10 sinais de que ele só está a brincar com as suas emoções

Sometimes we’re so fixed on searching for ‘sinais de que ele gosta de si’ that we fail to see the huge, red flags glowing in the dark.

Não conseguimos ver que ele é um completo idiota manipulador cujo maior divertimento é torturar-te e transformar a tua vida num inferno.

It’s frustrating to face the fact that all you’ve wanted was someone to love, someone who loves you back and you’ve got a manipulative, immature, toxic person who feeds himself with pain and suffering.

You’re his supply, he needs you, so he manipulates you into staying.

I’ve been through this hell and thank God I managed to run away from it. I dumped his sorry ass and went no contact. I don’t want to know whether he is alive or not.

I don’t even want to know se ele sente a minha falta. That’s how little I think of him.

I went through all of this but there is something I learned after all. No matter what kind of a relationship you’re in, a guy will play with your emotions if he wants to.

Podes pensar que ele te ama até à lua e de volta, mas pode ser tudo uma grande e gorda mentira.

Signs he’s playing with your emotions

A sua relação está a mudar para pior

Instead of meeting his friends and family, he’s keeping you a secret. Your relationship should have gone to another level by now. Instead, it’s decreasing in quality.

He isn’t asking to spend more time with you, he seems to be getting away more often.

Todos estes são sinais de que ele não está a falar a sério consigo e que só a está a usar para se divertir.

He is not taking your emotions into consideration because he doesn’t care about you.

Ele faz coisas que a aborrecem

Estava aborrecida com algo que ele tinha feito e confrontou-o. Disse-lhe que ele tinha sido rude e que tinha magoado os seus sentimentos. Disse-lhe que ele tinha agido de forma grosseira e que tinha ferido os seus sentimentos, mas apesar de se ter aberto com ele e de se ter mostrado vulnerável, ele continua a fazer o mesmo.

He still hurts you the same way. He does this because he doesn’t care how you feel. He is playing with your emotions and he doesn’t feel sorry for you.

He’s not that available anymore

This right here shows you how much he’s interested in being with you or in a relationship. At first, this wasn’t an issue, you were only starting to get to know each other.

Mas à medida que passavam mais tempo juntos, ele queria passar menos tempo consigo.

Usually, he uses some lame excuse as to why he can’t come and see you, he cancels dates last-minute and he has slowly distanced himself.

Ele já não está muito presente e está a perder lentamente a sensação de estar numa relação.

He is interested in you when you’re not there

Quando um homem joga com as suas emoções, tem uma tática perfeita para a manter por perto.

When you are next to him, he won’t give you the time of day. He’ll push you away from him and he’ll try to see you as little as possible.

Mas quando se toma o assunto nas suas próprias mãos e se afasta dele, ele passa a telefonar-lhe a toda a hora.

If you’re out with a friend and you hadn’t announced a week earlier that you were going to be, he will bomb you with texts that ele sente a tua falta e quer-te ao seu lado.

These men do this because they don’t want to let you out of their grasp that easily.

They don’t want to be with you but they still want to have you as an option, so they give you enough attention to keep you hooked.

Ele mostra interesse noutras mulheres

It’s one thing when he does it when you don’t see it but completely another when he does it in front of you.

When you don’t see it, you don’t know it and it can’t hurt you despite the fact that he is a great douche. But when he does it right in front of you, it hurts like hell.

He is proving to you that he doesn’t care about you or respect you. Him flirting with other women is just proof he is playing with your emotions.

He makes you feel you’re not good enough for him

Around him, you feel you’re not pretty enough or that you’re not smart enough. This is not on you.

You wouldn’t feel that way if he didn’t treat you that way. His snarky comments and his mean jokes are killing your confidence in a second.

He sees that as having fun because it makes him laugh. He doesn’t care that the things he says are not even the slightest bit funny to you.

Ele é perfeito quando precisa de algo de ti

When you are the only person who can help him, he is the official winner of the ‘boyfriend of the year’ prize.

He’s there for you, he supports you, he listens to you, he basically does everything that a normal boyfriend should do.

And once he gets what he wants, he shuts you down again because he’s done with you. You’ve given him what he needed so he can continue to treat you like shit.

Enviar sinais contraditórios é a sua especialidade

Ele é o rei absoluto no que toca a isto. Ninguém o consegue vencer ou agir tão sorrateiramente como ele.

One day you’re his world, his love, his everything and the next he is capable of walking by you in the street without even saying hello.

Esta montanha russa emocional provoca dores emocionais que podem facilmente transformar-se em dores físicas reais. Pode literalmente ficar doente devido aos constantes abusos emocionais, ao terror ou à sua indiferença.

Ele espera que perdoeis

He can get away with everything but you don’t. His double standards are ridiculous.

When he doesn’t call you for days, he doesn’t show up on a date or doesn’t text you back, you’re supposed to let it slide and forget all about it after his pitiful ‘sorry’.

Mas quando a situação se inverte, quando somos nós que tomamos a liberdade de nos comportarmos como ele, como um sacana, então o inferno começa.

He calls you, he goes out looking for you and he makes a scene. And God knows how long he will be mentioning that one ‘fallout’ and rubbing it in your face while he is doing the same thing.

Ele está sempre a mentir

First, you notice those ‘white’ lies and you tell yourself how they are not that big of a deal.

But later on, those ‘white’ lies become way too frequent. Later on, you find out that lying is in his blood.

He’s capable of lying about everything—his past, about what he’s doing, he’s even changing some facts about him so people would like him. He is a manipulator in disguise.