4 coisas que acontecem quando se passa de um traidor para um homem fiel
When you break things off with a cheater, you feel like you’ve atingiu o seu ponto de rutura. Perdes toda a esperança de um amanhã melhor e esperas que todos os homens do teu futuro te tratem da mesma forma que este idiota.
Then, all of a sudden, you meet someone worthy of your love and attention. You meet a mature man who is faithful and loyal and who acts as if he’d never do anything to hurt you.
Quando isso acontece, toda a sua visão do mundo se torna diferente. Pela primeira vez, começa a ver-se a si próprio e a tudo o que o rodeia de forma mais clara e passa por inúmeras mudanças. Aqui estão as 4 mais importantes.
1. Ainda tens problemas de confiança
I have to disappoint you—not everything goes smoothly the moment you find a loyal man because sadly, you still have a lot of past traumas to get over. These issues you’re still carrying around as a heavy burden don’t go away as easily and unfortunately, they impact your new relationship.
First and foremost, you can’t believe that you’ve found someone so different from your ex. You’re wondering if this new guy has some kind of secret agenda and if he plans on screwing you over the same way your ex did. You can’t believe that you’ve found someone this nice and you’re worried that this guy is too good to be true.
2. Percebem o quão tóxica era a vossa relação
Let’s be honest here—throughout your entire relationship, deep down, you always knew that things shouldn’t be like that. You knew that you shouldn’t keep on forgiving that infidelity and mistreatment but you kept on doing so anyhow.
Simultaneously, you also lied to yourself. You kept convincing yourself and everyone else that your relationship wasn’t that bad after all and you kept on ignoring your strong intuition, despite knowing the truth.
However, now, things have changed. Now that you have something to compare it with, you see how awful and toxic your past relationship actually was. For the first time ever, you realistically see all of its horrors and the pain you’ve been through.
Finally, you see what a healthy and normal partnership should look like and you understand that this wasn’t anything similar to what you had. Of course, all of this negative experience from the past taught you to be even more grateful for this homem leal que tens ao teu lado.
3. Percebe o que merece
For years, your ex was putting all the blame on you. He kept diminishing your value and manipulating you to think that you weren’t worthy of love and that you deserved everything that had been going on.
After a while, you started believing him. He managed to persuade you that you really weren’t destined to be loved and that he was the best you’d ever get.
No entanto, agora vê que nada disso é verdade. Agora vê que, durante todo este tempo, estava a contentar-se com menos e que merece muito mais do que aquilo que estava a receber. Vê que, afinal, o amor foi feito para si e que pode ser amado mais do que alguma vez foi.
4. Recupera a sua confiança
Ser enganado destroys everyone’s confidence. You wonder why you weren’t enough for the man you loved so much that he had to find someone else. What was he missing in your relationship, that he had to look for outside of it?
As coisas pioram ainda mais quando o traidor se recusa a assumir a responsabilidade e quando faz tudo o que está ao seu alcance para a convencer de que não serve para nada e que foi a causa de tudo o que aconteceu. Consequentemente, as suas inseguranças aumentam e a sua autoimagem fica completamente destruída.
Bem, felizmente para si, tudo isto muda quando deixa este traidor e muda para um homem verdadeiro, maduro e leal. Este homem vê o teu valor e faz-te pensar mais em ti própria.
He appreciates and respects you, which inspires you to regain your self-respect as well. This man’s love makes you look at yourself through different eyes and it makes you love yourself more. And that is the whole point, isn’t it?
