5 inquietantes señales de que tu ex es un auténtico psicópata

Era un psicópata. Un loco total y absoluto.

That is the sentence I use to describe my ex. He was a true example of a classic abuser. No, I didn’t have bruises on my body. He didn’t hit me, but emotional scars were deeply carved on my heart.

It’ll take months for them to stop itching. It’ll take years for them to fade away.  

Sabía que sus palabras dolían mucho. Sabía que podía destruirme con una simple frase. Sólo necesitaba golpearme fuerte donde más duele. Y lo hizo. Cada. Cada. Día.

Those horrible years of my life are finally over. I’ve escaped his psychopathic grip. It is like I’ve awakened from a terrible dream.

Una repentina comprensión me ha golpeado como un tren – Es un ejemplo real de psicópata.

Sabía que tenía que alejarme de él tan rápido como pudiera. Sabía que tenía que ser inteligente al respecto.

I couldn’t allow him to manipulate me to stay once again. Not this time.

Psychopaths are highly intelligent, and you can’t recognize their behavior as abuso emocional de inmediato. Pueden pasar meses o incluso años antes de que seas plenamente consciente de que está haciendo de tu vida un infierno.

Your depression, your anxiety, the lack of will to live your life which you’ve once enjoyed…it is all him. It is all happening because of him.

I’ve seen that. I’ve lived it, and I saved myself by acting quickly and wisely.

Pero, ¿qué pasa cuando rompes demasiado pronto, antes de que muestre su verdadera cara o si se cansa de ti y rompe?

You may think that his desperate behavior, stalking and bad mouthing you is just an attempt to get you back, but it’s much more serious than that.

It’s a revelation of who he actually is. It’s damn good proof why your decision to break up with him was the best one you could ever make.

Después de leer estas señales, la frase que usarás para describir a tu ex será exactamente la misma que la mía – era un psicópata. Un loco total y absoluto.

1. Cambió demasiado rápido

Every relationship has a honeymoon phase at the beginning. Both of you are on your best behavior because you want to keep each other. You’re enjoying the new relationship, and you don’t want it to end.

So, you’ll put up with things you usually wouldn’t just because you’ve just started dating. This is where most of us fuck up. Instead of keeping quiet, you have to confront him.

El conflicto hará que muestre su verdadero rostro y sus verdaderas intenciones.

Lo que ocurre es que al principio es amable y compasivo, sólo para entrenarte a ser obediente. Entonces, de repente cambia su comportamiento y se vuelve imposible estar cerca de él, y la fase de luna de miel se acaba oficialmente.

2. Ama todo lo que tú amas

Uno de los principales movimientos psicopáticos es que intentan convencerte de que les gustan las mismas cosas que a ti. Básicamente quieren hacerte creer estáis hechos el uno para el otro.

Si te abres a él y le cuentas los traumas de tu infancia, te dirá que él también lo pasó mal. Si le dices qué música te gusta, te dirá que a él también le gusta.

A esto se le llama imitar. Imita todo lo que amas o haces, todo lo que te ha pasado, tanto lo bueno como lo malo.

At the beginning of the relationship, they mirror you to get you to like them. In the middle of it, they try to convince that you’re the same, and by the end of it, they see you as completely opposite than in the beginning.

If they said that you were smart, now, they are saying you’re stupid.

3. Once you were everything to him; now you’re nothing

Eras su razón de vivir, la niña de sus ojos. Entonces una mañana te despertaste, y de serlo todo, pasaste a no ser nada.

Cambió su opinión sobre ti. Se volvió distante y desinteresado en ti. Y esto te llevó a pensar que habías hecho algo mal.

But, the thing is, it’s all a tactic to mess with you, to destroy your confidence. He wants you to doubt yourself and question what you could have possibly done to chase him away.

Quiere que seas insegura de ti misma y que sólo le escuches a él. Quiere que seas obediente.

He made you think that you and he have an unbreakable bond. He made you feel like you’ve found the man of your dreams.

But the thing is, after he accomplishes that, he becomes bored, he gets sick of you. You’re no longer attractive to him because he got what he wanted.

So he leaves feeling nothing, neither regret nor remorse. These men cannot feel empathy. They don’t give a damn about your emotions and the fact you’re left broken, hurting.

4. Se pone a sí mismo en primer lugar

Los psicópatas son hipersensibles, pero sólo cuando se trata de ellos. Se sentirán desatendidos y atacados si alguien les critica.

Then, they’ll go out and seek the best way to get their revenge, and you won’t even know they were hurt or what the hell is going on.

They only think about themselves and are unable to feel empathy toward anyone else. Other people’s feelings are completely irrelevant to them.

5. Bloquea tu felicidad futura

He doesn’t want you to move on. It’s like he has a sixth sense when it comes to your happiness. Every time something nice happens to you, there he is. He shows up and tries to demolish everything you’ve built after him.

He pretends he wants to keep a warm relationship. He wants you to stay friends, but actually, the only reason he is back in your life is to make sure you don’t move on.

He suddenly wants you to give him another try. But that is not a sincere request. That is just another play from his thick playbook to try to lure you back into his life of terror. It’s just another try to keep you as his toxic supply.

If you can’t get rid of him and he keeps popping back into your life announced, you have to take some serious steps. If you want to move on with your life, you have to ir sin contacto.

No vuelvas a saber nada de él. Borra todo contacto que tengas con él, y bórralo de tu memoria de una vez por todas.

Only then, you’ll have a fighting chance to move on with your life. A better life, a happier life.