Most women don’t really know that they are stuck in toxic relationships. They think that their o parceiro está a comportar-se mal toward them because of some crisis he has and that he will get back on track again. But unfortunately that never happens. When you meet a toxic man, he will act charming and be the world’s best boyfriend. He will make you believe that he is everything that you need and that you can’t find a better match than him. The catch is that every toxic man is a big-time player and he knows how to deceive a girl into falling for him.

Mas quando a porta se fecha e começam a viver juntos como um casal, começa a verdadeira agonia. Desde o gaslighting, a depreciação, a desvalorização e a mentira até coisas mais graves como a violência doméstica e emocional. E sabe o que é pior? Todas as mulheres presas numa relação destas pensam que a culpa de tudo foi dela. Não é assim tão difícil pensar dessa forma quando se está convencida de que não se é digna e de que não se é capaz de fazer grandes coisas.

Existem alguns hábitos comuns a todas as mulheres presas em relações tóxicas, por isso sugiro que continue a ler e descubra mais sobre eles.

1. Estão a chorar mais do que o habitual

Women stuck in toxic relationships need to have some way to blow off steam. That’s why most of them cry when nobody sees them. It can be while they are doing the dishes, driving home from work or taking a shower. That is their way of letting all the toxicity get out of them and feel better—even for a moment. They don’t want anyone to know about that, so they always do their crying while nobody is watching. In fact, they are so ashamed of their relationship that the last thing they want to explain are all those tears that are coming down their face.

2. Estão a mentir a toda a gente que têm relações saudáveis

I know that you don’t want to explain to others why you are having problems in your marriage but if you try to make them believe in something you don’t believe, they will soon realize that you are lying. Also, if people ask you if everything is okay between you and your partner, it is a sign that they felt that something is not right. They are probably asking you for more details because they are trying to help you, but there are also people who will act as your friends while in fact, they are nothing more than bad people who just like to stab their noses into other people’s lives.

3. They don’t contact their family and friends

When you are stuck in a toxic relationship, it is very hard to maintain the same contact with your family and friends. That’s why most women who experience this kind of relationship lose contact with their friends and family, always finding excuses for not being in family gatherings or some parties. The truth is that they would really love to mingle but their toxic partners don’t allow that. These toxic partners want to isolate their women so they could easily control them. They tell their victims so many lies about love and respect and those women feel remorse for not spending time with their partners, so they try to be with them as much as they can.

4. Pensam em deixar os seus parceiros

When you are stuck in a toxic relationship, you want to escape it as soon as possible. That’s why all those women think about leaving their partners and finding the peace they deserve. But the bad thing is that most of them don’t have enough courage to do that since they were convinced that they can’t succeed on their own. They think that once they leave their toxic man, they won’t be able to have a decent life because of their high level of addiction to them. The thing that can make them change their minds is severe domestic or emotional violence where they have to run to save their bare lives.

5. Sentem-se culpados de tudo o que lhes acontece de mau

O principal problema das relações tóxicas é que o parceiro abusivo convence a vítima de que ela é culpada de tudo o que de mau lhe aconteceu. Não importa se ele lhe bate ou a magoa de alguma forma, ele dirá que foi ela que o obrigou a fazer isso. Ele fará tudo para que ela se sinta mal consigo própria, pensando que mereceu todas as coisas más que lhe aconteceram. Esta forma de gaslighting é o que a maioria das mulheres passa em relações tóxicas e é preciso muito tempo e coragem para se libertarem de homens assim.

6. They don’t remember when was the last time they smiled

Uma vez que as mulheres presas neste tipo de relação são tristes, é muito difícil para elas encontrarem alguma felicidade e sorrirem com coisas que os outros sorriem diariamente. Elas são espancado até à morte emocionalNão têm o mínimo de energia para recuperar as suas vidas antigas. O que pensam constantemente é em formas de escapar a uma relação destas e de se salvarem de uma vida miserável. Se houver alguém que lhes possa dar algum apoio, é mais fácil atingirem os seus objectivos. Mas se ficarem sozinhas, é muito difícil encontrar o caminho certo para uma vida feliz.

7. Arranjam desculpas para os seus parceiros abusivos

Even if some of their friends see that they have been abused by their partners, they won’t admit that. The main reason for that is shame—they simply can’t accept the fact that they are living a life like that even if they dreamed of something different. That’s why they will always say to their friends that things just look worse than they really are and that there is no need to worry about them. Maybe they look good from the outside, but they are falling apart from the inside. They simply don’t understand that people are not blind and that it is just a matter of time when the real truth will be revealed.