12 maneiras de evitar ser uma booty call

As chamadas para sexo são divertidas e divertidas - desde que seja só isso que se quer. Mas, na maior parte das vezes, queremos algo mais do que ser apenas uma booty call.

We’re hoping that somehow, that booty call will turn into a real relationship.

We’re hoping that he will see this amazing woman he has right in front of him, but sometimes (most of the times, to be honest), guys need help.

Por isso, para evitar ser uma booty call e ajudá-lo a ver o que realmente tem, trazemos-lhe formas de dizer não a uma booty text.

Don’t make it so easy

Don’t give your number to just anyone and don’t answer if you’re not into it.

We all love sex and casual hookups, but if you’re interested in more with this one guy, don’t give in hoping that it will make him commit to you.

Infelizmente, a maior parte deles pega no que precisa e vai-se embora. Mas provocá-lo e deixá-lo louco por si deve ser suficiente.

Conheça o seu valor

Don’t ever think that you need to give o seu corpo apenas para ser amado e respeitado.

You are much more than your lady parts and don’t ever let anyone convince you otherwise.

Being a booty call is great if that’s all you want, but being a booty call and hoping to be his girlfriend is most of all hurtful.

Don’t ever let anyone to take away your worth só porque te preocupas com eles. Cuide de si primeiro.

Know who you’re dealing with

Most of the players are pretty obvious: he shows signs of commitment-phobia and well, he’s a jerk.

If you see the signs right at the beginning, then there’s no way of escaping the booty call cycle. Avoid the player – avoid the booty call – avoid the heartbreak.

Don’t sext

Let’s admit it, sexting is fun and all, but if that’s all you two do, how can you expect him to get to know you?

Como é que podes esperar que ele se interesse por outra coisa que não seja o teu corpo?

Subtly change the subject into something other than sex and see if it’s working.

If he’s still demanding only sexting, he’s not worth it. No man who doesn’t want to meet you is worth it.

Defina as suas expectativas e diga-lhe

Don’t keep these things for you, afraid that he will walk away if you tell him that you’re ready to be something more than just a booty call.

Tell him. Tell him that you’re looking for something else, that you’re looking for something more.

Tell him that you deserve more than just being a booty call. It was all fun and games, but you’re ready to move forward.

Não tem nada a ganhar em guardar isso para si, mas se partilhar as suas expectativas com ele, pode ser que consiga um namorado fantástico. Ou perder um cretino horrível.

It’s a win-win, really.

Don’t pick up your phone after midnight

Vocês os dois não tinham qualquer plano, mas de repente ele anseia por ti, precisa de te ver.

He’s so sweet and lovely, but only after midnight. It’s just a way for him to say, “I’m horny”.

Just don’t pick up the phone, make yourself unavailable for him and answer in the morning.

Guys tend to fall for girls who are hard to get, so what’s the worst thing that could happen?

He would get mad? He would move on to someone else? I don’t see how could that be a bad thing.

If a man doesn’t see my value and doesn’t respect me when I say “no”, I don’t want to have anything with him.

Exigir respeito

The moment a guy gives you a booty call, you know he’s não respeitar tu.

Especialmente se já tiveres algum tipo de sentimento em relação a ele, se partilharam mais do que apenas sexts e encontros escaldantes.

Demand respect, it’s more than okay to say “no”. You’re not obliged to follow his commands, but he’s obliged to respect you.

Know your worth, demand respect. If you’re not being respected, walk away.

Go out for dates – without sex

Show him that there are other things that you two can do that don’t include sex.

Ir jantar fora, ir ao parque, ver um espetáculo. Ir ao cinema ou fazer um piquenique.

Mostra-lhe como és espantosa, inteligente e divertida. Mostre-lhe que há muitas coisas que ele pode fazer consigo para além do sexo. Mostra-lhe que és digna de um compromisso.

Preste muita atenção ao que ele faz e diz

There’s a great chance that he’s already telling you how he feels about all of this and what he really wants out of it.

If he says that he wants a relationship but his actions say everything but that, he’s just a manipulative player in disguise.

In order to avoid being his booty call, you should look for any possible red flags that he’s not serious about you two.

And as much as it hurts, it’s easier to walk away than to stay and have your heart broken every day hoping he will change.

Because, there’s a great chance that he won’t.

Conhecer pessoas da sua vida

Guys don’t like their booty calls to meet their friends and family because girls might think that things could get serious and that makes cutting lose harder. If he introduces you to his friends, you’re more than a booty call.

But to make sure you become more than one, introduce yourself. If you know he’s having a guys night, stop by his place and bring them some wings and pizza.

Casually walk into the bar they’re in and stop by to say hello, pretending to be completely oblivious of him having an ‘all-guys’ night.

Ser direto

If you don’t like those texts—tell him. If you’re not feeling like rolling in the sheets—tell him.

Mostre-lhe que sabe o seu valor. Mostra-lhe que mereces ser respeitada para além das tuas partes femininas.

Be straight up about your needs and expectations and don’t let him sweet talk his way out of this.

Mostra-lhe que sabes mais do que só para ser o seu engate.

If that doesn’t make him think about this and actually do something about it, nothing will.

Afastar-se

You did all of this but he’s still being an idiot? You demanded respect, but he just gave you another “Lol, girl, you crazy. Wanna meet up?”

Just walk away. If he’s not capable of seeing the amazing woman that’s in front of him, if he’s not capable of loving that woman, he’s not worth it.