5 coisas que as pessoas tóxicas fazem para o destruir
Todos nós temos aquela pessoa na nossa vida por quem nos dobramos como um fio numa tentativa de os agradar. These are the people that are sucking the life out of us—toxic people.
Every time a problem occurs, you end up questioning yourself—is it something you did wrong? You end up thinking it was your fault for the disagreement you had.
But, it’s their fault. The only thing that makes the difference is that they have the power to make you believe you’re the one to blame.
If you’ve had enough of their negative energies and their bad attitudes, you have to cut them off from your life—tear them off like bandages, fast. That’s the only way to get rid of those negative people.
You mustn’t support their toxic behavior because they will capture you in their vicious never-ending circle of toxicity.
Há muitas coisas que as pessoas tóxicas fazem para manipular os outros e para manipular as situações em seu benefício. Aqui estão algumas delas:
1. São manipuladores
Tem a sensação de que está o único que está a fazer progressos no desenvolvimento da vossa relação—and you are right!
These people have the power to make you think you are the one to blame for all the bad that is happening to you, even though they are the main initiators for planting the ‘seed of evil’ in your relationship.
They will trick you into doing something you don’t want to or something that will hurt you and in the end, they will convince you it was for your own good.
They will convince you their plan was brilliant and it was your fault that you failed. Due to the fact you failed you are hurting—you are the one to blame.
2. They don’t listen
Did you ever have the feeling you’re talking but your words don’t seem to be getting through to the person you’re talking to? Well if you did, you were probably talking to a toxic person.
They have absolutely no interest in what you’ve got to say.
Só lhes interessa o que têm para dizer e o que lhes diz respeito.
No matter how urgent or important the thing you have to say is, they won’t be interested.
Even if you’ve got their attention for a while and it looks like they are listening to you, they will interrupt you while you’re talking and start talking about something that is important to them.
3. Estão a projetar os seus sentimentos em si
Tem a sensação constante de que algo está errado e que é a principal razão para isso.
That person who is next to you is angry all the time, but he or she acts as if everything is ok and he or she forces you to believe you’re the angry one.
They are making you believe it’s your problem. It’s hard to get out from these situations because they have so much ability to make you believe what they want you to believe.
This is similar to manipulating but actually it’s projecting their emotions on to you and making you believe you’re the core of the problem—you end up being in the emotional state they are actually in.
4. They have no respect for you and they think they’re better than you
They discard everything you’ve got to say and they don’t care for what you want and what you do. They have double standards when it comes to your dreams and aspirations.
Além disso, têm dois pesos e duas medidas em geral. Para eles, não há problema em fazer uma coisa, mas se fizermos a mesma coisa, há um problema.
Em geral, pensam que são melhores do que nós. They have the ability to make you feel worthless—like shit.
Continuarão a dizer coisas que o fazem sentir-se pequeno e insignificante, apenas para se colocarem acima de si.
5. Estão a puxá-lo para baixo
O que acontece com as pessoas tóxicas é que elas estão a puxar-nos para baixo.
They don’t bring out the best in you—your potential is decaying because there is no one there to encourage you to do what you want. You have no support whatsoever.
Encontrarão sempre uma forma de o deitar abaixo, por isso mantém-se calado para não lhe dar oportunidade de o fazer. Haverá uma forma mais astuta de controlar alguém do que essa?
Getting rid of the toxic people in your life will only make your life more beautiful, so don’t be afraid to do that step and exclude them from your life.
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