6 ragioni sconvolgenti per cui si finisce sempre per essere una quasi-fidanzata
Being an “almost girlfriend” sucks. It is really frustrating to wonder whether things will go in the right direction or you’ll end up in an “quasi relazione” every single time you meet a great guy.
È uno schifo quando si deve sempre contemplare il proprio stato di relazione, perché uccide tutta la gioia. E nessuno merita di vivere nella paura di essere rifiutato. Nessuno merita di vivere in una falsa speranza per poi rendersi conto che le cose non sono come si pensava che fossero.
There are endless reasons for this phenomenon, and sometimes it’s kind of your fault. Here are 6 reasons that will help you understand why you always end up being an almost girlfriend and never the real deal.
1. You’re too yearning
You can’t stop thinking about him, and you do everything in your power to show him. If he sees that you’re all about him, he might get confused and even scared of you.
Anche se vi piace davvero tanto, non è mai una buona idea sommergerlo di affetto. La scelta migliore è mostrare il proprio affetto in modo più sottile.
Gli uomini in genere hanno paura delle emozioni e se gliene date troppe, finiranno per scappare perché non sono in grado di digerirle. Ecco perché cambiano idea su di voi all'improvviso.
2. You’re not giving him space
If you’re constantly texting him and calling when he doesn’t text you back, he will feel like you’re forcing him to act the way you want him to. If a guy senses that you’re too into his personal space, he will run for his life.
You should always make sure to give him some space, so that he can recharge himself. Even if he doesn’t text you immediately, there’s no need to freak out about it.
If you do freak out, things will only get worse, and from a potential girlfriend you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend. Don’t let that happen.
3. Non si notano le bandiere rosse
Sometimes a guy is clearly showing that he’s not interested in you, but you’re too infatuated to realize it. If he’s constantly making excuses, doesn’t have time for you or all of a sudden goes on multiple trips, maybe he is trying to tell you that he doesn’t want any kind of a relationship with you.
If you’re head over heels for him, you might start making excuses for his behavior, and that way, you’ll miss the red flags that were in front of you this whole time. Always have your eyes wide open, and believe what you see.
4. You’re too compliant
If you let him do whatever he wants and however he wants it, you’ll most surely not get what YOU want. It is okay to give him some space for himself, but you shouldn’t let him delete you from his priority list.
Se giocare ai videogiochi, uscire con gli amici o bere birra nei pub sono le sue priorità, voi diventate immediatamente la sua seconda scelta. Diventi una quasi-fidanzata perché sei stata troppo accondiscendente.
Abbiate sempre dei limiti. Non permettete mai che vi trattino in modo diverso da quello che meritate.
5. You’re beating around the bush
One day you overwhelm him with affection, and the day after you’re not sure if he’s the one you want to be with. If you’re not sure about what you want, he will notice it and act accordingly.
Also, if you’re one hundred percent sure that you want to be with him but you haven’t shown him, he might start dating others as well because he’s not sure about your intentions.
Se volete stare con lui, dovete dirlo ad alta voce, in modo che sappia che siete il vero affare.
Se lo fate, le possibilità di essere una quasi-fidanzata diminuiranno notevolmente.
6. Scegliete i ragazzi sbagliati
Maybe you choose someone who is far away from being your equivalent, and you realize it too late. If you’re a creative soul, you can never function with someone who is too conservative or reserved.
You should choose your potential partners wisely because if you don’t, there’s a chance that you’ll end up being an almost girlfriend without even knowing why. You shouldn’t be too picky either.
It’s okay to give a chance to everyone, but your heart is the one which will choose the right one.
