13 maneiras de amar a si mesmo depois de se libertar de um relacionamento tóxico

Arme-se de positivismo.

You’re going into war – a war with yourself, a fight for your survival. Staying positive is the hardest thing depois de estar numa relação tóxica.

You’ve been emotionally neglected and abused for a long time so that it in a way became your surrounding.

Negativity was all around you, and now that you’ve broken free, you still feel beaten and destroyed.

O que deve fazer depois de uma relação tóxica é criar uma zona livre de negatividade. Tem de provar a si próprio que se respeita e ama, escolhendo uma perspetiva positiva para a sua vida.

Ser solteiro é o que precisas neste momento.

Don’t go looking for someone to heal you.

Don’t look for love when you are not ready to love someone yourself. Staying single at this point when you’re hurting is essential.

Ficar sozinho com os seus próprios pensamentos e com a sua luta interna é algo que precisa de fazer sozinho.

If you start a new relationship, it won’t help you heal—you can only destroy the person who is truly falling in love with you.

Esteja sozinho e torne-se amigo de si próprio. Ouça-se a si próprio, às suas necessidades e às suas aspirações. Faça humor com cada uma delas.

Cuide de si e dê uma oportunidade à sua vida de solteiro.

Apaga todas as memórias da sua existência na tua vida.

Delete every photo of him you have and every text he’s ever sent you.

Block him on all social media, so you won’t be tempted to check out his profile on your bad days.

You have a mind of your own; you have a voice of your own. Don’t let his toxicity mess with you, even through memories.

Never take back what you’ve said or what you think.

In the moments of anger and when you felt abandoned, you’ve realized you were abused emotionally.

In those moments, you were angry, and you’ve accepted what was happening to you and what kind of a person he is.

You’ve said things, bad things, but after the critical moment passes, don’t take those words back.

Don’t justify his behavior when your head cools off. It’s as bad as it was. It’s you who is taking a different view on the situation.

Desta vez, pensa apenas em ti.

You’ve been imprisoned. You’ve danced to the music he was playing. Only his wishes mattered, and you were completely ignored.

Now that he’s gone, go crazy. Humor your every need and wish. Eat what you want, go where you want. In other words, spoil yourself – you deserve it.

Seek beauty because it’s around you.

When your world is falling apart, when you’re in a bad place, it’s easy to miss the fact that the world surrounding you is a beautiful place.

As pessoas deixam-se facilmente levar pelos seus próprios problemas e não conseguem ver o que está à sua volta.

Quando tiveres oportunidade, vai lá para fora. Vá dar um passeio ou sente-se no alpendre e espere pelo pôr do sol.

Desfrute das coisas bonitas que a natureza tem para lhe oferecer. Ela curará o seu espírito e devolver-lhe-á a energia de que necessita para se recompor.

Enterrem os vossos defeitos no passado.

Quando acabamos com alguém, a nossa autoestima atinge o zero.

You feel worthless and rejected. So you question why you’re rejected. Is there something wrong with you?

So you start looking for flaws. Actually, all you see are flaws and reasons why you’re not good enough.

Rejeite e enterre esses pensamentos tóxicos no fundo do seu passado.

Em vez de sentir pena de si próprio, pense na força que precisou de ter para deixar a relação tóxica em que se encontrava.

A lot of women stay because they don’t see the way out.

É um dos poucos que foram suficientemente corajosos para dar o passo aterrador para o desconhecido.

O que é o amor-próprio?

Cada pessoa define o amor-próprio de forma diferente. E independentemente da tua resposta, tens de fazer uma coisa.

You have to convince yourself that you’re so much stronger than the negative thoughts haunting you.

You won’t be able to move on with your life and continue your journey to healing if you’re still holding on to the insecurity and to what happened to you in the toxic relationship.

Perdoa-te a ti próprio.

Perdoa-te a ti próprio por teres cometido um erro terrível.

Perdoe-se por não ter reconhecido todos os sinais que o avisavam para sair dessa relação.

Perdoar a si próprio por teres ficado ao lado dele muito mais tempo do que devias.

You don’t have to forgive him for hurting you. You have to forgive yourself for letting him hurt you.

Trace os seus limites.

If you set them low, you’re going to get hurt again.

If you set them high, you’re going to protect yourself. So basically, it’s up to you whether you’re going to live through the same story once again.

Esquece o passado.

You’re going to have weak moments when you wish things could have ended differently, but don’t let that make you do something you’ll regret later.

You’re going to remember the old times and all the happy moments.

Because no matter how toxic the relationship was, you had moments which you’ll remember, happy moments when he wasn’t such an asshole.

Make a list of people you’ve neglected or hurt.

Throughout your toxic relationship, you’ve probably hurt a few people you love.

You‘ve probably excluded them from your life either because they were telling you the truth about the man you’re dating or because the man you dated distanced you from them.

Anyhow, what you did isn’t fair or friendly to anyone, no matter if you were forced to do it or you did it on your own initiative.

Look for the people you’ve hurt and apologize. Those who truly love you will forgive you in a second and pick up where the two of you left off.

Dê a si próprio algum tempo.

Despite the fact that you’ve broken free from a toxic relationship, you still need some time to mourn your loss.

Even when your relationship fails and it was a horrible experience, you’ve engaged your emotions, and you’ve invested in it to make it work.

E todo o teu trabalho árduo foi em vão. Tira algum tempo para ti, e deixa-te ficar triste e sozinho.

Question your existence. Question your faith in God because even when you’re doing everything right, you can’t seem to find happiness.

Zanguem-se e deitem tudo cá para fora!

Never keep it inside because that toxic poison will come out at the moment when you least expect it and destroy you when you’re the happiest.