5 inquietanti segni che il vostro ex è un vero e proprio psicopatico
Era uno psicopatico. Un pazzo completo e totale.
That is the sentence I use to describe my ex. He was a true example of a classic abuser. No, I didn’t have bruises on my body. He didn’t hit me, but emotional scars were deeply carved on my heart.
It’ll take months for them to stop itching. It’ll take years for them to fade away.
Sapeva che le sue parole facevano un male cane. Sapeva che poteva distruggermi con una semplice frase. Doveva solo colpirmi con forza dove faceva più male. E l'ha fatto. Ogni. Singolo. giorno.
Those horrible years of my life are finally over. I’ve escaped his psychopathic grip. It is like I’ve awakened from a terrible dream.
Un'improvvisa consapevolezza mi ha colpito come un treno – È un esempio da manuale di psicopatico.
Sapevo di dovermi allontanare da lui il più velocemente possibile. Sapevo che dovevo essere intelligente.
I couldn’t allow him to manipulate me to stay once again. Not this time.
Psychopaths are highly intelligent, and you can’t recognize their behavior as abuso emotivo subito. Possono passare mesi o addirittura anni prima che vi rendiate conto che sta rendendo la vostra vita un inferno.
Your depression, your anxiety, the lack of will to live your life which you’ve once enjoyed…it is all him. It is all happening because of him.
I’ve seen that. I’ve lived it, and I saved myself by acting quickly and wisely.
Ma cosa succede se vi lasciate un po' troppo presto, prima che lui mostri la sua vera natura o se si stanca di voi e vi lascia?
You may think that his desperate behavior, stalking and bad mouthing you is just an attempt to get you back, but it’s much more serious than that.
It’s a revelation of who he actually is. It’s damn good proof why your decision to break up with him was the best one you could ever make.
Dopo aver letto questi segnali, l'unica frase che userete per descrivere il vostro ex sarà esattamente come la mia – era uno psicopatico. Un pazzo completo e totale.
1. È cambiato troppo velocemente
Every relationship has a honeymoon phase at the beginning. Both of you are on your best behavior because you want to keep each other. You’re enjoying the new relationship, and you don’t want it to end.
So, you’ll put up with things you usually wouldn’t just because you’ve just started dating. This is where most of us fuck up. Instead of keeping quiet, you have to confront him.
Il conflitto lo porterà a mostrare il suo vero volto e le sue vere intenzioni.
Succede che all'inizio è gentile e compassionevole, solo per addestrarvi all'obbedienza. Poi, improvvisamente, cambia comportamento e diventa impossibile da frequentare, e la fase della luna di miele è ufficialmente finita.
2. Ama tutto ciò che voi amate
Una delle principali mosse degli psicopatici è quella di convincervi che a loro piacciono le stesse cose che piacciono a voi. In pratica vogliono farvi credere siete fatti l'uno per l'altro.
Se vi aprite con lui e condividete i traumi della vostra infanzia, vi dirà che anche lui ha avuto un periodo difficile di crescita. Se gli dite che musica amate, vi dirà che anche lui la ama.
Questo si chiama rispecchiamento. Imita tutto ciò che amate o fate, tutto ciò che vi è successo, sia il bene che il male.
At the beginning of the relationship, they mirror you to get you to like them. In the middle of it, they try to convince that you’re the same, and by the end of it, they see you as completely opposite than in the beginning.
If they said that you were smart, now, they are saying you’re stupid.
3. Once you were everything to him; now you’re nothing
Eri la sua ragione di vita, la pupilla dei suoi occhi. Poi una mattina ti sei svegliata e da tutto sei diventata niente.
Ha cambiato opinione su di voi. È diventato distante e disinteressato a voi. E questo vi ha portato a pensare di aver fatto qualcosa di sbagliato.
But, the thing is, it’s all a tactic to mess with you, to destroy your confidence. He wants you to doubt yourself and question what you could have possibly done to chase him away.
Vuole che non siate sicuri di voi stessi e che ascoltiate solo lui. Vuole che diventiate obbedienti.
He made you think that you and he have an unbreakable bond. He made you feel like you’ve found the man of your dreams.
But the thing is, after he accomplishes that, he becomes bored, he gets sick of you. You’re no longer attractive to him because he got what he wanted.
So he leaves feeling nothing, neither regret nor remorse. These men cannot feel empathy. They don’t give a damn about your emotions and the fact you’re left broken, hurting.
4. Mette se stesso al primo posto
Gli psicopatici sono ipersensibili, ma solo quando si tratta di loro. Si sentono trascurati e attaccati se qualcuno li critica.
Then, they’ll go out and seek the best way to get their revenge, and you won’t even know they were hurt or what the hell is going on.
They only think about themselves and are unable to feel empathy toward anyone else. Other people’s feelings are completely irrelevant to them.
5. Blocca la vostra felicità futura
He doesn’t want you to move on. It’s like he has a sixth sense when it comes to your happiness. Every time something nice happens to you, there he is. He shows up and tries to demolish everything you’ve built after him.
He pretends he wants to keep a warm relationship. He wants you to stay friends, but actually, the only reason he is back in your life is to make sure you don’t move on.
He suddenly wants you to give him another try. But that is not a sincere request. That is just another play from his thick playbook to try to lure you back into his life of terror. It’s just another try to keep you as his toxic supply.
If you can’t get rid of him and he keeps popping back into your life announced, you have to take some serious steps. If you want to move on with your life, you have to non contattare.
Non sentitelo mai più. Cancellate ogni contatto con lui e cancellatelo dalla vostra memoria una volta per tutte.
Only then, you’ll have a fighting chance to move on with your life. A better life, a happier life.
