5 lembretes para uma rapariga que não viu o seu desgosto chegar

Alguma vez se envolveu com um tipo que nem sonhava que a pudesse magoar?

Com alguém que pensavas ser a tua pessoa para sempre e que te fez acreditar que preferia morrer a partir-te o coração?

However, after a while, that was exactly what he did—shattered it to pieces without thinking twice. 

Well, the worst part about this case scenario is the fact that you didn’t see your heartbreak coming. You didn’t expect it and it just hit you out of nowhere. 

So now, you’re not only devastated by the pain of your ex leaving you, you’re also in a state of shock. What actually happened and when did things start going downhill?

If this is something you can relate to, please don’t forget these 5 things. 

1. It’s not your fault

When we get betrayed by someone we trusted the most, the first thing that goes through our mind is that we’re guilty of allowing this to happen in the first place. And you’re no different.

You can’t believe that you picked the wrong guy, that you let him into your life and heart and that you gave him the opportunity to hurt you.

You can’t believe how you could have fallen for his lies and wonder whether there was something you could have done to prevent all of this from happening. 

Como pudeste ser tão tola para planear um futuro com alguém que obviamente nunca te amou o suficiente?

Como é que pudeste cair nas suas promessas vazias e esperar um resultado completamente diferente?

Well, let me tell you that you’re not to blame. He is the only one responsible for breaking your heart and you’re nothing but his victim. 

No, you’re not stupid and there was no way for you to predict this outcome.

You were (and probably still are) just in love and the intensity of your feelings didn’t let you see things clearly. 

2. Tudo isto faz parte da vida

This might not be comforting but you’re not alone in this pain. You’re not the only person in the world who is going through something like this. 

Yes, I know that the fact that other people are suffering as well won’t ease your pain but it will definitely make you feel like less of a fool, if nothing else.

Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that all of this is a part of dating and that there probably doesn’t exist a single human being who hasn’t experienced something similar at some point. 

After all, you can’t expect your life to be all sunshine and roses. You have to go through a few failures and a few break-ups before finding the real deal. 

Por isso, deixe de ver o desgosto como o fim do mundo. Em vez disso, veja-o como uma oportunidade para um novo começo. 

3. It won’t break you…

Another thing you must have in mind at all times is that luckily, this man hasn’t succeeded in quebrando-o só porque ele encontrou uma maneira de partir o teu coração.

Even if you don’t see this now, you’re much stronger than you appear and than you might think. 

Despite all the pain you’re feeling at this moment, he didn’t break you beyond repair.

Ele prejudicou-a até certo ponto, mas as suas feridas acabarão por se transformar em cicatrizes e acabará por sarar. 

Vai ultrapassar o seu ex e vai ressurgir desta experiência como uma fénix das cinzas.

And when that happens, you’ll be more powerful than ever.

Prometo-te uma coisa: vais seguir em frente com a tua vida. Vais conseguir viver sem ele e vais sobreviver! 

4. …but it will teach you a lot

I’ll be honest here; I’m not saying that your heartbreak didn’t change you.

Yes, you still remain the same person you’ve always been in the essence of your soul but something like this would leave a mark on anyone. 

No entanto, em vez de deixar que a escuridão o engula e que tudo isto o torne negativo, amargo e emocionalmente indisponívelA Comissão Europeia, em conjunto com a Comissão Europeia, vê esta mudança como uma oportunidade para ser e fazer melhor.

See all of this as a valuable experience that will shape you into the woman you’re destined to become. 

Encara-o como um teste à tua força e à tua fé, como uma oportunidade para aprenderes a não repetir os teus erros. 

Veja as coisas de um ponto de vista mais positivo; a verdade é que, desta vez, o seu desgosto apanhou-o desprevenido.

Surpreendeu-nos e deixou-nos chocados, para além de nos ter destroçado. 

No entanto, garanto-vos que, da próxima vez, tudo será muito diferente.

Now, you’re richer for one experience more and you have the ability to see the signs that something is off before you get backstabbed. 

You’re wiser and smarter now and you’ll be able to spot all the red flags you should run away from. And that was never possible before. 

Outra coisa que aprenderá é a escolher melhor e a ter mais cuidado com as pessoas a quem dá acesso.

You will understand that you don’t need anyone to give your life meaning and that you can keep on going without all those you thought you needed. 

Not only that—you will also master the art of healing.

Vai fazer uma grande introspeção e vai encontrar as melhores formas de se ajudar a si próprio quando passar por uma fase difícil, independentemente de estar ou não relacionada com o amor. 

5. You’re not unlovable

Just because one guy ditched you, it doesn’t mean that your personal history will repeat itself.

Just because he failed to see your worth, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be enough for some other man who will know how to appreciate you. 

Just because your ex didn’t treat you the way you deserved, it doesn’t mean that all the men you meet will be like him.

Just because he turned out to be a manipulative jerk and a liar, it doesn’t mean that you won’t run into an honest, nice guy who will conquer your heart all over again.

Most importantly—just because one douchebag didn’t care for you, it doesn’t make you inamável ou indesejável.

This guy doesn’t represent all the men out there and you shouldn’t allow your past traumas to prevent you from having a bright future and a happy love life. 

Please, don’t let him diminish your worth and kill you spiritually. Don’t let him destroy your optimism and faith in love.

Don’t let him convince you that you’ll never find someone who will love you wholeheartedly. Because you will. 

E até lá, até que o homem certo apareça, amarmo-nos o melhor que pudermos será mais do que suficiente.