7 razones por las que atraes a hombres emocionalmente dañados

Hay muchas formas de que alguien sufra daños emocionales.

Maybe even you, without knowing, have done something that could’ve hurt someone so bad as to damage them for life.

Incluso el friend-zoning puede significar que una persona quede con el corazón roto y dañada.

But we’re not here to talk about that, right? We’re here to figure out why YOU, as a mujer feliz, independiente y cariñosa, are attracting these men into your life. So I’m giving you five possible reasons for that:

1. NECESITAS una relación

Hay una gran diferencia entre QUERER y NECESITAR una pareja en tu vida.

If you NEED a relationship to actually be happy, it’s doomed to fail. To change this, you’ll have to work on yourself.

Devote your time to all the people around you who are always there and go to a support group whenever you’re feeling down. Invest in your own happiness.

Take a trip by yourself! Why not? You don’t need a partner to finally see the world around you.

And then, when you’re happy and you want to share that happiness with someone, you’ll choose the right guy.

2. You’re insecure

En mi opinión, las personas que tienen baja autoestima tienden a establecerse con hombres que muestran estos malos comportamientos. ¿Quién te ha convencido de que ese tipo de comportamiento está bien?

¡Nadie debería sufrir de esta manera! Y además, eres increíble.

Sal y enséñaselo al mundo. Si tienes una gran autoestima...un hombre abusivo y dañado sólo huirá de ti.

3. You don’t know any other type of man

¿Todas tus parejas mostraron un comportamiento abusivo? ¿Lo único que hicieron fue hundirte y hacerte sentir insegura, tal vez incluso más de lo que ya estabas?

You’re stuck in a pattern that cannot be changed – or at least that’s what you think. But hey, it can be changed.

You need to stop considering this behavior as love. If someone tells you that you’re not worthy of anything more, they are bad-ass liars, so stay away from these kinds of people at any cost!

4. You don’t want to commit

This can happen even to the best of us. You want to be with someone who’ll soon be out of your life because it’s much safer than to be with someone who’s worth fighting for and someone who’s worth loving.

You don’t want them to get hurt, so you take someone who’s already damaged because you know that it will soon be over. But this leads to you getting hurt, you know?

Being a part of such an awful relationship can only make you feel bad because it doesn’t mean anything to either one of you. Just be aware of it next time.

Sometimes it’s much easier and less painful if you give yourself time to think about this, rather than just run to the next disaster.

5. You don’t want to feel lonely

Esto puede desencadenar problemas aún mayores. No querer estar a solas con tus pensamientos puede llevarte a tomar decisiones horribles sobre tu elección de pareja y tu forma de ver las relaciones románticas.

Being alone has some wonderful benefits, though! It’s not only dark thoughts and loneliness. Being alone makes you fall in love with yourself and appreciate every second of that alone time you have.

6. Crees que te lo mereces

¿Por qué? ¿Por qué alguien pensaría que merece a un bastardo abusivo y narcisista que no tiene nada que ofrecer en una relación más que corazones rotos y lágrimas?

Maybe you’ve broken someone’s heart before and you want to know what it’s like and you think that this is what you deserve? But no, wait, slow down!

You don’t. No one deserves this. Just be brave enough to forgive yourself for that.

Sometimes, if it wasn’t your intention to hurt them, it isn’t your fault que la persona está rota. You don’t need to be with someone who will intentionally hurt you.

Nunca merecerás algo tan horrible como eso.

7. Isn’t everyone damaged?

This mindset won’t get you anywhere. Even if we all experience a broken heart, it doesn’t mean it’ll leave us emotionally unattached and damaged!

Me han roto. Ya está, lo he dicho. He tenido tantos compañeros dañados en mi vida que pensé que podría curarlos sólo porque pensaba que estar dañado era algo normal.

But it’s not. Damaged is only someone who lets himself be damaged or someone who doesn’t want to work on themselves to heal properly, so they’ll go around and find someone who’ll do the healing for them.

They find a victim and the rest? Well, the rest you already know. It won’t make anyone happy, I promise you this.

Love and smile like you’ve never experienced brokenness before because that’ll mean that you’re a lovely soul, a brave and strong woman who can handle anything that life throws at her! And about those damaged men?

I think that you’ve had enough of them to know what they’re like, so just walk away from them.

You can’t heal them. Focus on healing yourself. And love yourself enough to never fall for an abusive, damaged bastard!