6 Razões surpreendentes pelas quais acabas sempre por ser uma quase-namorada
Being an “almost girlfriend” sucks. It is really frustrating to wonder whether things will go in the right direction or you’ll end up in an “quase relação” every single time you meet a great guy.
É uma treta quando temos de estar sempre a pensar no nosso estado de relacionamento, porque isso mata toda a alegria. E ninguém merece viver com medo de ser rejeitado. Ninguém merece viver com falsas esperanças para depois perceber que as coisas não são como se pensava.
There are endless reasons for this phenomenon, and sometimes it’s kind of your fault. Here are 6 reasons that will help you understand why you always end up being an almost girlfriend and never the real deal.
1. You’re too yearning
You can’t stop thinking about him, and you do everything in your power to show him. If he sees that you’re all about him, he might get confused and even scared of you.
Mesmo que esteja muito, muito interessado na pessoa, nunca é uma boa ideia sobrecarregá-la com o seu afeto. A melhor opção é mostrar o seu afeto de uma forma mais subtil.
Os homens têm geralmente medo das emoções e, se lhes dermos demasiadas emoções, eles acabam por fugir porque não as conseguem digerir. É por isso que mudam de ideias em relação a si de repente.
2. You’re not giving him space
If you’re constantly texting him and calling when he doesn’t text you back, he will feel like you’re forcing him to act the way you want him to. If a guy senses that you’re too into his personal space, he will run for his life.
You should always make sure to give him some space, so that he can recharge himself. Even if he doesn’t text you immediately, there’s no need to freak out about it.
If you do freak out, things will only get worse, and from a potential girlfriend you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend. Don’t let that happen.
3. Não vê os sinais de alerta
Sometimes a guy is clearly showing that he’s not interested in you, but you’re too infatuated to realize it. If he’s constantly making excuses, doesn’t have time for you or all of a sudden goes on multiple trips, maybe he is trying to tell you that he doesn’t want any kind of a relationship with you.
If you’re head over heels for him, you might start making excuses for his behavior, and that way, you’ll miss the red flags that were in front of you this whole time. Always have your eyes wide open, and believe what you see.
4. You’re too compliant
If you let him do whatever he wants and however he wants it, you’ll most surely not get what YOU want. It is okay to give him some space for himself, but you shouldn’t let him delete you from his priority list.
Se jogar jogos de vídeo, sair com os amigos ou beber cerveja nos bares são as suas prioridades número um, tu passas imediatamente a ser a sua segunda escolha. Passas a ser uma quase namorada porque foste demasiado complacente.
Tenha sempre limites. Nunca deixe que o tratem de forma diferente da que merece.
5. You’re beating around the bush
One day you overwhelm him with affection, and the day after you’re not sure if he’s the one you want to be with. If you’re not sure about what you want, he will notice it and act accordingly.
Also, if you’re one hundred percent sure that you want to be with him but you haven’t shown him, he might start dating others as well because he’s not sure about your intentions.
Se queres estar com ele, tens de o dizer em voz alta, para que ele saiba que és a pessoa certa.
Se o fizer, as hipóteses de ser uma quase namorada diminuirão significativamente.
6. Escolhe os tipos errados
Maybe you choose someone who is far away from being your equivalent, and you realize it too late. If you’re a creative soul, you can never function with someone who is too conservative or reserved.
You should choose your potential partners wisely because if you don’t, there’s a chance that you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend without even knowing why. You shouldn’t be too picky either.
It’s okay to give a chance to everyone, but your heart is the one which will choose the right one.
