10 señales de que sólo juega con tus emociones

Sometimes we’re so fixed on searching for ‘señales de que le gustas’ that we fail to see the huge, red flags glowing in the dark.

No vemos que es un gilipollas total y manipulador cuyo mayor divertimento es torturarte y convertir tu vida en un infierno.

It’s frustrating to face the fact that all you’ve wanted was someone to love, someone who loves you back and you’ve got a manipulative, immature, toxic person who feeds himself with pain and suffering.

You’re his supply, he needs you, so he manipulates you into staying.

I’ve been through this hell and thank God I managed to run away from it. I dumped his sorry ass and went no contact. I don’t want to know whether he is alive or not.

I don’t even want to know si me echa de menos. That’s how little I think of him.

I went through all of this but there is something I learned after all. No matter what kind of a relationship you’re in, a guy will play with your emotions if he wants to.

Puedes pensar que te quiere con locura, pero todo puede ser una gran mentira.

Signs he’s playing with your emotions

Tu relación está cambiando a peor

Instead of meeting his friends and family, he’s keeping you a secret. Your relationship should have gone to another level by now. Instead, it’s decreasing in quality.

He isn’t asking to spend more time with you, he seems to be getting away more often.

Todas estas son señales de que no va en serio contigo y sólo te utiliza para divertirse.

He is not taking your emotions into consideration because he doesn’t care about you.

Hace cosas que te molestan

Estabas enfadada por algo que había hecho y te enfrentaste a él. Le dijiste que había sido grosero y que había herido tus sentimientos, pero a pesar de que te abriste a él y te mostraste vulnerable, él sigue haciendo lo mismo.

He still hurts you the same way. He does this because he doesn’t care how you feel. He is playing with your emotions and he doesn’t feel sorry for you.

He’s not that available anymore

This right here shows you how much he’s interested in being with you or in a relationship. At first, this wasn’t an issue, you were only starting to get to know each other.

Pero a medida que pasabais más tiempo juntos, él quería pasar menos tiempo contigo.

Usually, he uses some lame excuse as to why he can’t come and see you, he cancels dates last-minute and he has slowly distanced himself.

Él ya no está tanto y poco a poco vas perdiendo la sensación de que estás en una relación.

He is interested in you when you’re not there

Cuando un chico juega con tus emociones, tiene una táctica perfecta para mantenerte cerca.

When you are next to him, he won’t give you the time of day. He’ll push you away from him and he’ll try to see you as little as possible.

Pero cuando tomes el asunto en tus manos y te distancies de él, te llamará a todas horas.

If you’re out with a friend and you hadn’t announced a week earlier that you were going to be, he will bomb you with texts that te echa de menos y te quiere a su lado.

These men do this because they don’t want to let you out of their grasp that easily.

They don’t want to be with you but they still want to have you as an option, so they give you enough attention to keep you hooked.

Muestra interés por otras mujeres

It’s one thing when he does it when you don’t see it but completely another when he does it in front of you.

When you don’t see it, you don’t know it and it can’t hurt you despite the fact that he is a great douche. But when he does it right in front of you, it hurts like hell.

He is proving to you that he doesn’t care about you or respect you. Him flirting with other women is just proof he is playing with your emotions.

He makes you feel you’re not good enough for him

Around him, you feel you’re not pretty enough or that you’re not smart enough. This is not on you.

You wouldn’t feel that way if he didn’t treat you that way. His snarky comments and his mean jokes are killing your confidence in a second.

He sees that as having fun because it makes him laugh. He doesn’t care that the things he says are not even the slightest bit funny to you.

Es perfecto cuando necesita algo de ti

When you are the only person who can help him, he is the official winner of the ‘boyfriend of the year’ prize.

He’s there for you, he supports you, he listens to you, he basically does everything that a normal boyfriend should do.

And once he gets what he wants, he shuts you down again because he’s done with you. You’ve given him what he needed so he can continue to treat you like shit.

Enviar señales contradictorias es lo suyo

Es el rey absoluto cuando se trata de esto. Nadie puede ganarle ni actuar con tanta astucia como él.

One day you’re his world, his love, his everything and the next he is capable of walking by you in the street without even saying hello.

Esta montaña rusa emocional causa dolor emocional que puede convertirse fácilmente en dolor físico real. Puedes enfermar literalmente por el constante abuso emocional, el terror o su indiferencia.

Espera que perdones

He can get away with everything but you don’t. His double standards are ridiculous.

When he doesn’t call you for days, he doesn’t show up on a date or doesn’t text you back, you’re supposed to let it slide and forget all about it after his pitiful ‘sorry’.

Pero cuando la situación se invierte, cuando eres tú quien se toma la libertad de actuar como él, como una basura, entonces se desata el infierno.

He calls you, he goes out looking for you and he makes a scene. And God knows how long he will be mentioning that one ‘fallout’ and rubbing it in your face while he is doing the same thing.

Siempre está mintiendo

First, you notice those ‘white’ lies and you tell yourself how they are not that big of a deal.

But later on, those ‘white’ lies become way too frequent. Later on, you find out that lying is in his blood.

He’s capable of lying about everything—his past, about what he’s doing, he’s even changing some facts about him so people would like him. He is a manipulator in disguise.