Have you ever been involved with a guy you couldn’t even dream of hurting you?
With someone you thought was your forever person and who made you believe that he would rather die than break your heart?
However, after a while, that was exactly what he did—shattered it to pieces without thinking twice.
Well, the worst part about this case scenario is the fact that you didn’t see your heartbreak coming. You didn’t expect it and it just hit you out of nowhere.
So now, you’re not only devastated by the pain of your ex leaving you, you’re also in a state of shock. What actually happened and when did things start going downhill?
If this is something you can relate to, please don’t forget these 5 things.
1. It’s not your fault
When we get betrayed by someone we trusted the most, the first thing that goes through our mind is that we’re guilty of allowing this to happen in the first place. And you’re no different.
You can’t believe that you picked the wrong guy, that you let him into your life and heart and that you gave him the opportunity to hurt you.
You can’t believe how you could have fallen for his lies and wonder whether there was something you could have done to prevent all of this from happening.
How could you have been so foolish to actually plan a future with someone who obviously never loved you enough?
How could you have fallen for his empty promises and expected a completely different result?
Well, let me tell you that you’re not to blame. He is the only one responsible for breaking your heart and you’re nothing but his victim.
No, you’re not stupid and there was no way for you to predict this outcome.
You were (and probably still are) just in love and the intensity of your feelings didn’t let you see things clearly.
2. All of this is a part of life
This might not be comforting but you’re not alone in this pain. You’re not the only person in the world who is going through something like this.
Yes, I know that the fact that other people are suffering as well won’t ease your pain but it will definitely make you feel like less of a fool, if nothing else.
Basically, what I’m trying to tell you is that all of this is a part of dating and that there probably doesn’t exist a single human being who hasn’t experienced something similar at some point.
After all, you can’t expect your life to be all sunshine and roses. You have to go through a few failures and a few break-ups before finding the real deal.
Therefore, stop seeing your heartbreak as the end of the world. Instead, see it as an opportunity for a new beginning.
3. It won’t break you…
Another thing you must have in mind at all times is that luckily, this man hasn’t succeeded in breaking you just because he found a way to break your heart.
Even if you don’t see this now, you’re much stronger than you appear and than you might think.
Despite all the pain you’re feeling at this moment, he didn’t break you beyond repair.
He did damage you to a certain extent but your wounds will eventually turn into scars and you will heal.
You will get over your ex and you will rise from this experience like a phoenix from the ashes.
And when that happens, you’ll be more powerful than ever.
I promise you one thing: you will move on with your life. You will make it without him and you will survive!
4. …but it will teach you a lot
I’ll be honest here; I’m not saying that your heartbreak didn’t change you.
Yes, you still remain the same person you’ve always been in the essence of your soul but something like this would leave a mark on anyone.
Nevertheless, instead of allowing the darkness to swallow you and for all of this to make you negative, bitter and emotionally unavailable, see this change as a chance to be and do better.
See all of this as a valuable experience that will shape you into the woman you’re destined to become.
Observe it as a test of your strength and faith, as an opportunity to learn not to repeat your mistakes.
Look at things from a brighter point of view; the truth is that this time, your heartbreak caught you unawares.
It surprised you and left you shocked, besides tearing you apart.
However, I assure you that next time, everything will be much different.
Now, you’re richer for one experience more and you have the ability to see the signs that something is off before you get backstabbed.
You’re wiser and smarter now and you’ll be able to spot all the red flags you should run away from. And that was never possible before.
Another thing you will learn is to choose better and to be more careful about the ones you give access to.
You will understand that you don’t need anyone to give your life meaning and that you can keep on going without all those you thought you needed.
Not only that—you will also master the art of healing.
You will engage in a lot of introspection and you will find the best ways to help yourself when going through a rough patch, regardless of whether it is related to love or not.
5. You’re not unlovable
Just because one guy ditched you, it doesn’t mean that your personal history will repeat itself.
Just because he failed to see your worth, it doesn’t mean that you won’t be enough for some other man who will know how to appreciate you.
Just because your ex didn’t treat you the way you deserved, it doesn’t mean that all the men you meet will be like him.
Just because he turned out to be a manipulative jerk and a liar, it doesn’t mean that you won’t run into an honest, nice guy who will conquer your heart all over again.
Most importantly—just because one douchebag didn’t care for you, it doesn’t make you unlovable or undateable.
This guy doesn’t represent all the men out there and you shouldn’t allow your past traumas to prevent you from having a bright future and a happy love life.
Please, don’t let him diminish your worth and kill you spiritually. Don’t let him destroy your optimism and faith in love.
Don’t let him convince you that you’ll never find someone who will love you wholeheartedly. Because you will.
And until then, until the right man comes along, loving yourself the best you can will be more than enough.