4 sinais vermelhos de que a sua relação o está a destruir mentalmente

Todas as relações passam por momentos difíceis de vez em quando. Isso não é segredo e não é nada que um casal feliz e saudável não possa ultrapassar.

A relationship should be your safe place. The place you go to when life knocks you down. The place you go to for comfort, for a genuine smile and a reassuring hug that everything’s going to be okay.

Even when things aren’t running smoothly, you still know there’s no one else you’d go to when you need a loving hug and a sense of belonging.

He’s your safe haven and whatever comes at you, he’s the one you want in your corner.

With that being said, there’s a substantial difference between a healthy relationship that has merely hit a rocky road and one that is toxic, unhealthy and causing you serious self-esteem issues.

Nunca deve sentir que a sua relação lhe está a drenar a energia.

Nunca deve sentir que essa pessoa lhe está a causar ansiedade ou incerteza.

When you feel exhausted, drained and emotionally exasperated, it’s time to reconsider who you’re spending your time with.

Aconteça o que acontecer e quão difícil for, o seu parceiro deve ser sempre a razão do seu sorriso e nunca das suas lágrimas.

Lembrem-se disso.

If you feel like your relationship is causing you to go into a downward spiral but you are too afraid to come to terms with it, here are the most common signs that typically point out that a relationship is seriously damaging a person’s mental well-being and their self-perception.

1. You’re not comfortable openly stating your personal opinions

Os casais devem ser abertos, honestos e transparentes um com o outro. Em qualquer relação boa, saudável e sólida, não há lugar para o medo de expressar qualquer tipo de emoção ou opinião.

If you feel like you have to walk on eggshells around him and are constantly afraid of how he’s going to react to something, it indicates that something has gone seriously wrong in your relationship.

Don’t let yourself be walked all over. If you can’t be your authentic self with this person, he’s not the guy for you!

2. Sente-se frequentemente negligenciado ou sem cuidados

O seu parceiro deve ser o seu principal sistema de apoio. Ele deve amo-te immensely and never let you feel like you’re alone in this relationship.

He’s supposed to make you feel safe!

If you often feel like he doesn’t really pay attention to you, to what you have to say or how you feel, is that really somebody you consider a good romantic partner?

Alguém que é tão desdenhoso das suas emoções?

You know it’s not. If the person who is supposed to inspire you, adore you and reassure you more than anyone is the cause of your loneliness and sadness, you need to get the hell out of there.

You are worthy of love and your feelings matter. Don’t let anyone make you feel otherwise.

3. Sente que ele quer mudar quem você é

Nunca mudar for anyone. There’s only one of you in this world and you are too special to change for a guy who is selfish enough to ask that of you!

If your partner makes you feel like you have to alter any physical aspect of you, your behavior or the way you dress—leave.

He doesn’t love you. He loves his own twisted idea of you.

O homem certo há-de aparecer. E ele vai adorar cada pedacinho de ti.

A sua aparência, a forma como se comporta e a energia que possui. Ele vai apaixonar-se pelas tuas peculiaridades e fazer-te sentir a rapariga mais bonita por dentro e por fora.

Até que esse tipo apareça, poupa-te à miséria de sair com idiotas inseguros.

4. You don’t feel like yourself when you are around him (biggest red flag!)

Se perguntar a algum dos os teus melhores amigos para a descrever, provavelmente diriam que é uma rapariga fantástica, de mente aberta, com um coração de ouro e sem um único osso mau no corpo.

Uma rapariga feliz, com o maior sorriso no rosto e uma abundância de energia positiva.

But when you’re with him, you don’t feel like that girl. Not remotely.

You feel like he is sucking the energy out of you but you’re too scared to admit it.

You feel like a girl who has to fake a smile every single day, just so that he wouldn’t suspect something was wrong.

Sente-se como uma rapariga que tem de concordar com tudo o que ele diz, por muito mal que isso a faça sentir.

Oh and that gorgeous smile you always have on—it’s nowhere to be seen when you’re with him.

This relationship is slowly deteriorating your mental health, you feel like an alien has taken over your body and all you want to do is scream but you’re too afraid to.

Girl, you need to run as far away from this as you can! Relationships are a safe haven, not a place where you feel jaded and alone! He is taking away bits of you and he won’t be satisfied until he has taken everything that makes you so unique.

Por favor, encontra a força dentro de ti e deixa-o.

He is destroying you mentally and bit by bit, he is taking away pieces of your soul that you’re never going to get back once he’s done with you.

Nobody should suffer like this in a relationship. I know it’s hard but when things get this serious, it’s clear you have to get out in order to save yourself.

Decide que és demasiado precioso e forte para deixares que este tipo mate o teu espírito.

The farther you go from him, the sooner you’re going to start feeling like yourself again.

Liberte-se deste manipulador tóxico e deixe o seu espírito brilhar entre aqueles que o amam exatamente por aquilo que é!