10 maneras de recuperarle (sin parecer desesperada)

En cómo recuperarlo sin parecer desesperado o demasiado insistente?

Don’t worry, here are some tips and tricks that will help you accomplish this!

If you’re trying to get your ex back, you have to be very careful and smart while working on your plan.

Because when your pride gets hurt and when you want someone back so badly, it’s not unheard of to become a bit desperate, because you want it so much.

You’re not thinking clearly because you’ve been hurt and you definitely haven’t gotten over him yet, you still love him.

Y cuando hay amor de por medio, ninguno de nosotros piensa con claridad. Somos capaces de hacer todo tipo de locuras de las que ni siquiera somos conscientes.

But let’s say that there is another way to get him back, without looking desperate or needy.

If you go in the needy direction to make your plan come true, you’re only going to make things worse. When he sees that crazy and needy side of you, he’ll be glad that he broke up with you.

And we don’t want that. We want him to realize that he made the biggest mistake of his life, which he probably did but anyway…

10 MANERAS DE RECUPERARLE (SIN PARECER DESESPERADA)

1. Don’t disagree with him about the end of your relationship

Listen to what he’s got to say about why he broke up with you and don’t argue with him. It’s so much better to accept the truth.

Tómate un tiempo para reflexionar, asimilar lo que te ha dicho y aceptarlo. Puedes volver a hablar con él más tarde.

Demuéstrale que eres un adulto maduro y que aceptas si hiciste algo mal.

If you really did, apologize to him, and if you didn’t, talk to him normally without screaming and arguing but don’t try to change his mind.

If he sees how maturely you’re handling the whole situation, he might just change his mind after all.

2. Don’t beg him to come back

This is just desperate and as I said, you don’t want to be desperate.

Eres una mujer digna de un hombre que la trate como se merece.

So don’t ever beg him to get back with you. It will make you look needy and you will only confirm his decision is the right one.

A los hombres les gustan las mujeres que se sienten bien consigo mismas y lo demuestran. Es algo que les pone cachondos. La confianza les pone cachondos.

Así que, si quieres atraerle de nuevo, demuéstrale que estás bien y feliz contigo misma, pase lo que pase.

3. Admite que tú también eres responsable de vuestra ruptura

Nunca le eches la culpa de todo. Piensa en vuestra relación y aunque el resultado haya sido que él rompiera contigo, asume también tu parte de culpa.

Quizá algo que hiciste le hizo romper contigo. Reconócete a ti misma que no eres perfecta y que siempre hay más espacio para crecer y encontrar la forma de ser más madura.

If you also take the blame, he’ll see that you are reasonable and maybe he’ll give you another shot because you showed him that something has changed, unlike in the past.

4. Regla de no contacto

While the wound is still fresh, you have to play by the ‘no contact’ rule if you want a positive outcome later.

Also, when you just break up, you are angry and there is the possibility that you might say something to him that you will regret later on, something that you didn’t mean but anger made you say it. You mustn’t call or text him for at least four weeks.

Avoid hanging out with your mutual friends because you’ll probably run into him and don’t pretend you don’t know where he goes and then accidentally run into him on the street.

Si consigues evitar estas cosas y darle algo de espacio, cuando le mandes un mensaje o le llames puede que se alegre de saber de ti y se dé cuenta de que lo que hizo fue cometer un error.

5. No hay lugar para los celos

I know this is easier said than done, because let’s face it, it’s not easy to see your ex dating another woman shortly after you broke up.

Maybe when you see him with someone new you’ll think that there is no way you’ll ever tráelo de vuelta. But that doesn’t have to necessarily be true.

Normalmente, una relación que ocurre justo después de otra relación es un rebote, que no es serio. Sirven solo para que puedas olvidar y soltarte.

And while he’s at it, he’ll realize while being in another woman’s arms how much he misses being around you. And if you act jealous, you will only drive him far away from you.

6. Deja que se ponga en contacto contigo

You’ve typed the text and you’ve read it a hundred times to make sure it’s perfect and you still don’t know whether it’s a good idea to send it to him or not.

Well, don’t send it because it’s definitely a mistake. If you keep contacting him, you won’t give him a chance to miss you.

When you’re feeling down or in a crisis about contacting him, call a friend and ask for help or chat randomly about things just to keep your mind off of him.

Deja que se pregunte qué haces y con quién andas.

Let him contact you first. And when he does, don’t show that you were waiting for him to contact you.

Sé educado y un poco indiferente, pero no demasiado, hasta que veas que su conversación va en otra dirección, la que más te convenga. Déjale hacer todo el trabajo.

7. Aumenta la confianza en ti mismo

Lo más importante es trabajar la confianza en uno mismo.

Si actúas como si tuvieras cero frío o te estresas con facilidad, tu chico lo sentirá y no querrá formar parte de ello.

So, the best thing you could do for yourself is to work hard on boosting your self confidence because it’s the only way to tell him that you’re feeling awesome and nothing and no one can stop you from doing what you want.

Mejorar tu autoestima te ayudará a mejorar tu vida y con ella tus posibilidades de volver con tu hombre.

Y puedes estar segura de que no podrá resistirse a dar otra oportunidad a vuestra relación.

8. Luzca lo mejor posible para sentirse mejor

Trabaja tanto tu interior como tu exterior. Ponte guapo para sentirte guapo y rebosarás felicidad.

I’m sure you already know that guys are pretty much visual beings and you can never work too much on your appearance.

Buy some sexy outfit, spoil yourself with enchanting perfume and you’ll instantly feel ten times better.

You want to show him what a total catch you are and he won’t be able to take his eyes off of you.

La clave está en ocuparse de cosas y aficiones que le inspiren y recarguen su energía.

By doing what you’re passionate about, you will become a free-spirited, energetic woman who doesn’t need a man to make her happy. And that’s the message you want to send him.

You want to let him know that you want him but you don’t need him and there’s a huge difference between the two.

To get him back, you need to let him know that you’re having the time of your life on your own and if he wants to join you, he’s welcome. But if not, you’ll continue living your high life without him.

9. Don’t play games

Además, debes mantenerte alejado de cualquier tipo de juegos con él porque no te aportarán nada bueno.

Instead, they will confuse him and he’ll think that you’re just playing with his emotions. Whatever you say or do, do so in a calm manner.

Don’t let him think that you’re desperate about queriendo que vuelva because if you do, he’ll take you for granted.

You need him to realize that you’re serious and honest about everything you say and do and that your ulterior motives are pure.

Even if he doesn’t like something, don’t force him into it. You want to give him space as much as possible so that he doesn’t feel pressured to decide or do anything that he’s not ready for.

You want him to decide that he wants you back and you’ll achieve it by staying cool and avoiding playing games.

10. Estar dispuesto a transigir

Si quieres tener éxito en tu estrategia de cómo recuperarlo, tendrás que estar dispuesta a comprometerte y hacer algunos cambios.

Lo que ocurrió en el pasado se quedará en el pasado y ahora tienes que centrarte en el presente y el futuro.

Tienes que arreglar las cosas que no funcionaban y que fueron los motivos de vuestra ruptura en primer lugar.

For example, if you weren’t giving him enough alone time for himself, you want to fix things by giving him space and letting him know that you understand his need for it.

But always have boundaries. Never approve of something that you’re not quite comfortable with because getting him back is not about repeating your past.

It’s about fixing things from your past and building new, stable foundations for your future.