Confúcio disse uma vez: "A vida é realmente simples, mas nós insistimos em torná-la complicada".

Most of us complain how difficult and complicated life is, not realizing that we are the guilty ones. We’re the ones making our lives harder. Part of all the work, duties and chores we have to deal with on a daily basis, we tend to make even more complicated, with our minds becoming gradually disillusioned by negative external influences.

We hesitate and question our instincts, we’re afraid of stumbling and falling down when a new obstacle arises. Life is becoming harder and harder, and the only thing we’re doing is losing touch with who we really are and what we really need. Acknowledging the main reasons why you’re making your life harder than it has to be will be your first step in simplifying things and living a happier life.

1. Compara-se com outras pessoas

A comparação é o ladrão da alegria. Ter um modelo na vida que o ajude a desenvolver-se e a melhorar é sempre bom, mas comparar-se com pessoas que pensa serem melhores do que você só o faz sentir-se amargo e invejoso. A existência das redes sociais torna isto ainda mais difícil com todas estas formas irrealistas de viver, partilhadas com toda a gente com a melhor iluminação e o melhor filtro.

Not a single person in this world is the same, has the same life or chooses the exact same path in life, so don’t compare yourself to other people; instead, compare-se com a sua versão atual e utilize-a para se tornar melhor.

2. Participa na dramatização

Start talking only about the good things in people, in life. Even if you don’t feel like doing that – do it! Make yourself get used to that and slowly get out of all the drama circles around you. Imagine a life without gossip, verbal defamation.

Encourage people around you to do the same, and those who don’t support you in that can be ignored. Walk away from drama and incredible things will happen when you distanciar-se de toda essa negatividade e aqueles que a criam.

3. You’re too afraid

 

You don’t take risks and let your fears make decisions for you. The list of fears an average grown-up has can go on forever, like fear of failure, or rejection, of other people’s opinions, etc. Things like that will only hold you down and make you miss out on so many things in life.

Lembre-se que os medos só existem na tua menteE quanto mais acreditar nisso, mais os seus medos desaparecerão. Será mais confiante, correrá mais riscos e nunca deixará escapar uma oportunidade das suas mãos.

4. Preocupa-se muito com o que os outros pensam

People are talking behind your back? Don’t worry about that – worry about the moment they stop. There will always be people who like you and people who don’t; that’s just how life works. The sooner you realize that and stop caring about it, the sooner you’ll be happier and have better control over your life.

5. À espera de um sinal

Infelizmente, muitas pessoas estão à espera de um sinal de Deus, ou de outro ser espiritual, antes de decidirem tomar uma decisão ou dar um passo importante nas suas vidas. Tome a sua vida nas suas próprias mãos, encontre uma forma de tirar o máximo partido da sua vida, porque é melhor ajudar a moldar o destino do que ser governado por ele.

6. Espera que a vida seja sempre feliz

The world is a cruel place and full of suffering, heartbreaks, and loss. These things can affect your happiness, but you should not lose hope. Also having unrealistic expectations will make you end up disappointed. This doesn’t mean you should set the bar low – you should still have high standards for yourself and how others treat you, but there’s always a line where those high standards become excessive.

Life is about balance. ‘In suffering you can find great strength, in heartbreak, you can find resilience, and in loss you can find a renewed appreciation for life’.