4 ideias erradas mais comuns que tem sobre os homens

Ao tentarmos compreender o cérebro masculino, fazemos muitas vezes certas generalizações sobre ele, que decidimos serem verdadeiras, quer seja esse o caso ou não.

By doing that, we are actually making it easier for ourself after realizing that we simply weren’t enough for a certain guy to decide to change.

We usually make these assumptions and stick by them after having been through a relationship where a guy wasn’t willing to change his (questionable) ways to make us happy.

Not only is this wrong but it is insulting, both to us and even more to the men out there who actually give a damn and do not fall into your ‘jerk’ category by default.

Here’s what we often get wrong about men:

They can’t be romantic

Claro que nós, mulheres, somos mais propensas ao aspeto romântico das coisas, mas isso deve-se sobretudo aos inúmeros filmes de mulheres que vemos semanalmente (por vezes até diariamente), que nos dão expectativas incrivelmente irrealistas em relação aos homens.

Movies aren’t real life, it’s ridiculous to even have to say that.

Just because a guy in a movie hires a plane that spells out I love you in the sky for his beloved leading lady, does not make your boyfriend’s bouquet any less delightful!

É irrealista esperar que a pessoa amada siga esses gestos grandiosos, especialmente devido ao facto de ninguém poder pagar essas coisas na vida real.

Let’s give them a break and appreciate what they do for us. Surely they are more romantic than we give them credit for.

Let’s learn to appreciate the small gestures that show us they love us. Life isn’t a movie and we aren’t katherine heigl. Everyone’s idea of romance is different!

Para alguns, ir a um jantar elegante seguido de um passeio romântico na praia ao luar é a ideia perfeita de uma noite romântica, enquanto outros acham que um abraço, uma boa conversa e um ombro para chorar depois de um longo dia são o gesto romântico perfeito.

A cada um o seu!

Sentem-se intimidados por mulheres de sucesso

This one is a very common misinterpretation we’ve all heard on tv and in numerous movies.

Uma e outra vez.

Sure, there are guys who might not be okay with us ladies being more successful than them, mostly because it hurts their ego if we are financially more independent, and therefore able to afford certain things that they can’t.

Mas, felizmente, também há muitos homens por aí que sabem que vivemos no século XXI e que as mulheres são mais do que merecedoras de salários iguais e que não acham intimidante estar perto de nós.

Just because you ran into a guy who had a problem with it, does not make it a rule. It’s more of an exception these days and rightfully so.

Se alguém é suficientemente inseguro em relação a isto, só Deus sabe quantas mais inseguranças tem, que nada têm a ver consigo e tudo a ver com ele.

Aim higher, there are plenty more fish in the sea. You’ll meet a guy who can handle you, just as amazing as you are, and will proudly parade you around every chance he gets. Not everyone is your ex.

They’re not emotional

Não é esse o caso. Qualquer rapariga que tenha visto o seu homem ficar loucamente envolvido emocionalmente num jogo de futebol pode atestar isto.

Sure, it can be annoying that he can get so emotional about something as irrelevant as a football match but when it comes to us, we’re lucky if we hear him say I love you once in a blue moon.

But here’s the thing.

Guys aren’t like us. Just because he doesn’t profess his love vocally every chance he gets, does not mean he doesn’t love you.

It’s in the way he acts. Pay attention to his actions. If he makes you tea when you’re feeling under the weather and sits with you under a blanket with his arm around you, you’ve got yourself a keeper.

What more can you ask for? He doesn’t feel the need to constantly tell you this because he shows it when it counts.

É-lhes difícil manterem-se fiéis

It is another common misconception that men can’t control their primitive urges, which makes it hard for them to remain faithful.

Desta forma, fazemos outra falsa generalização sobre eles que não tem nada a ver com a realidade e tudo a ver connosco a tentar encontrar uma desculpa para a sua traição ou tornar mais fácil para nós aceitar que fomos traídos.

Só porque um tipo fez batota, não significa que isso se aplique a todos os homens.

Let’s stop making assumptions about men when it suits us best and start realizing that, yeah, shit happens, but it doesn’t mean it will keep happening with everyone we encounter.

Cheating has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with being an insecure, selfish being who doesn’t appreciate what they have.

Dêem algum crédito aos homens, há bons rapazes por aí, só têm de sair da vossa zona de conforto e procurá-los.

It’s not easy, sure, but don’t give up on all men just because of one bad experience.