possíveis amigas para saber como reagir no futuro quando vir mensagens a aparecer no telemóvel dele.

10. “What’s your phone password?”

If he asked you for your phone password, and you think it’s rude to ask him for his, then think again. You shouldn’t feel embarrassed to ask for his phone password, especially if you feel like you can’t trust him one hundred percent.

And if he becomes hesitant to give it to you, then you will know he’s probably escondendo algo de sique o ajudará a determinar o fluxo da sua relação.