10 tipos de manipulação emocional

Todos nós já encontrámos este tipo de pessoas pelo menos uma vez na vida, provavelmente numa relação romântica, e dói imenso saber que o nosso parceiro está a manipular-nos e pensar que o que nos mostravam eram sentimentos verdadeiros.

So, without further ado, I’m giving all the ways of emotional manipulation, so you can recognize it the next time you see it!

A vítima

You’ve met ‘the victim’ for sure at least once in your life. You simply know that it’s them every time they open their mouth.

“I’m just not good enough,” “You don’t love me anymore,” “You’re being so rude to me, I’m fragile, can’t you see?”

Aconteça o que acontecer, estas pessoas estão sempre inseguras em relação a alguma coisa na sua vida e nunca sabem o que fazer. O seu objetivo é obter a sua aprovação e fazer com que tenha pena delas.

Porquê?

Well, they’re not called ‘victims’ for no reason. They want all of you to feel sorry for them and they give you all the power to make them feel better again because they can’t make themselves feel better.

Pode sentir-se sobrecarregado com este tipo de pessoa e ter muitas discussões com ela devido às suas constantes mudanças de humor.

O perito em TUDO

Estas pessoas são as que mais me esgotam porque a sua necessidade constante de serem melhores do que os outros é tão forte que, de alguma forma, conseguem nunca mostrar as suas inseguranças.

Mas imagine o quão vulnerável e insegura uma pessoa deve ser para ter a necessidade constante de se comparar a si e tentar depreciá-lo dizendo que é melhor do que você.

How they are above you and you aren’t worthy of their time. These people drain others with their toxic personalities.

Podem encher-nos das suas próprias inseguranças e estão constantemente a apontá-las para que vejamos todos os pequenos erros que cometemos. Foge dessas pessoas.

O tipo de flirt

Bem, quando se trata destas pessoas, tudo o que se pode fazer é observar e rir delas.

Dão tanto de si aos outros que parecem desesperados.

Se calhar porque são? De certeza que tem um amigo que é do tipo namoradeiro de uma pessoa tóxica. Yeah, you know, the one who doesn’t have boundaries.

She will flirt with every ex you’ve ever had, with your guy friends, maybe even your boyfriend. She has no limit.

Ela vai tentar destruir a vossa relação e fazer-vos sentir miseráveis sem que se apercebam disso!

O autodefensor

OK, you’ve done something wrong and it hurt someone. You admit it right away. But not this person because everyone else is to blame but them.

They are never the one whose fault it is that something is broken or some project didn’t end up the way it should’ve.

They’ll make you believe that you’re the one who messed it all up and they will never be the one to blame for anything.

A explosão de raiva

“WHY WOULD YOU EVEN ASK ME THAT? HOW STUPID CAN YOU BE?!” I’ve dated este tipo de manipulador emocional.

De facto, muitos dos meus namorados eram assim, mas nunca reparei no padrão.

I just thought that I was too clingy and that I was the one to blame. But I wasn’t.

I never was. It’s just that they are angry at themselves for some reason, for not achieving a certain goal or something like that.

So don’t bother with these people. They have anger management issues and it shouldn’t actually be something you need to worry about. They are not angry at you. They are angry at themselves.

O mentiroso inocente

They’ll make up a story just to sound more interesting.

They want you to like them so they won’t make any excuse for that because why would they? It’s an innocent lie. But be careful.

You won’t ever know if they’re telling the truth about an important matter.

They might even tell lies about you and claim that, “Well, you didn’t say it like that,” or, “Ohh, I must have misunderstood you.”

O fraco forte

You’ve probably seen girls who keep playing the victim in relationships just because they are the ‘weaker’ gender and they make their partner feel like they need to look out for them constantly just so they won’t be sad.

You want to make them feel better somehow, but it doesn’t work. They’re just a stupid crybaby.

O triângulo

Weird name, right? I don’t know what else to call them. These are the people who are nice to their victim and play all innocent just to gain their trust.

Quando o têm, vão ter com outra pessoa (ou mesmo com toda a gente?) só para lhes contar todos os seus pequenos segredos.

They want the approval and love of all the people they can surround themselves with, so they use the advantage they have to always know what’s going on and to simply gossip. Apparently, they don’t have their own life.

O agressivo

If you don’t do what they want you to do, podem fazer-lhe mal.

Or at least threaten to do so. Their vocabulary is a combination of curse words and threats that they’ll hurt you.

Don’t take them seriously, just try talking to them in a nice manner. If that doesn’t work either, just leave. It’s not worth it.

The ‘all-in-one’

This is probably an exaggeration, but there are people in this world who are multiple emotional manipulators and we didn’t recognize them until now.

They can be the weak victims who threaten to kill you if you don’t do what you want. So it’s really an interesting combination.

E agora? Agora já sabe o que deve procurar nas pessoas para ver se são manipuladores emocionais.

Por vezes, disfarçam-se muito bem, mas, acreditem, acabam por mostrar as suas cores.

Just keep your distance from these people and don’t dedicate your time and attention to them. You’ll feel more drained than you have ever felt before.