5 sinais perturbadores de que o seu ex é um verdadeiro psicopata
Ele era um psicopata. Um louco completo e absoluto.
That is the sentence I use to describe my ex. He was a true example of a classic abuser. No, I didn’t have bruises on my body. He didn’t hit me, but emotional scars were deeply carved on my heart.
It’ll take months for them to stop itching. It’ll take years for them to fade away.
Ele sabia que as suas palavras magoavam como o inferno. Ele sabia que podia destruir-me com uma simples frase. Ele só precisava de me bater com força onde mais dói. E ele fê-lo. Todas. Único. dia.
Those horrible years of my life are finally over. I’ve escaped his psychopathic grip. It is like I’ve awakened from a terrible dream.
Uma súbita constatação atingiu-me como um comboio – Ele é um verdadeiro exemplo de psicopata.
Eu sabia que tinha de me afastar dele o mais depressa possível. Sabia que tinha de ser inteligente.
I couldn’t allow him to manipulate me to stay once again. Not this time.
Psychopaths are highly intelligent, and you can’t recognize their behavior as abuso emocional imediatamente. Podem passar-se meses ou mesmo anos antes de se aperceber completamente de que ele está a tornar a sua vida num inferno.
Your depression, your anxiety, the lack of will to live your life which you’ve once enjoyed…it is all him. It is all happening because of him.
I’ve seen that. I’ve lived it, and I saved myself by acting quickly and wisely.
Mas o que acontece quando se separa um pouco cedo demais, antes de ele mostrar as suas verdadeiras cores ou se ele se cansa de si e acaba por se separar?
You may think that his desperate behavior, stalking and bad mouthing you is just an attempt to get you back, but it’s much more serious than that.
It’s a revelation of who he actually is. It’s damn good proof why your decision to break up with him was the best one you could ever make.
Depois de leres estes sinais, a única frase que usarás para descrever o teu ex será exatamente a mesma que a minha – ele era um psicopata. Um louco completo e absoluto.
1. Mudou demasiado depressa
Every relationship has a honeymoon phase at the beginning. Both of you are on your best behavior because you want to keep each other. You’re enjoying the new relationship, and you don’t want it to end.
So, you’ll put up with things you usually wouldn’t just because you’ve just started dating. This is where most of us fuck up. Instead of keeping quiet, you have to confront him.
O conflito fará com que ele mostre a sua verdadeira face e as suas verdadeiras intenções.
O que acontece é que, no início, ele é gentil e compassivo, apenas para a treinar para ser obediente. Depois, de repente, ele muda de comportamento e torna-se impossível de conviver, e a fase da lua de mel acaba oficialmente.
2. Ele ama tudo o que tu amas
Um dos principais movimentos dos psicopatas é tentarem convencer-nos de que gostam das mesmas coisas que nós. Basicamente, querem fazer-te acreditar vocês foram feitos um para o outro.
Se se abrir com ele e partilhar os traumas da sua infância, ele dirá que também passou por momentos difíceis enquanto crescia. Se lhe disseres de que música gostas, ele dirá que também gosta.
A isto chama-se espelhar. Ele imita tudo o que amas ou fazes, tudo o que te aconteceu, tanto o bom como o mau.
At the beginning of the relationship, they mirror you to get you to like them. In the middle of it, they try to convince that you’re the same, and by the end of it, they see you as completely opposite than in the beginning.
If they said that you were smart, now, they are saying you’re stupid.
3. Once you were everything to him; now you’re nothing
Eras a sua razão de viver, a menina dos seus olhos. Então, uma manhã, acordaste e, de ser tudo, passaste a ser nada.
Mudou a opinião que tinha de si. Tornou-se distante e desinteressado de si. E isso levou-a a pensar que tinha feito algo de errado.
But, the thing is, it’s all a tactic to mess with you, to destroy your confidence. He wants you to doubt yourself and question what you could have possibly done to chase him away.
Ele quer que não tenhas a certeza de ti própria e que só o ouças a ele. Ele quer que sejais obedientes.
He made you think that you and he have an unbreakable bond. He made you feel like you’ve found the man of your dreams.
But the thing is, after he accomplishes that, he becomes bored, he gets sick of you. You’re no longer attractive to him because he got what he wanted.
So he leaves feeling nothing, neither regret nor remorse. These men cannot feel empathy. They don’t give a damn about your emotions and the fact you’re left broken, hurting.
4. Ele coloca-se em primeiro lugar
Os psicopatas são hipersensíveis, mas apenas quando se trata deles. Sentir-se-ão negligenciados e atacados se alguém os criticar.
Then, they’ll go out and seek the best way to get their revenge, and you won’t even know they were hurt or what the hell is going on.
They only think about themselves and are unable to feel empathy toward anyone else. Other people’s feelings are completely irrelevant to them.
5. Ele bloqueia a tua felicidade futura
He doesn’t want you to move on. It’s like he has a sixth sense when it comes to your happiness. Every time something nice happens to you, there he is. He shows up and tries to demolish everything you’ve built after him.
He pretends he wants to keep a warm relationship. He wants you to stay friends, but actually, the only reason he is back in your life is to make sure you don’t move on.
He suddenly wants you to give him another try. But that is not a sincere request. That is just another play from his thick playbook to try to lure you back into his life of terror. It’s just another try to keep you as his toxic supply.
If you can’t get rid of him and he keeps popping back into your life announced, you have to take some serious steps. If you want to move on with your life, you have to não entrar em contacto.
Nunca mais ouvir falar dele. Elimine todos os contactos que tenha com ele e apague-o da sua memória de uma vez por todas.
Only then, you’ll have a fighting chance to move on with your life. A better life, a happier life.
