3 Sinais de que você não é nada mais do que sua garota de recuperação

Se o seu namorado saiu recentemente de uma relação de longa duração, é perfeitamente normal que se interrogue se as coisas acabaram realmente entre os dois.

You know that most people take time to get over a relationship and to find someone else and that scares you. You don’t know if your boyfriend has given himself enough time to grieve his past relationship and to process the break-up before he met you.

On the other hand, the relationship between the two of you is going great, so you simply don’t know what to think. Has he really gotten over his past relationship or is he just faking that he’s moved on com a sua vida?

Ele está a usá-la para a esquecer e para lhe fazer ciúmes ou está realmente pronto para algo sério? Estas são todas as perguntas que não param de passar pela sua cabeça, mas as respostas não estão em lado nenhum.

Por isso, se tem dúvidas sobre se serve apenas como rapariga de recuperação para o seu namorado, aqui estão 3 sinais claros de que sim.

1. A ex-namorada ainda faz parte da vida dele

It is perfectly normal for an ex-couple to stay in friendly relations and it’s the same with your boyfriend and his ex-girlfriend. The fact that they’ve stayed on good terms doesn’t have to mean anything.

But it’s one thing if they are polite to each other when they accidentally meet and another if they call each other for some reason. If she still has an active role in his life, it is quite likely that things between the two of them are not quite over.

If your boyfriend still hangs out with his ex or with her friends and family on a regular basis, it is possible that he’s still not ready to move on with his life and that he wants to stay in hers, one way or another.

You can’t expect him to pretend like she and everyone around her were never a part of his life but if he acts like the two of them never ended things, it should ring alarm bells for you.

Outra coisa que pode servir de bandeira vermelha é o facto de ele se encontrar constantemente com a ex-namorada.

Is it really a coincidence, due to the similar habits they developed while they were in a relationship, or maybe he has an urge to see her but doesn’t want to admit it, so he makes it all look like a coincidence?

2. Ele está sempre a falar dela

Se o seu parceiro teve uma relação duradoura com alguém, tem de aceitar que essa pessoa foi uma parte importante da vida dele.

Therefore, you shouldn’t be bothered if he mentions her from time to time, when she is relevant to some event from his past which he wants to share with you. But it doesn’t mean that he ought to talk about her all the time.

Se ele está sempre a mencionar a ex-namorada sem qualquer motivo, esse pode ser um dos sinais de que estão presos numa relação de ricochete pouco saudável. This can mean that he probably thinks about her all the time and can’t help but mention her.

Se sentes constantemente que ele te compara com ela e se sentes que tens de competir com os fantasmas do passado dele, és, sem dúvida, a sua rapariga de recuperação.

3. Ele está demasiado ansioso por a exibir em público

Quando conhecemos um homem que quer tornar a nossa relação o mais pública possível, normalmente consideramos isso um ótimo sinal. Pensamos que ele é loucamente apaixonado por ti e que se orgulha de ter uma namorada assim e que quer que todos à sua volta o saibam também.

But this isn’t always such a good sign. Every relationship has its own pace and if your boyfriend wants to move things too fast, you need to ask yourself what he is trying to prove and to whom.

He’s been introducing you to all of his friends and family and he keeps posting pictures of the two of you all over social media but is it possible that he is only trying to make his ex-girlfriend jealous? Does he invest more energy in making your relationship look good from the outside rather than improving it for real?

If this is the case, it is likely that your boyfriend just wants his ex-girlfriend’s attention. He doesn’t choose which ways to get it and he is ready to do whatever it takes just so she finds out that he is completely over her.

A dura verdade é que pode ser apenas o instrumento dele para lhe esfregar na cara a sua nova felicidade.