A solidão é o pior sentimento que existe. Pode ser descrito como a sensação de vazio. Sente-se como se tivesse um enorme buraco no peito e na vida.

It’s like you constantly miss someone who wasn’t even there and who’s not going to come. And no matter how hard you try to get your shit together and feel happy for a second, you fail. Esse ligeiro sentimento de felicidade que sente é, na verdade, falso.

The moment you start feeling happy, something inside you simply blocks that feeling. Your subconscious is telling you that happiness is not good for you and that you shouldn’t feel that way at all.

It’s telling you that you’re meant to feel that empty and that lonely for as long as possible. You can’t shake off that feeling.

If you recently broke up with someone, you will feel like he’s the only one who could make you feel fulfilled once more. But he will never be yours again. And God knows when that feeling will disappear. It could be gone by tomorrow. But it might be that it’s here to stay.

Por isso, se quiser evitar sentir-se sozinho, aqui ficam algumas dicas que deve seguir:

1. Conhecer-se a si próprio

Estar sozinho sem se tornar solitário é uma tarefa difícil. Para não se sentir só, é preciso conhecer-se a si próprio e aos seus sentimentos. Quando compreender os seus sentimentos, saberá o que funciona melhor para si e o que o faz feliz.

Faça mais coisas que o façam feliz. Put all your effort and focus into that, and you’ll find yourself stronger than ever before.

2. Arranjar um passatempo

It’s already been mentioned that you should do more things that make you happy. Find one thing you truly enjoy doing and make a hobby out of it or take some classes, so you could learn something new.

Existem inúmeras possibilidades. Take time to explore and see what you’re interested in. If you prioritize your happiness among other feelings, you’ll forget what loneliness even is.

3. Sair com os amigos

Sair com os amigos é sempre uma boa ideia. Leve-os ao seu restaurante favorito, para que possam pôr tudo em dia durante uma boa refeição.

There’s only one rule: every topic you talk about should be a positive one. Friends who laugh together stay together—and those who eat, as well.

4. Don’t think about relationships

When you see your friend with her boyfriend, don’t instantly think, “I want that”. Think how happy you are that she’s found someone who’s worth her time and makes her happy. Their relationship isn’t perfect.

Na verdade, nenhuma relação o é. But when you’re alone, you create that picture in your head of how the only thing that brings happiness to people is being with someone.

The reality is much different. Don’t let your imagination fool you. You won’t be happy if you find a boyfriend. You’ll be happy if you decide to be happy. That’s why you shouldn’t even think about relationships and how others feel. Focus on making yourself happy.

5. Ocupar-se

In order to avoid thinking about relationships, you should get busy, whether it’s with work or with the hobby you’ve created for yourself. The time you have while you’re single is too valuable to waste.

Esta é a tua oportunidade de fazeres tudo o que sempre quiseste fazer sem depender de ninguém. Tem todo o tempo e energia para fazer o que lhe apetece.

Por isso, ocupem-se e trabalhem nos vossos sonhos. Tornar os seus sonhos realidade. You shouldn’t wait for anything. You are the only person who knows how to be you. No one will achieve your dreams for you. If you surround yourself with your dreams, you can never be lonely.

6. Divertir-se

A coisa mais importante na sua vida, em geral, é divertir-se.

In order to be happy with your life, you need to have fun while living it. Taking every step in your life with a smile on your face is what life should be. You are the only person you have in your life and it’s important to learn how to have fun with yourself. While having fun with yourself, you won’t even think of having fun with anyone else.