6 sinais de que ele é apenas um conserto temporário, mas não a cura para a sua fragilidade
Para algumas pessoas, entrar numa nova relação depois de sofrer um desgosto de amor devastador é a coisa certa a fazer. E você é uma delas.
Ever since you’ve met this new guy you’re currently dating, it seems that you’ve forgotten all about your ex. Now, he is nothing more than a distant memory and you feel more alive than ever.
Detesto ser eu a rebentar a tua bolha, mas alguma vez te perguntaste a ti próprio se este homem é realmente o que precisas para te curares corretamente? Trata-se de um relação de ricochete que a faz sentir-se bem neste momento ou um homem que precisa para apagar as suas cicatrizes?
Será ele uma solução temporária ou uma cura permanente para a sua rutura emocional?
Well, we’re here to help you and to answer all of your questions. Here are 6 signs that your current boyfriend is not your healer, even though you’re enjoying being with him now.
1. Ele dá-te borboletas
There is no doubt about one thing—you’re head over heels for this guy. He gives you that butterfly feeling in your stomach every time he kisses you and you’re excited when you’re about to see him.
You can’t help yourself but constantly think about this man. You miss him when he’s not around and you have trouble sleeping, eating and daydreaming about him.
With him, you feel like you’re on top of the world and you have trouble breathing properly.
2. But he doesn’t make you calm
Por outro lado, ele não é o tipo de homem que traz paz à sua vida. Não é alguém cuja mão possas segurar, sem dizer uma palavra, durante toda a noite e sentir-te perfeitamente bem.
Este não é o homem que cura a sua loucura e drama e não é o homem que a pode acalmar. Em vez disso, tudo com ele é uma montanha-russa de emoções.
3. O sexo é ótimo
Quando se trata de sexo, tudo está para além dos vossos sonhos mais loucos. A atração física entre vocês os dois é espantosa e vocês fizeram clique desde o primeiro momento.
He is everything you’ve been looking for in a sexual partner and it seems that the two of you are perfectly compatible in the bedroom. The sex is never boring and you’re always experimenting with new things.
The best part is that he isn’t selfish when it comes to your pleasure. This man is ready to make all of your fantasies come true and never gives up until both of you are fully pleased.
4. Mas a comunicação é péssima
However, you can’t say that the communication outside the bedroom is on the same level as well. On the contrary, when you think about it honestly, there is really nothing you can talk to this guy about.
It’s not that he refuses to listen to you or that he has poor competências de comunicação – it’s just that you have little common ground. Or maybe you don’t feel comfortable opening up to him and exposing your vulnerabilities in front of him?
Claro que falam de coisas do dia a dia. Há alguma conversa de circunstância, mas raramente falam sobre as coisas profundas que vos incomodam.
You rarely talk to him about your broken parts, as if you’re afraid that he won’t cherish them enough. Or maybe you assume he wouldn’t understand you.
5. Desfruta do presente
Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean you’re ever bored next to this man. On the contrary, every minute you spend by his side is interesting and exciting.
When you’re together, you don’t think about the past or the future. You enjoy the present moment to the fullest.
6. But you don’t plan a future with him
Even though living like this sounds tempting, it’s time to ask yourself why you keep running from the idea of having a future next to this man. If you are honest enough, you’ll see that you can’t picture yourself growing old with him.
You can’t imagine the two of you when these initial butterflies fly away and when you get stuck in the rut of everyday life. If this is the case, one thing is clear—you’re in love but you don’t love ele.
