10 maneiras de o reconquistar (sem parecer desesperada)

Interrogações como o recuperar sem parecer desesperado ou demasiado insistente?

Don’t worry, here are some tips and tricks that will help you accomplish this!

If you’re trying to get your ex back, you have to be very careful and smart while working on your plan.

Because when your pride gets hurt and when you want someone back so badly, it’s not unheard of to become a bit desperate, because you want it so much.

You’re not thinking clearly because you’ve been hurt and you definitely haven’t gotten over him yet, you still love him.

E quando o amor está envolvido, nenhum de nós pensa corretamente. Somos capazes de fazer todo o tipo de loucuras de que nem sequer nos apercebemos.

But let’s say that there is another way to get him back, without looking desperate or needy.

If you go in the needy direction to make your plan come true, you’re only going to make things worse. When he sees that crazy and needy side of you, he’ll be glad that he broke up with you.

And we don’t want that. We want him to realize that he made the biggest mistake of his life, which he probably did but anyway…

10 MANEIRAS DE O RECONQUISTAR (SEM PARECER DESESPERADA)

1. Don’t disagree with him about the end of your relationship

Listen to what he’s got to say about why he broke up with you and don’t argue with him. It’s so much better to accept the truth.

Tire algum tempo para pensar e absorver o que ele disse e aceite-o. Pode voltar a falar com ele mais tarde.

Mostre-lhe que é um adulto maduro e que aceita o facto de ter feito algo de errado.

If you really did, apologize to him, and if you didn’t, talk to him normally without screaming and arguing but don’t try to change his mind.

If he sees how maturely you’re handling the whole situation, he might just change his mind after all.

2. Don’t beg him to come back

This is just desperate and as I said, you don’t want to be desperate.

É uma mulher digna de um homem que a trate como ela merece.

So don’t ever beg him to get back with you. It will make you look needy and you will only confirm his decision is the right one.

Os homens gostam de mulheres que se sentem bem consigo próprias e que o demonstram. É algo que a torna atraente. A confiança excita-os.

Por isso, se o queres atrair de novo, mostra-lhe que estás bem e feliz contigo mesma, aconteça o que acontecer.

3. Admite que também és responsável pela tua separação

Nunca o culpe por tudo. Pense na vossa relação e, mesmo que ela tenha resultado no fim da relação, assuma também a sua parte da culpa.

Talvez algo que tenha feito o tenha levado a acabar consigo. Admita a si própria que não é perfeita e que há sempre espaço para crescer e encontrar uma forma de ser mais madura.

If you also take the blame, he’ll see that you are reasonable and maybe he’ll give you another shot because you showed him that something has changed, unlike in the past.

4. Regra de não contacto

While the wound is still fresh, you have to play by the ‘no contact’ rule if you want a positive outcome later.

Also, when you just break up, you are angry and there is the possibility that you might say something to him that you will regret later on, something that you didn’t mean but anger made you say it. You mustn’t call or text him for at least four weeks.

Avoid hanging out with your mutual friends because you’ll probably run into him and don’t pretend you don’t know where he goes and then accidentally run into him on the street.

Se conseguir evitar estas coisas e lhe der algum espaço, quando lhe enviar uma mensagem ou lhe telefonar, ele pode ficar contente por a ouvir e pode perceber que o que fez foi um erro.

5. Não há lugar para a inveja

I know this is easier said than done, because let’s face it, it’s not easy to see your ex dating another woman shortly after you broke up.

Maybe when you see him with someone new you’ll think that there is no way you’ll ever recuperá-lo. But that doesn’t have to necessarily be true.

Normalmente, uma relação que acontece logo a seguir a outra relação é uma relação de ricochete, que não é séria. Servem apenas para esquecer e soltar-se.

And while he’s at it, he’ll realize while being in another woman’s arms how much he misses being around you. And if you act jealous, you will only drive him far away from you.

6. Deixe-o contactá-lo

You’ve typed the text and you’ve read it a hundred times to make sure it’s perfect and you still don’t know whether it’s a good idea to send it to him or not.

Well, don’t send it because it’s definitely a mistake. If you keep contacting him, you won’t give him a chance to miss you.

When you’re feeling down or in a crisis about contacting him, call a friend and ask for help or chat randomly about things just to keep your mind off of him.

Deixe-o pensar no que está a fazer e com quem está a sair.

Let him contact you first. And when he does, don’t show that you were waiting for him to contact you.

Seja educado e um pouco indiferente, mas não demasiado, até ver que a conversa dele está a ir noutra direção, a que mais lhe convém. Deixe-o fazer todo o trabalho.

7. Reforçar a sua auto-confiança

A coisa mais importante a que deve prestar atenção é trabalhar a sua confiança.

Se agir como se não tivesse calma ou se ficar stressada facilmente, o seu homem vai sentir isso e não vai querer fazer parte disso.

So, the best thing you could do for yourself is to work hard on boosting your self confidence because it’s the only way to tell him that you’re feeling awesome and nothing and no one can stop you from doing what you want.

Melhorar a sua auto-confiança ajudará a melhorar a sua vida e, com isso, as suas hipóteses de voltar a estar com o seu homem.

E pode ter a certeza de que ele não será capaz de resistir a dar outra oportunidade à vossa relação.

8. Ter a melhor aparência para se sentir melhor

Trabalhe o seu interior e o seu exterior. Tenha o melhor aspeto possível para se sentir melhor e ficará radiante de felicidade!

I’m sure you already know that guys are pretty much visual beings and you can never work too much on your appearance.

Buy some sexy outfit, spoil yourself with enchanting perfume and you’ll instantly feel ten times better.

You want to show him what a total catch you are and he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you.

O segredo é ocupar-se com coisas e passatempos que o inspirem e recarreguem as suas energias.

By doing what you’re passionate about, you will become a free-spirited, energetic woman who doesn’t need a man to make her happy. And that’s the message you want to send him.

You want to let him know that you want him but you don’t need him and there’s a huge difference between the two.

To get him back, you need to let him know that you’re having the time of your life on your own and if he wants to join you, he’s welcome. But if not, you’ll continue living your high life without him.

9. Don’t play games

Além disso, não deve jogar qualquer tipo de jogos com ele, porque não lhe trarão nada de bom.

Instead, they will confuse him and he’ll think that you’re just playing with his emotions. Whatever you say or do, do so in a calm manner.

Don’t let him think that you’re desperate about querer que ele volte because if you do, he’ll take you for granted.

You need him to realize that you’re serious and honest about everything you say and do and that your ulterior motives are pure.

Even if he doesn’t like something, don’t force him into it. You want to give him space as much as possible so that he doesn’t feel pressured to decide or do anything that he’s not ready for.

You want him to decide that he wants you back and you’ll achieve it by staying cool and avoiding playing games.

10. Estar disposto a comprometer-se

Se quiser ser bem sucedida na sua estratégia para o reconquistar, terá de estar disposta a aceitar compromissos e a fazer algumas mudanças.

O que aconteceu no passado fica no passado e agora há que concentrar-se no presente e no futuro.

É preciso corrigir as coisas que não estavam a funcionar e que foram as razões da vossa separação.

For example, if you weren’t giving him enough alone time for himself, you want to fix things by giving him space and letting him know that you understand his need for it.

But always have boundaries. Never approve of something that you’re not quite comfortable with because getting him back is not about repeating your past.

It’s about fixing things from your past and building new, stable foundations for your future.