7 razões pelas quais atrai homens emocionalmente danificados

Há muitas maneiras de alguém ficar emocionalmente afetado.

Maybe even you, without knowing, have done something that could’ve hurt someone so bad as to damage them for life.

Até mesmo o friend-zoning pode significar que uma pessoa ficou de coração partido e magoada.

But we’re not here to talk about that, right? We’re here to figure out why YOU, as a mulher feliz, independente e carinhosa, are attracting these men into your life. So I’m giving you five possible reasons for that:

1. Precisas de uma relação

Há uma grande diferença entre QUERER e PRECISAR de um parceiro na sua vida.

If you NEED a relationship to actually be happy, it’s doomed to fail. To change this, you’ll have to work on yourself.

Devote your time to all the people around you who are always there and go to a support group whenever you’re feeling down. Invest in your own happiness.

Take a trip by yourself! Why not? You don’t need a partner to finally see the world around you.

And then, when you’re happy and you want to share that happiness with someone, you’ll choose the right guy.

2. You’re insecure

Na minha opinião, as pessoas que têm uma baixa autoestima têm tendência para se estabelecerem com homens que apresentam estes maus comportamentos. Quem é que a convenceu de que esse tipo de comportamento é correto?

Ninguém deve sofrer desta maneira! E também, tu és fantástica.

Saiam e mostrem-no ao mundo. Se tem um elevado respeito por si próprioUm homem abusivo e danificado só vai fugir de si.

3. You don’t know any other type of man

Todos os seus parceiros tiveram um comportamento abusivo? Tudo o que fizeram foi deitá-la abaixo e fazê-la sentir-se insegura, talvez até mais do que já era?

You’re stuck in a pattern that cannot be changed – or at least that’s what you think. But hey, it can be changed.

You need to stop considering this behavior as love. If someone tells you that you’re not worthy of anything more, they are bad-ass liars, so stay away from these kinds of people at any cost!

4. You don’t want to commit

This can happen even to the best of us. You want to be with someone who’ll soon be out of your life because it’s much safer than to be with someone who’s worth fighting for and someone who’s worth loving.

You don’t want them to get hurt, so you take someone who’s already damaged because you know that it will soon be over. But this leads to you getting hurt, you know?

Being a part of such an awful relationship can only make you feel bad because it doesn’t mean anything to either one of you. Just be aware of it next time.

Sometimes it’s much easier and less painful if you give yourself time to think about this, rather than just run to the next disaster.

5. You don’t want to feel lonely

Esta pode, de facto, desencadear problemas ainda maiores. Não querer ficar sozinho com os seus pensamentos pode levar a decisões horríveis no que diz respeito à sua escolha de parceiro e à forma como encara as relações românticas.

Being alone has some wonderful benefits, though! It’s not only dark thoughts and loneliness. Being alone makes you fall in love with yourself and appreciate every second of that alone time you have.

6. Pensa que o merece

Porquê? Porque é que alguém pensaria que merece um bastardo abusivo e narcisista que não tem nada para oferecer numa relação a não ser corações partidos e lágrimas?

Maybe you’ve broken someone’s heart before and you want to know what it’s like and you think that this is what you deserve? But no, wait, slow down!

You don’t. No one deserves this. Just be brave enough to forgive yourself for that.

Sometimes, if it wasn’t your intention to hurt them, it isn’t your fault que a pessoa está quebrada. You don’t need to be with someone who will intentionally hurt you.

Nunca merecerás algo tão horrível como isso.

7. Isn’t everyone damaged?

This mindset won’t get you anywhere. Even if we all experience a broken heart, it doesn’t mean it’ll leave us emotionally unattached and damaged!

Eu fui quebrado. Pronto, já o disse. Tive tantos parceiros danificados na minha vida que pensei que os podia curar só porque pensava que ser danificado era uma coisa normal.

But it’s not. Damaged is only someone who lets himself be damaged or someone who doesn’t want to work on themselves to heal properly, so they’ll go around and find someone who’ll do the healing for them.

They find a victim and the rest? Well, the rest you already know. It won’t make anyone happy, I promise you this.

Love and smile like you’ve never experienced brokenness before because that’ll mean that you’re a lovely soul, a brave and strong woman who can handle anything that life throws at her! And about those damaged men?

I think that you’ve had enough of them to know what they’re like, so just walk away from them.

You can’t heal them. Focus on healing yourself. And love yourself enough to never fall for an abusive, damaged bastard!