7 tratti comuni delle persone manipolatrici
Manipulative people are all around us. By mastering the art of deception, we aren’t even able to spot them in a crowd, nor are we able to actually shield ourself from their mind games and the facade they put on their face for us to never know their true colors.
La loro natura manipolatrice ed egoista finisce sempre per passare inosservata. Ci rendiamo conto troppo tardi che non siamo stati altro che una marionetta per il manipolatore della nostra vita, che ci controlla e fa quello che vuole.
To help you out and to make sure that everyone understands how important it is to run away from these kinds of people, I’m giving you a few extremely common traits of manipulative people:
1. Mostrano un comportamento passivo-aggressivo
Il più delle volte, persone manipolatrici are passive-aggressive. You won’t even know what went wrong and what happened and why they aren’t talking to you, they are just trying to get things their way.
Essere passivi-aggressivi ha solo due risultati possibili: il primo è che vi arrabbiate con loro per il loro comportamento o, in secondo luogo, il loro comportamento li trasformerà in una vittima per cui correrete a fare tutto il necessario per rimettere a posto la situazione.
In entrambi gli scenari, il manipolatore sta ottenendo da voi ciò che voleva.
2. Vi faranno pressione
A manipulative person will pressure you into thinking or doing things that you are not ready for. The things they are pressuring you into doing probably don’t have any benefits for them rather than a good time.
Capita sempre più spesso che gli uomini facciano pressione sulle donne affinché facciano sesso o abbiano una certa mentalità che li attrae.
This also applies to your group of friends; if your ‘friend’ tries to pressure you into doing something you’re not a huge fan of, then avete un manipolatore proprio di fronte a voi.
3. Insultano voi e gli altri
It’s not the same as when you’re in a group of friends and you’re all joking around and making fun of each other in a joking way but a manipulative person takes it all to another level where you won’t even know what’s happening.
They’re rude and aggressive by nature and it doesn’t matter how emotional and fragile you might be, they won’t stop because of it.
A manipulator apparently thinks that it’s very cool to bring others down and make them feel miserable.
4. Non si assumono mai la colpa
Una cosa molto speciale nella terra dei manipolatori è il modo in cui proiettano le proprie colpe su qualcun altro senza sentirsi nemmeno un po' in colpa.
It’s just like all those times you did a project together with someone and if something failed they put the blame on you, even though you didn’t have anything to do with it.
They simply don’t know how to take the blame and deal with the consequences, they would rather fight all day and put the blame on someone else, even if the problem is really small.
5. Non hanno mai sentito parlare di confini
Le persone manipolative hanno l'impulso di oltrepassare costantemente i limiti degli altri per sentirsi superiori. Il successo e la soddisfazione sono molto più importanti ai loro occhi del benessere degli altri.
That’s why they simply don’t care if they are going to hurt someone while getting to their goal, as all they can see is the goal itself.
6. Inducono il senso di colpa
Una cosa che accade molto spesso nelle relazioni con i manipolatori è che questi fanno sentire l'altra persona in colpa per essersi presa del tempo da sola o semplicemente per essersi allontanata per un po', perché la situazione diventa estenuante.
If your boyfriend is a manipulator, he will make you feel guilty for going out with your girlfriends and he’ll tell you that you love them more than him or that you don’t care about him at all or maybe even that you are never even there for him.
7. Modellano la verità a loro vantaggio
Well, a manipulator will tell you the truth, but… is it all the complete truth? No. Manipulators tend to tell you a half-truth that benefits them better for whatever reason.
The weirdest thing about it is that they don’t even think of their behavior as bad so they continue.
In their world, it’s better to mold the truth than to tell a straight-up lie—but let’s be honest, it’s kind of the same thing in the end.
