7 Traços comuns de pessoas manipuladoras
Manipulative people are all around us. By mastering the art of deception, we aren’t even able to spot them in a crowd, nor are we able to actually shield ourself from their mind games and the facade they put on their face for us to never know their true colors.
A sua natureza manipuladora e egoísta acaba sempre por passar despercebida. Apercebemo-nos demasiado tarde de que não passámos de uma marioneta para o manipulador da nossa vida nos controlar e fazer o que quer.
To help you out and to make sure that everyone understands how important it is to run away from these kinds of people, I’m giving you a few extremely common traits of manipulative people:
1. Apresentam um comportamento passivo-agressivo
Mais frequentemente do que não, pessoas manipuladoras are passive-aggressive. You won’t even know what went wrong and what happened and why they aren’t talking to you, they are just trying to get things their way.
Ser passivo-agressivo só tem dois resultados possíveis: o primeiro é ficar zangado com a pessoa pelo seu comportamento ou, em segundo lugar, o seu comportamento transformá-la-á numa vítima, e você irá correr e fazer tudo o que for necessário para corrigir a situação.
Em ambos os cenários, o manipulador está a conseguir o que queria de si.
2. Pressionam-no
A manipulative person will pressure you into thinking or doing things that you are not ready for. The things they are pressuring you into doing probably don’t have any benefits for them rather than a good time.
É cada vez mais frequente os homens pressionarem as mulheres para terem relações sexuais ou para terem uma determinada mentalidade que lhes agrade.
This also applies to your group of friends; if your ‘friend’ tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not a huge fan of, then tens um manipulador mesmo à tua frente.
3. Insultam-no a si e aos outros
It’s not the same as when you’re in a group of friends and you’re all joking around and making fun of each other in a joking way but a manipulative person takes it all to another level where you won’t even know what’s happening.
They’re rude and aggressive by nature and it doesn’t matter how emotional and fragile you might be, they won’t stop because of it.
A manipulator apparently thinks that it’s very cool to bring others down and make them feel miserable.
4. Nunca assumem a culpa
Algo muito especial na terra dos manipuladores é a forma como projectam os seus próprios defeitos nos outros sem se sentirem minimamente culpados por isso.
It’s just like all those times you did a project together with someone and if something failed they put the blame on you, even though you didn’t have anything to do with it.
They simply don’t know how to take the blame and deal with the consequences, they would rather fight all day and put the blame on someone else, even if the problem is really small.
5. Nunca ouviram falar de limites
As pessoas manipuladoras têm a necessidade de ultrapassar constantemente os limites das outras pessoas para se sentirem superiores. Para elas, o sucesso e a satisfação são muito mais importantes do que o bem-estar dos outros.
That’s why they simply don’t care if they are going to hurt someone while getting to their goal, as all they can see is the goal itself.
6. Induzem à culpa
Uma coisa que acontece muito frequentemente nas relações com manipuladores é que eles fazem com que a outra pessoa se sinta culpada por passar algum tempo sozinha ou simplesmente por se afastar durante algum tempo, porque é cansativo.
If your boyfriend is a manipulator, he will make you feel guilty for going out with your girlfriends and he’ll tell you that you love them more than him or that you don’t care about him at all or maybe even that you are never even there for him.
7. Moldam a verdade em seu benefício
Well, a manipulator will tell you the truth, but… is it all the complete truth? No. Manipulators tend to tell you a half-truth that benefits them better for whatever reason.
The weirdest thing about it is that they don’t even think of their behavior as bad so they continue.
In their world, it’s better to mold the truth than to tell a straight-up lie—but let’s be honest, it’s kind of the same thing in the end.
