Confucio disse una volta: "La vita è davvero semplice, ma noi ci ostiniamo a renderla complicata".

Most of us complain how difficult and complicated life is, not realizing that we are the guilty ones. We’re the ones making our lives harder. Part of all the work, duties and chores we have to deal with on a daily basis, we tend to make even more complicated, with our minds becoming gradually disillusioned by negative external influences.

We hesitate and question our instincts, we’re afraid of stumbling and falling down when a new obstacle arises. Life is becoming harder and harder, and the only thing we’re doing is losing touch with who we really are and what we really need. Acknowledging the main reasons why you’re making your life harder than it has to be will be your first step in simplifying things and living a happier life.

1. Ci si confronta con altre persone

Il confronto è il ladro della gioia. Avere un modello di vita che vi aiuti a svilupparvi e a migliorarvi è sempre una buona cosa, ma paragonarvi a persone che ritenete migliori di voi non fa altro che farvi sentire amareggiati e invidiosi. L'esistenza dei social media rende tutto questo ancora più difficile, con tutti questi modi di vivere irrealistici, condivisi con tutti con la migliore illuminazione e il miglior filtro.

Not a single person in this world is the same, has the same life or chooses the exact same path in life, so don’t compare yourself to other people; instead, confrontatevi con la versione attuale di voi stessi e usatela per migliorare.

2. Partecipate al dramma

Start talking only about the good things in people, in life. Even if you don’t feel like doing that – do it! Make yourself get used to that and slowly get out of all the drama circles around you. Imagine a life without gossip, verbal defamation.

Encourage people around you to do the same, and those who don’t support you in that can be ignored. Walk away from drama and incredible things will happen when you allontanarsi da tutta la negatività e coloro che lo creano.

3. You’re too afraid

 

You don’t take risks and let your fears make decisions for you. The list of fears an average grown-up has can go on forever, like fear of failure, or rejection, of other people’s opinions, etc. Things like that will only hold you down and make you miss out on so many things in life.

Ricordate che le paure esistono solo nella vostra mentee più ci credete, più le vostre paure scompariranno. Sarete più sicuri di voi stessi, correrete più rischi e non vi lascerete mai sfuggire un'occasione.

4. Vi preoccupate molto di ciò che pensano gli altri

People are talking behind your back? Don’t worry about that – worry about the moment they stop. There will always be people who like you and people who don’t; that’s just how life works. The sooner you realize that and stop caring about it, the sooner you’ll be happier and have better control over your life.

5. In attesa di un segnale

Purtroppo, molte persone aspettano un segno da Dio, o da qualche altro essere spirituale, prima di prendere una decisione o una mossa importante nella loro vita. Prendete in mano la vostra vita, trovate un modo per trarne il meglio, perché è meglio contribuire a plasmare il destino che esserne governati.

6. Vi aspettate che la vita sia sempre felice

The world is a cruel place and full of suffering, heartbreaks, and loss. These things can affect your happiness, but you should not lose hope. Also having unrealistic expectations will make you end up disappointed. This doesn’t mean you should set the bar low – you should still have high standards for yourself and how others treat you, but there’s always a line where those high standards become excessive.

Life is about balance. ‘In suffering you can find great strength, in heartbreak, you can find resilience, and in loss you can find a renewed appreciation for life’.